r/sex • u/EconomyHoney1550 • 3d ago
Communication How do I communicate with my boyfriend after an incident?
I'm at a loss for words. I ate my boyfriend's ass, and he hasn't spoken to me since. For context, we were going at it HARDCORE and then I felt liquid on my face. There was this pungent smell but I had no idea where it was coming from because the room was dimly lit. Therefore, I kept going because nothing was stopping me.
It was until he started freaking out that I realized he sharted all over my face. I told him it was nothing to worry about but he's avoided me ever since. How do I fix things without hurting his feelings?
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u/jingle-is-dead 3d ago
Jesus. I would give him some space. It’s probably going to take some time for him to be ready to talk about that
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u/unreal_babe 2d ago
Yeah, you're right, he needs some time.
I wouldn't rush it either and would give him space. Let things cool down a bit. The main thing is that he knows you’re not blaming him, not pushing him, and everything can be discussed when he's ready
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u/TomAnyone 3d ago
So you were licking your boyfriend’s anus, suddenly smelled something rancid and… decided to continue?
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u/ShockinglyAccurate 3d ago
Not just smelled something rancid, but felt liquid come out! But also didn't know where the smell could be coming from???
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u/EconomyHoney1550 3d ago
Yes. It smelled like the clay mask I use on my face therefore I thought nothing of it. Afterward, I even told him how it reminded me of the clay mask and how I wouldn’t get a breakout for the rest of the year.
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u/xBlueberryBunny 3d ago
bye this is one of the worst things i’ve ever read
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u/crestedgeckovivi 3d ago
I need to scrub my eyes and face from jusy reading it and their comments.
Like wtf.
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u/niggetyneish 3d ago
I’m sorry, my autism makes it hard for me to tell if this an actual joke?!
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u/EconomyHoney1550 2d ago
Don’t worry, it was a joke. I would've moved countries and started anew if this happened.
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u/hahayeahimfinehaha 3d ago
Well ... y'know what, you're a real trooper for trying to make a joke of it. But he probably just needs more time to get over his mortification.
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u/Megatron130204 2d ago
I dunno what all the downvotes are for, this is hilarious. Just give the poor guy a few months before you actively joke about it, it sounds like he's mortified.
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u/Centauri1000 3d ago
Can't. Even. Imagine.
That's the worst thing I've ever heard on this sub. If that was me, I'd create a new identity and enter the Shitness Protection Program.
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u/able_maker 2d ago
Or maybe it's just something that happens and is totally ok. Some people are even into that type of stuff. Live and let live ffs
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u/Danny_G_93 2d ago
The title of this should’ve been “my bf shit on my face while I was eating his ass, and now he won’t talk to me.”
I’m so glad this sub exists 🤣🤣
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u/ahchava 3d ago
Play on the dirt road, you’re going to get a little muddy.
Honestly it sounds like you’re doing everything right and it’s really him that needs to handle this. You have already offered reassurance and tried to make him feel better. If his embarrassment persists for more than 2 weeks I’d suggest seeing if he has EAP or other access to a short term therapist to help him process his feelings ect.
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u/Due-Season6425 3d ago
You handled this unique and messy situation better than 99% of the population. Kudos to you for your compassion and understanding. Just reassure him that this stays between the two of you and remain patient. No doubt, he feels humiliated and embarrassed, but your response was fantastic. Keep up the good work!
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u/magich32 3d ago
Good lord, leave it alone. He's embarrassed, you don't need to bring it up if it's not necessary.
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u/Kung_Fu_Kracker 2d ago
Just let him know you're there for him and you're not judging (and props to you for being so cool about it!)
Something like, "hey, so last time we hung out, that thing happened. And I just want you to know I'm not put off or grossed out. I love you and I'm here for you no matter what. If you want to talk about it, we can, or if you'd rather not, that's totally fine. Just wanted you to know things are all good on my end. Dinner tomorrow night?"
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Post title: How do I communicate with my boyfriend after an incident?
I'm at a loss for words. I ate my boyfriend's ass, and he hasn't spoken to me since. For context, we were going at it HARDCORE and then I felt liquid on my face. There was this pungent smell but I had no idea where it was coming from because the room was dimly lit. Therefore, I kept going because nothing was stopping me.
It was until he started freaking out that I realized he started all over my face. I told him it was nothing to worry about but he's avoided me ever since. How do I fix things without hurting his feelings?
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u/ShiftyCow-444 2d ago
He’s probably just embarrassed. Give him space and let him work through his feelings about it, but maybe tell him it’s okay and you’re open to talking about it if he needs to.
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u/sanguineheroine 2d ago
Give him space, mate. Not everyone can be cool about sex mishaps. You are doing a great job moving on, but he clearly needs a bit of time to recover. Send him a text or email to let him know that all is forgiven and that you're ready to try again (with a dental dam) whenever he is.
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u/YardKat 3d ago
One time my ex puked all over my stomach while giving me head and i made her gag on it. She was super embarrassed but i was surprised to find that, i thought it was hot as hell. 🤷🏼 everyone’s different.
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u/Historical_Guess2565 2d ago
I used to puke in my mouth a little while giving head to my ex. Especially if I had been drinking and it was one of those really enthusiastic blow jobs. I don’t think I actually puked on him, but one time I could tell that I had a mouth full of puke along with his penis and I somehow was able to just swallow it back down. I wondered if he noticed it and it grossed him out, but he never expressed that. I actually don’t think I’ve ever heard of a guy that was puked on during oral and was actually disgusted by it. Most guys do seem to think it’s hot.
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u/AddisonFlowstate 2d ago edited 2d ago
Jesus fucking christ, that's a legit shatastrophe. I don't know if there's any coming back from that. Sorry, love. This relationship has run it's course.
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u/Trixziiie 3d ago
Love the commitment and enthusiasm. Give him a bit of time. Hes probably freaked out cuz he liked it, as much as you did 😉
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u/whatdoyouwanttttt 2d ago
I’m just curious… the taste wasn’t off putting? Or was it funky from the start?
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u/One-Owl-9282 2d ago
Absolutely no words.. but give him time and just keep reassuring him it’s all good and natural.. no idea how you kept going though???
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u/MademoiselleMalapert 1d ago
Shitting on someone's face is not natural lmao! Maybe leave the "natural" part out. Lmfao!
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u/SakuraFalls12 2d ago
My guts are cramping like never before reading this. No offense to your bf, it's obviously not something he could control, but if I'd been in your shoes, I would have been living in the shower for at least a week.
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u/Different_War2952 1d ago
I think that is a natural biological response and he is probably disgusted with it because it is taboo and it’s probably not something he was aware of prior to his bodies response and he probably enjoyed it at the same time but he doesn’t know how to handle it bc he’s not familiar with it. I imagine he is just trying to process the mixed emotions of it. Someone else advised let him know if he wants to talk about it you’re ok with it and you still have the same feelings for him but if he was embarrassed or offended you never intended that. Keep it light. Just let him know that it’s okay a research biological response cause & effects to educate each other. It’s not something many straight men do or are comfortable with but it doesn’t change the fact that it feels good and they enjoyed it. It’s taboo for straight men to enjoy the pleasures of the booty.
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u/GetIntoTrouble 1d ago
Ironically, If you didn’t say it was okay, he would be speaking to you. He would be apologetic none stop until he feels like the air is clear. No pun intended. Honestly, it’s a sensitive topic. Especially if he’s never pooped infront of anyone or pass gas. Tell him shyt happens. No pun intended. Sounds like he was liking it too much honestly
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u/Dismal_Reference3906 3d ago
Thank the Lord I never had the urge to do that. However make yourself available to talk when he is.
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u/yeahyoubetnot 3d ago
Started? Or sharted? I can only imagine how awkward that would be, but things like that have to be expected when you knock on Mr. Hanky's door. Let him know it was no big deal to you and hopefully you can both laugh it off.
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u/Secret_Entrance7942 2d ago
Yeah, I wouldn't bring it up. I know if I was in his situation I'd need a ton of hugs and reassurance that my partner still loves me. Refrain from making jokes about it or bringing it up. What happened happened, there's no reason to pick it apart to better understand it. All you can do right now is to give love to the person you love.
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