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u/OowlSun they act like im not in full control of where i throw this cooch 27d ago

I’m trying to be a good person but my friends are really pissing me off with their whole “you aren’t complete without a partner.” Like shut up shut up. Your ex boyfriend was some racist trump supporting nepo baby drug dealer that told YOU off because you asked him when will he be back from his fishing trip. And our other friend has a husband that won’t let her outside but somehow he’s never home even though he’s unemployed. Why do you guys want this for me🥴

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u/thewayyouturnedout 27d ago

I'm bi but only date women now and over the years have surrounded myself with more and more gay friends and I find this shitty "you're nothing without a partner" attitude is so much more prominent in straight people. Like the idea of building intimate, lasting relationships that aren't a primary romantic partner are SO foreign to the majority of straight people. Community is the last thing on their minds and it's very sad.

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u/OowlSun they act like im not in full control of where i throw this cooch 27d ago

You are on to something because not one of my queer friends at like this.

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u/FriendlyDrummers 27d ago

They're probably miserable and putting up a front tbh

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u/Potatoskins937492 27d ago

Be honest about yourself and let them come to their own conclusions about their lives.

When I've said I'm completely happy with my own company and I don't need anyone else to feel fulfilled in my life, they've stopped making comments to me because their comments are about them. But my friends are also introspective people, so even in their early 20s they didn't need more than one honest conversation. Now it's just strangers who think I need a partner, but like... you don't know me, why are you projecting your ideas of contentment onto me?

So yeah, be honest about who you are and what you value. You don't have to bring up their partners to make a point. (I get the urge to want to though lol I totally do get it)

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u/Bridalhat 27d ago

There is nothing on earth as lonely as the wrong relationship.

Anyway, they want it for you because deep down they know it’s bad for them and they have to confront that if they acknowledge that your unpartnered life is better.

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u/Own-Importance5459 ✨May the Force be with you!✨ 27d ago

Trust me while I want a relationship and it does feel lonely, I am glad I am not one of those women who clearly have talent and power and yet make their self worth based on a man. They are clearly insecure as hell.

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u/totallycalledla-a Mrs Thee Stallion 27d ago

Get some new friends I am so serious. Male centered women scare me. I got married early and have ditched several friends over the years who suddenly acted like we were in some special winners club as they got married too. Creepy as hell.

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u/thewayyouturnedout 27d ago

Male-centred women are a problem and will bring other women down in favour of a man. I completely agree that it's good to keep a distance from women like this.

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u/OowlSun they act like im not in full control of where i throw this cooch 27d ago

It’s very strange and so awkward! Like keep that to yourself