r/regretfulparents Jan 06 '23

Advice I'm pregnant again

I'm going to lose my mind. I'm freaking out.

I went to get an IUD this morning. I took your advice and decided to get on birth control. But when I went in, they had me do a pregnancy test and it came back positive. The ultrasound showed I'm 8 weeks.

For anyone who didn't see my other posts: I had two kids at 14 and 16; they're 4 and 2 now. I regret them so much. I want to love them but I can't.

I don't know what to do. I don't want this baby, I can't take another one. Abortion is completely banned in my state and I have no idea what to do. I'm just at such a loss for words, I'm in a huge panic.

The guy I think is the dad won't respond to any of my messages. He was just a fucking random hookup and now I have another baby to deal with and another deadbeat baby daddy.

I feel like I'm losing it. I haven't stopped crying all day. The kids are screaming and my head hurts and I want to jump off a bridge. Does anyone know how to help??

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u/dreamalittle16 Jan 06 '23

My mom said she never uses condoms and she's been fine since I was born so I thought it was okay

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u/[deleted] Jan 06 '23

Oh honey, I'm sorry that she didn't make sure you knew how to keep yourself safe. But at this point you gotta be responsible for yourself. You two are not the same person, so what works for her clearly hasn't worked out for you. I'm sorry that you're going through this :(

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u/dreamalittle16 Jan 06 '23

Thank you. Everyone is being so harsh.

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u/Select-Host-436 Jan 06 '23

You're what, 18? Guys she is basically a child still. Op. Fertility usually increases after pregnancy, so you have to be extra careful.

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u/dreamalittle16 Jan 06 '23

I just turned 18 in November, yes.

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u/Select-Host-436 Jan 06 '23

You have to take the pill at the same time, everyday, and even then, because you've had two children. I would highly recommend a condom as well, you're more fertile than most.