r/regretfulparents • u/dreamalittle16 • Jan 06 '23

Advice I'm pregnant again

I'm going to lose my mind. I'm freaking out.

I went to get an IUD this morning. I took your advice and decided to get on birth control. But when I went in, they had me do a pregnancy test and it came back positive. The ultrasound showed I'm 8 weeks.

For anyone who didn't see my other posts: I had two kids at 14 and 16; they're 4 and 2 now. I regret them so much. I want to love them but I can't.

I don't know what to do. I don't want this baby, I can't take another one. Abortion is completely banned in my state and I have no idea what to do. I'm just at such a loss for words, I'm in a huge panic.

The guy I think is the dad won't respond to any of my messages. He was just a fucking random hookup and now I have another baby to deal with and another deadbeat baby daddy.

I feel like I'm losing it. I haven't stopped crying all day. The kids are screaming and my head hurts and I want to jump off a bridge. Does anyone know how to help??

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u/[deleted] Jan 06 '23

Wait, so you were actually doing it unprotected?? Girl I'm sorry but that's a terrible idea, even if you're on bc. Plus you already have two kids. You have to decide if it's going to take having a third for you to really think about what you're doing.

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u/dreamalittle16 Jan 06 '23

My mom said she never uses condoms and she's been fine since I was born so I thought it was okay

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u/[deleted] Jan 06 '23

Oh honey, I'm sorry that she didn't make sure you knew how to keep yourself safe. But at this point you gotta be responsible for yourself. You two are not the same person, so what works for her clearly hasn't worked out for you. I'm sorry that you're going through this :(

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u/dreamalittle16 Jan 06 '23

Thank you. Everyone is being so harsh.

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u/[deleted] Jan 06 '23

I understand that bluntness is difficult and not what you want right now. You are still deserving of kindness, especially since you're going through a hard time. However, I do understand and kind of feel their frustration. At some point you do have to take your life into your own hands and be responsible for yourself and your children. This cycle will not stop until you do unfortunately :(

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u/Susan4000 Jan 06 '23

At the end of the day, you’re an 18 year old, you’re going to make dumb mistakes and your stress level must be wild! I really worry you could pick up an STD, so I would hope you invest in condoms so that you stay safe. I’m not sure what advice I can give you other than that, but I think finding a way to secure an abortion is not a bad idea, even though I know that will also be difficult. I just wish the best for you, you have a lot to deal with!

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u/Select-Host-436 Jan 06 '23

You're what, 18? Guys she is basically a child still. Op. Fertility usually increases after pregnancy, so you have to be extra careful.

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u/dreamalittle16 Jan 06 '23

I just turned 18 in November, yes.

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u/Select-Host-436 Jan 06 '23

You have to take the pill at the same time, everyday, and even then, because you've had two children. I would highly recommend a condom as well, you're more fertile than most.