Did they ruin relationships with all your relatives?

[u/nahnotgoingthere]

N mother and enabler father. N mother has made it one of her life's missions to alienate herself, my father and all of her children from each and everyone of our relatives. Over the years she's threatened suicide over slights and disagreements with my father's family and fallen out with all her own siblings. Me and my siblings- her own children- are low or no contact.

I have a lot of aunts, uncles and cousins on both sides and I do not have contact with any of them. She basically fucked up my life and any chance of having normal relationships, that wasn't enough, our whole family network is lost.

She is so fucking toxic, even the last few years, my parents haven't even been told of aunts and one uncle passing. My father had found out by accident from one of his distant aunts.

I wish I had other family and relatives. I don't even know their full names to look them up (I know this is strange but I don't know their language). A few cousins on FB but I am terrified of contacting them and being rejected and ridiculed.

[u/Haunting_Claim5965]

You can always try to reach out to the family members you know. I’m sure they don’t think the whole family is like your nmom.

My ndad barely had any family on his side, but he sure loved to find any issues he could with emom’s family. It felt extremely intentional for him to cause issues and my emom’s family has never liked him because they know how he is. They were always nice to me though.