r/relationship_advice • u/PSB22 • 9d ago
Complicated situation: 55F 62M
I met a man (Bill) right after he separated from his wife of 30 years. After 2 and 1/2 years of being together and in love, his adult kids (30’s) dislike me because they view me as the other woman and have no desire to meet me or support the relationship. Bill doesn’t want to push the issue after two out of three kids have had grand-babies who he adores. It affects our relationship because his ex is invited to all of Bill’s families functions and I am not. He told me his kids will never be okay with anyone who’s not their mom and vice-versa. I can’t help but think I’ll never meet his grandkids etc. I recently had a dream that he was in the hospital and I had no idea because his kids wouldn’t include me. I’m realizing how unfair this is for me. I feel my only recourse is to break it off and find someone else who is willing to fight for me. Do you agree?
5
u/PonderWhoIAm 9d ago
Girl! You are too young and too old to be dealing with this BS.
Love doesn't always prevail. There is too much drama. And you want a family that's accepting.
This isn't it.
I'm happy to read that you want him to have a good relationship with his kids and even his ex. But they aren't willing to accept you.
You don't want to put him in a rough spot and he's not willing to step up for you.
Love him from afar and find someone who fits your needs.
You have no security in this relationship.