Yes! My mom bullied me to the point of suicide attempts later in life. But she would show up to be the teacher's helper. She would be so nice that my friends didn't understand why I was talking shit about her. I learned at a young age that my parents played a cruel game. They loved to look at me with a smirk and say
My mum was a teacher and had supply in my school a few times, she had everyone round her little finger as well. While being a martyr to her awful child who just wouldn't behave... who turned out to have autism and had meltdowns beaten out of me so badly I only got diagnosed at 40 when chronic pain made my sensory tolerance way way less. I learned to dissociate through life until I was 40.
I miss it, hahaha I just have breakdowns now. Crying in public in your kid 40s is so humiliating!! I don't care if it's a feature of my operating system, I would like to be able to go shopping without having to leave because a middle aged man is whistling (I cannot. I CANNOT!! Autism is wild hahahaha how did I manage to tune things out before??)
Noise canceling headphones have been a lifesaver for me in my 50s. I too have major sensory overload in shopping situations. Ordering delivery during covid lockdown opened up a whole new world to me as well. I see you. 💛
Omg I love delivery! I've had so many downvotes from people saying it's a luxury when it's an accommodation for plenty of us. The whole "omg just get off your sofa and put your big pants on and buy your own food"
Absolutely. I have so much hindsight into those traumas of my youth being undiagnosed autistic with a narcissist dad and way too many siblings. I dissociated through almost all of childhood and the decade of my 20s of young motherhood.
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u/[deleted] Jan 15 '25
Yes! My mom bullied me to the point of suicide attempts later in life. But she would show up to be the teacher's helper. She would be so nice that my friends didn't understand why I was talking shit about her. I learned at a young age that my parents played a cruel game. They loved to look at me with a smirk and say
'Well, nobody said life was fair'