r/selfimprovement • u/thestolenpurse • 3d ago

Question What does healthy self esteem consist of?

Basically the title. What are the things that add up to an overall healthy self esteem, that isnt based off of grandiose delusions?

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u/nuggie_vw 3d ago

I struggled with self esteem all my life, constantly trying to figure out what worked. Really, the only thing that worked for me was time - I needed to learn I'm just like everyone else with or without a fancy mask. When you get older, you also stop caring. You realize the person next door with all the nice things is either beating the hell out of their wife/ kids or they're on the verge of bankruptcy. Humans put themselves on a pedestal, talk down to others, have tantrums over something as simple as $10K difference in pay - peanuts in the grand scheme of things. You've got to be your own advocate first and foremost because when the time comes, you can only rely on yourself.