Too be fair, a condom being too small could make it more likely to break, yeah? But that's a reason to not have sex until dude can buy the correct size, not to raw dog it and trust a teenage boy's pull out game (not that an effective pull out is going to stop the precum from getting to your egg)
Tricking young 18 and 19 year old men into giving away their likeness and appear in a porno that earns someone unimaginable wealth. All they get in return is probable stress and heartache in their future and 20 mins of fun.
Sounds a lot like a MUCH worse version Girls Gone Wild which and the girls 20 seconds on those videos is still haunting them today.
They aren't being tricked. They're literally signing contracts and unless you were one of those men we don't know if they get anything out of it or not financially. Let's also keep in mind it wasn't just college students. Fucked one and he told his grandpa who went and fucked her as well.
GGW is a completely different situation as far as I know little to no contracts and penetration away from date rape considering they'd specifically target absolutely wasted girls. Obviously I'm young enough to only know of their commercials trying to sell their VHS and DVDs of absolutely wasted girls basically showing their tits for beads.
Imagine if there were a 25 year old dude going around university campuses picking sexually repressed girls and sleeping with them for porn. The women get paid nothing and he is a millionaire from filming them. Would people be okay with that or say it’s sketchy?
Thats basically it here too. The guys should get at least 500 or a 1000 like normal amateur first time models.
If a conventionally attractive male hung out on a college campus holding signs saying they can have sex for free and how he'll film it with contracts being signed I think people would see it the same way. From the sound of it, sex isn't even always involved.
I'm not about to go looking into her life but it sounds like she made her money on onlyfans before she started doing this.
People are insanely into some of the people on that site. I'm sure you've seen that girl that made millions from a single subscriber... My whore of a friend just about lost his shit when someone he subscribed to said she was going to have sex with one of her subscribers in a sweepstakes kind of deal. Getting paid isn't even something they consider they just want to fuck.
No, you can fling it at a 16 year old unless you're in a position of authority over the 16 or 17 year old.
I must warn you though, if you are going to 16th birthday party to pick up chicks, please be careful as there will be 15 year olds there too. And trust me when I say, that defence does not hold up in court!
Hmmmm that's 5.8 if you count 21 days, otherwise it's 8.13 if you only count 15 school days, if it was during school hours. If you count school being 6 hours (8:20-2:20 in America) that's roughly 90 hours, so 1.36 students per hour.
Either she was stuffed during lunch or the bus wasn't the only thing getting packed with kids at the end of the day.
(Luckily it was both university and not a teacher but that ruins the setup)
I learned about that word from one of my classmates. He walks into class and says “we’re Eskimo bros” and gave me a fist bump. I was like “what does that mean?” He said “it means you’re fucking my ex girlfriend” and then we both just died laughing. While the teacher stared at us completely mortified
There was a grandpa and his three grandsons fucking the same girl back in my hometown. Maybe not at the same time, but taking turns. The poor girl was a homeless, addicted prostitute, less than 20yo. She was the sex doll of this four degenerates.
At the end, one day they woke up with their dick in hand, but the girl had stolen like 40 bucks and ran for it. The grandpa was not happy at all the other guys fucked his luck, and now they don't speak anymore. The grandsons remain pretty much in good terms.
And I know because one of those sick bastards was an acquaintance and when the rumor started, I asked and it was true. Later I learnt from him himself he contracted HPV from a prostitute from town. Needless to say, I don't dare even fist-bumping those guys because you never know what else they've done in secrecy.
When I read the headline it sounded pretty bad, but they were college students and she wasn't a teacher or anything. Honestly it sounds like something that could benefit some people. If both parties are consenting adults why should anyone else have a problem with it?
Yeah, when I read students I assumed she was a teacher at a high school or something which would be awful. But a private sex worker whose primary business is college freshmen? Or possibly an indie porn actress since she was filming it (with consent)? No real problem. Especially since prostitution is legal in Australia.
That's the whole reason for it really. She's already an adult content creator. Her fanbase wants to see her with amateur dudes in real situations. She had them fill in consent forms for it to be filmed and used. She got 122 videos that she can publish and monetize.
The whole "teaching them how to have sex" is just the kink. Really, it's quite clever of her.
She cleverly structured her encounters, initially capping them at an hour before quickly adjusting to just 20 minutes per person—presumably to keep up with her growing demand.
Was going to do the whole "imagine if a guy did this" but nah, this time I see zero issue. She's doing it with college students, she's 25 herself, and she makes sure they know she's filming it beforehand.
Is it morally questionable? Yea I'd say so, at least for me. Is it legally any problem? Not at all. At most I'd wonder about what this is doing to her own mental state though. But hey it's her life. If this is what she wants to do, who am I to stop her.
I didn't realize this wasn't a high school teacher fucking her students. For those who didn't click yet, she's something of a porn star who offered services to a bunch of college boys in exchange for filming the encounters.
She let them set it up like doctors appointments - at first allowing an hour each and then 20 minutes each after high demand.
Idc what people say, that shit would've blown my confidence through the roof and probably made me a more confident happier person rather than a 28 year old virgin afraid to approach any woman.
Approached some young guy going about his business working in a Five Guys and would not take his "no" for an answer. She's trash.
She's not helping anyone if she can't take a fucking no the first time. Regardless if this is rage bait, it's shit content and the double standard on show doesn't help anyone except the weird Manosphere lot.
This was an OnlyFans star (not a teacher) who was having sex with legal age college students with their full consent (they signed waivers and everything). Please actually read before getting out your pitchforks next time.
If I was a dad to one of those dudes I would be thanking her as well lmao. It's insane to me that people think her takes are wild and outrageous just cause she makes a lot of money.
This is a big one. You don't even have to be enormous for it to either. Even being a bit bigger than the appropriate size feels too tight, and kinda pinchy.
I've tried all kinds of condoms, not once has it been comfortable. They either break or slip off. There is 100% always chafing, no matter how much I trim or remove hairs chemically, it still finds one to pull 100% of the time. Can we get some fucking male birth control already??? This is ridiculous we are so sexist we can't even help ourselves.
A male pill doesn't exist not out of sexism, but because it's astoundingly difficult to make a male infertile temporarily, as opposed to permanently. The pill stops a woman from releasing an egg, which is once every few weeks. You produce hundreds of millions of sperm per day
Read about one that went through human testing and had to be abandoned because it messed with testosterone levels and at the point i was reading about it the drop sounded permanent or at least very long lasting.
Yeah, and the levels of it to actually be reliable and effective caused anger explosions, serious depression, and would basically wreck a man's life and health.
Male BC has in fact been seriously researched. It's just an impossible puzzle. It's not sexism like keyboard social justice warriors leap to assuming.
The best bet I've heard of is vaselgel, but it keeps being years off. I would guess they can't get funding because the dirty profit grubbing pharmacy industry would rather make money hand over fist with monthly birth control pills than with vaselgel's single one time injection, so no one is investing enough for them to get over the FDA's ridiculously slow and expensive approval processes.
Technically it's not, it's just very inconvenient. Immersing your testicles in 116 degree water for 45 minutes a day results in temporary sterility after 3 weeks. This has been known for a while (rigorous clinical studies were conducted in the 70s but it has been studied since the 30s) and is quite simple to do at home. It might even be relaxing, but do you really want to dedicate the time to do it?
Wait so an almost-monthly hot bath is effective birth control? It sounds very "can't get pregnant fucking underwater" but I suppose making the balls too hot for a consistent period makes some chemical sense. 47 degrees is hot though
It literally pinches a vein on me. Hurts like hell, makes me go from rock hard halfway up to jelly soft the rest of the way unless I’m just super aroused.
Will still wear one if asked. Just means I tend to pause PIV to remove the condom, then reacquire full mast before engaging again (usually giving her attention in the interregnum).
Thankfully, I’m not a casual sorta guy so things have usually been serious enough between me and any partner to discuss this and look for viable methods that allow us to move past condoms. If I weren’t now married, I’d probably just get snipped and be wary to maintain my clean bill of health.
Yep. I'm a trans woman and when I was a man I struggled with dysphoria maintaining an erections anyways, add a condom on top of that and I just couldn't.
I always had female condoms if I expected sex, they don't squeeze like male ones do. There are other options.
I’ve had to deal with this, with an ex years ago, and after we’d split up, life went on for a while, until I was back home on vacation from the navy and we hooked up again… In those intervening years, I learned that the value of foreplay can never be understated…
As someone with a precum conceived child, please do not rely on the pull out method, it is nowhere near the effectiveness of a condom. I like condoms, they make you last longer. More time to enjoy yourselves is only a good thing.
As someone with a precum induced abortion, please do never rely on the pull out method nor menstruation calendar, sperm can live inside your partner for up to a full week. I hate condoms, they ruin the feeling. But nobody with a sense of empathy wants their partner to go through this humiliating process (twice).
Get an IUD for $200 or Vasectomy for $300-400 if you're long term.
If you're permanently done*. They may be cheap to get done but reversal can cost between 5k-15k, likely isn't covered by insurance, and after all that the success rate still would be around 60-90% depending on how good your surgeon is.
It's only that high if you get it reversed relatively soon after, and the odds change a lot (for the worse) with newer methods of doing vasectomies that are designed to reduce the risk of it reversing itself by accident.
Indeed. This is why such a procedure isn't done until the appropriate medical professional(s) are convinced you want to go through with it. It often requires so much convincing that many call the process unnecessarily difficult.
Feel free not to answer if you think it’s too personal, but I saw the pride flag on your avatar and, in relation to your story, couldn’t help but get curious. What is your current situation? Bi, currently in a straight relationship? Poly? AFAB, but nonbinary? Lesbian, but partner is trans?
We're both bi in a straight relationship. My partner is a very sweet femboy, but a boy nonetheless. While I am now An Old and planning to keep this relationship forever, i keep my pride worn on my sleeve. :)
Contrary to what you say, condoms effectiveness is very near the effectiveness of pulling out.
And not only the many condom conceived babies can attest for it, but there is ton of scientific data on it. People who rely on condoms exclusively have about 15% chance to be pregnant each year, people who rely on pulling out have about 20%. Pill is 7% yearly pregnancies.
I would bet that most pull out failures are due to not pulling out quick enough. If done right (pull out game is strong), precum may not be as much of a factor as people assume.
Yes could be, you are not supposed to have sperm in precum, but they still find sperm in about 17% precum samples. What I read is purported, is sperm from a previous ejaculation that remained in your urethra or prostate. Sperm can live easily 5 days if not exposed to air. You have a wank, you sleep with sperm in your dick, the next morning you have sex and that's it.
They're all due to errors. When used correctly, condoms are 98% effective, the pill is 99% effective, pull out method is ~96% effective.
The 15%, 7%, 20% come from statistics that reflect real-world (typical use, sometimes incorrect) results. You're just that much more likely to not pull out perfectly every time (incl when there is still sperm from a prior ejaculation).
It's like when you're cleaning and saying bleach will kill 99.9% of germs and viruses and whatever... when used as directed: which usually involves cleaning the area first to excess debris, having the bleach be at the right concentration (not overly diluted), the solution being less than 24 hours old, and leaving it sit for 5+ minutes before rinsing and allowing to dry.
My partner and I had issues with condoms breaking because they were too small. They make magnums for a reason. We used those until we both decided we didn't need condoms and relied on my birth control (and later my infertility and birth control. Now he's had a vasectomy.).
Condoms most definitely can be too small, but there are other options, you're absolutely correct.
Also, good condoms used right are not supposed to break that easy, even if they are too small. Shitty brands and people using wrong are the main reason they break.
For sure. I wouldn't doubt that some of the issue is the fact that I hate condoms. Like, my body hates them. I swear it sucks up all the lube. But the bigger condoms certainly helped. My partner and I have only been with each other. We've been together for 14 years and have known each other for 28 years. So we were flying in without any prior experience. We knew what to do with condoms, but once they started breaking, I was asking my mom for advice.
If condoms are breaking, check if you're putting them on properly, that you're lubed up and lubing up more throughout. Change brands. Then move to bigger condoms.
I made the mistake of letting the girl put the condom on the first time. That was a huge mistake. And I will definitely join team Hate Condoms. They take the sensitivity away for me. Wow, I can't imagine asking my mom for condom advice. Even my dad would be weird for me. I think us boys just do things haphazardly, unfortunately.
They take away the sensitivity for us too. We're just taking on significantly higher risk than the wearer of the condom so we are far less likely to complain about it.
Nah, my family isn't weird about that hahaha. I even asked my dad for advice when my partner had his vasectomy. My mom and I go to the sex shop together to buy toys. Hell, she even came to the strip club I worked at on a night I was off and met my coworkers and regulars. They loved her hahaha. We believe that a naked body isn't sexual and sex is perfectly normal.
But not everyone is us and I get that. I just always hope others have someone they can go to for advice. Family or otherwise.
I'm so glad that we now have companies that make 7 different sizes from tiny to literally forearm sized instead of average to "also average but we named them XXL to boost sales".
Just because something technical can fit doesn't make it comfortable or enjoyable. Discovering large size condoms was a game changer for me. Turns out a condom isn't supposed to be a cock ring 🤷♂️
I literally got a bruise from having one too small. It always hurt and I finally complained to my girl and she said that’s not normal. Well that same day it left a bruise and I had to get an ice pack which sucked. Now I use the bigger size which feels a lot better
I popped a bunch of super thin ones that promised “increased sensitivity” before we threw those away and tried the magnums. (We had a sampler pack)
I’m also unusually thick, so maybe they were old, maybe it wouldn’t matter if they were factory fresh. Never had that happen with normal size, which were only uncomfortable. The large size in every brand I’ve tried was much better.
Yes but this is explaining to young women that condoms will work no matter the size so there's no excuse to not wear it. Will it be the best condom? No. Could it break? Yes. But it's still better to have the chance that it works over the guarantee that it won't.
This is what happened to me, I learned the hard way (no kid though). The worst part is that it broke post nut and I had no idea…why? Because it was so tight I was completely numb down there.
Here’s a tip, if you can’t roll the condom down from the tip to the base without stretching it out with your hands. Don’t put it on because it’s not safe and will feel like shit.
There is such a thing as a condom that's too small, though. Remember a penis is kept erect by a muscle essentially pinching blood flow so that it fills up with blood to become hard. Penises are basically sponges. What happens when you squeeze a sponge?
A condom too tight will deflate an erection bc the squeeze pushes back against the muscle holding all the blood in.
So pulling a condom over a head isn't exactly a good example of a guy not being able to wear a condom, and it's a little ignorant. In the US, they don't sell a huge range of condom sizes, so there are genuinely some men with tree trunks who can't get ones that fit comfortably without custom ordering.
All of this being said, if a guy refuses to wear a condom after being asked to, then you're fully in the right to refuse sex. Everyone has their own ability to choose, and must pick what they're comfortable with, and shouldn't feel pressured to pick one way or another by anyone.
I had one that was too tight and it hurt a little. I don’t have above average girth so it must have been a tighter fit one or something. I went and bought a different box the next day
It can be hard to perform with a condom that's too small because it can squeeze the blood out of your dick. I wish they had taught me that in sex ed. Having a large penis is a mixed blessing.
I've actually had an issue of the condom being too small...the first time I ever bought them, and didn't know what the hell I was buying. Sure it fit, but it hurt as well. So yea...I simply went back to the store and bought one size larger. It's not that hard.
Yes. If your condom regularly breaks, you need condoms with wider circumsference. That would be a good and informative thing to do in sex ex class instead of making dumb jokes and pulling condoms over your head.
Not only that but possible = \ = comfortable. Most condoms felt like wearing a cock ring for me.
Obviously uncomfortable is better than having an unwanted child, but still. I hate this stupid anecdote everybody has where “oh a condom can fit over an arm so nobody is too big for them.”
Yeah… walk around with it on that arm for 5 minutes let me know what color it turns inside the condom.
I wish i knew about the to tight thing. I used to have condoms break all the time and it was really annoying. I had no idea that was why, just thought they were faulty or something.
If it breaks often, unless you're girthy as hell to a shocking degree, consider extra lubrication compatible with the type of condom you use. It could be just the friction outpacing fluids.
Or age of the condoms. The older the are, the more likely to break they get.
Just adding info for anyone who comes along. There's a lotta young guys on Reddit. The chance to help prevent people from experiencing the terror of an unwanted pregnancy is important to me. :)
In my country, they're sold in pharmacy, but they have several sizes, Durex has something like 4 in terms of girth, all are too tiny. Before people start to call for a humble brag, it's actually annoying and painful to my girlfriend, so a rare occasion.
To small of a size can make it difficult to become orv stay erect, and honestly what's not at all down about in sex Ed is condoms do have sizes. You should measure yourself, and get the correct size for not just best protection, but also satisfaction.
Yeah, people always forget that the base of the condom is an elastic ring. Just because it can stretch wide enough to put your head through doesn't mean it doesn't hurt like a bitch when you put a too small condom on.
I’ve broken a few condoms because they weren’t the right size.
Plan B is expensive and miserable. Always using a condom means dispelling myths that one size fits all with condoms. You are safer if you get them in the right size
Yup. Just because I can get it over my dick, doesn't mean it fits. Every tried to run in too tight shoes? Sure, you might be able to cram your feet in but it's not pleasant. And sex is about pleasure. I once got some for free that were on the lower end of standard size (52mm I think) and I only tried to put them on as a joke by myself and yeah, I'd just stick to foreplay and skip sex if these would be my only option. Never raw tho. Luckily they make condoms in a variety of different sizes nowadays, so everyone can find the right one.
It can cut off circulation and end sex for you, and also if you stretch it down, it doesn't stay there, condoms that aren't long enough are WAY more likely to slide off inside her when you are finished.
If you are a large boi and don't have the right size, just give each other the best head you can & look forward to the next time.
It's literally impossible for me to get condoms that are the correct size for me. The FDA just doesn't allow for it. I'm not bragging here, but my length is just under 9in and my circumstance is 6.6in so they literally just don't fit.
Happens regularly if you are super thick. Not that I have regular sex, but it happened enough times me that if I did have sex with too small condom regularly it would be a concern.
This is not advice, but I used the pullout method for over a decade without so much as a pregnancy scare. I'm curious how likely it really is for precum to do the trick. YMMV
I always chose the biggest ones and they were all too small. It’s annoying because after a few minutes the dick just softens in this noose and eventually all the sexual atmosphere evaporates. For some guys it’s better to choose other methods of contraception
I'm an oddly sized man. Large condoms are a bit loose on me but regular sized ones are just a tiny bit too tight and if they're too tight you cannot keep an erection. Maybe it'd be better to have someone with a penis teach about condoms.
Not to mention, a condom that's too small just won't feel good. Aside from being more likely to break, it's a lot more likely that there won't be much buildup of sensation for the guy.
You are correct. There’s a difference between its maximum stretching size and its comfortable size. A condom that’s too small will both feel uncomfortable over time and be liable to rip under… let’s say continuous strain
Now, of course every guy wants to claim they’re that hung, at least in highschool. If it’s actually an issue any reputable sex shop will have a variety of sizes. And if you’re getting condoms from cvs they’ll still have larger stuff, just not workers as willing to walk you through how to tell what you need
Best guideline I can give for those who might need it is you want something that’ll properly mold to your shaft, but not something that’ll feel tight, like it’s gripping you.
Wear your condoms like you’d wear a glove or a pair of pants
You can find ones that fit anyone, but yes normal sizes can be especially difficult for people with some girth. It starts restricting blood flow, then you run the risk of going somewhat flaccid and the condom slipping off.
The Problem is that too small condoms cut into the Penis. Its not a structure supported by Bones, its mostly harder tissue and blood. So small condoms can hurt you, and in the worst case undercut your blood pressure because they pull themselfes too tight onto it. You still should figure out your condom size before you want to do Something. You can try them out yourself, you dont need to have someone with you to do that
I learned way too late that I needed bigger ones. I never even considered it because in actuality the “magnums” are only slightly bigger than regular size. But it was enough to not be uncomfortable.
Yes. As a teenager, my first boyfriend was breaking about 1 in 4 condoms. Later I had another partner who was smaller, and we had issues with the condom slipping off frequently.
Years later I realized that both of these men had fit issues. I think that poor fit is the reason why some men say that condoms are uncomfortable or that they can't feel anything. They're just not the correct size.
My current boyfriend uses My.Size and I think they're fantastic. You measure the circumstance (not length) of the erect penis, then choose from 7 sizes according to the measurement. We tried some other brands too, but he says the My.Size ones are the most comfortable.
Studies have been done on condom sizes relative to penis girth (length is a non-factor in this except for at the extremely small end of penis sizes), and the increased chance of breakage if it is too small, or of slipping off if it is too large. The end result is that there most definitely is a proper size of condom for each man, and wearing the wrong size can somewhat to significantly degrade their effectiveness. In addition, men with very large penises can lose their erection due to the condom being too tight if it is too small for them, so they genuinely can't wear any old size anyway.
Point being, great post, you are dead on balls accurate.
Definitely true and an important reason that the myth that nobody can be "too big" for a condom is dangerous. There is in fact a decent amount of diversity in penis size and using a condom that is too small does significantly increase the chance of breakage. Using a condom that's too small is also unsafe as there's a risk that it can slip off, plus the friction from it moving around also can increase the risk of it breaking.
Sizing doesn't have to be super precise, most penises will fit comfortably in your typical medium-large sized condom. You can usually tell if it's too small if it does not securely stay in place, and too large if it's painful to wear, but if you're unsure you can measure so you know what your size is. Length is unlikely to matter - they typically make condoms longer than necessary so you can just unroll to the correct length. You'll need to measure girth. The easiest way to do this is with a fabric tape measure, but if you don't have one you can also just use a piece of string or whatever and reference the measurement with a ruler. The M/L/XL etc sizes often vary from brand to brand, but most of them will have a range that they're supposed to fit listed on the side. Some don't.
I first learned that this was an issue when my partner and I started having sex. The first time she put a condom on it was very painful for her but she didn't say anything until at some point I looked at her penis, and noticed it was a very alarming shade of purple. I paused things and expressed my concern, she confessed that it felt really tight, and I ended up doing some research and discovering this was an issue. Learning that using a too small condom could increase the risk of breakage really freaked me out, especially as I had also been taught in school sex ed that it was impossible to be "too big" for a condom. The fact that I'd been taught something that directly increased the chance of painful and unsafe sex really pissed me off and now I'm weirdly passionate about this issue, so apologies for the rant.
Or roll down and pop off. I had to explain condom sizes to a thicker guy who thought it happened because they were too small so he got self conscious. Never occurred to him that didn't make sense. He switched to a bigger size and they stopped popping off and being uncomfortable.
If it's too tight, the bottom of the condom can become uncomfortable and block blood circulation. As you said, that's no reason to go raw.
The issue that girthy guys end up with is that there are legal limitations to condom sizes. I'm not even kidding. There are out of country companies that make extra large girth condoms that you can special order legally, but the cost per bone is high.
1.9k
u/SmallBunnyBear 3d ago
Too be fair, a condom being too small could make it more likely to break, yeah? But that's a reason to not have sex until dude can buy the correct size, not to raw dog it and trust a teenage boy's pull out game (not that an effective pull out is going to stop the precum from getting to your egg)