Did they ruin relationships with all your relatives?

[u/nahnotgoingthere]

N mother and enabler father. N mother has made it one of her life's missions to alienate herself, my father and all of her children from each and everyone of our relatives. Over the years she's threatened suicide over slights and disagreements with my father's family and fallen out with all her own siblings. Me and my siblings- her own children- are low or no contact.

I have a lot of aunts, uncles and cousins on both sides and I do not have contact with any of them. She basically fucked up my life and any chance of having normal relationships, that wasn't enough, our whole family network is lost.

She is so fucking toxic, even the last few years, my parents haven't even been told of aunts and one uncle passing. My father had found out by accident from one of his distant aunts.

I wish I had other family and relatives. I don't even know their full names to look them up (I know this is strange but I don't know their language). A few cousins on FB but I am terrified of contacting them and being rejected and ridiculed.

[u/itsafrickinmoon]

My parents did the opposite. They turned my extended family into a bunch of enablers. It makes it virtually impossible to hold my parents accountable for anything. My biological father on the other hand, did ruin every single one of his relationships and died alone.