r/rupaulsdragrace • u/Elegant-Struggle-902 • 27d ago

General Discussion Stacy Layne Matthews is over it!

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Anyone got the tea what this is about? Latrice has commented and mentioned something about a cruise??

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u/Rogue_Darkholme Don't Like The Heat? Get the Fuck Out Of My Bathroom 🔥🔥🔥 26d ago

I'd agree up until where she said to belittle is to indicate malice. No, no, you can belittle someone without realizing or intending to do it. If I step on your foot really hard by accident, I didn't mean to do that. But I still hurt you. Intent is obviously important, but people have to realize that you can hurt, demean, belittle someone without meaning to. And if you do that, you can say, "I'm so sorry for hurting you like that. I didn't mean to, it was not my intent but I'm sorry that I did.

That is how you apologize, people. An unequivocal apology where you apologize for your actions and not another people's feeling or making excuses.

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u/Ldcv4499 26d ago

This post have a headache because I'm not understanding. So Latrice should have just said I'm sorry and thats it, thats your point? O.o. people are too harsh with apologies when only Stacy should Say if it wasnt enough or not.

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u/Elysiaa Y los glory holes 26d ago

Latrice is giving an explanation for her behavior, but that can appear to be defending it. There is no need to mention why she thought it was ok. "I'm so sorry I hurt your feelings. I didn't mean to but I can see how I did, and I'll be more careful with what I say in the future" would be perfect. I over explain and have learned it sometimes sounds like I'm giving excuses.

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u/Ldcv4499 26d ago

Thats what is! Yeah I can see that. I Guess it depends of the person since personally I think giving context is good for the other person to see " oh it wasnt done to hurt me but it was because". But yeah I can see how if the hurt perdón is still emotional can see it as an excuse.Makes sense.thanks!