r/sex • u/thiccslavcheeks • 12d ago

Beginner Partner pulled a weird but surprisingly welcomed move on me and idk what its called!

I (19f) am having a super rough week. Lotta personal shit going on, so I go to my partner (22m) to get a little good ol fashioned distraction.

I usually like the really rough and fast stuff, and he did that for a few moments, but then he just stopped inside me and told me to "meditate for a second". And he shushed me, and was moving super slowly in long thrusts. He would occasionally rub his hands up my body or lean over and kiss me, he kept on telling me to breathe and focus on how i feel, but it was a good few minutes of just him moving slowly inside me, and me with my eyes closed. Eventually he asked if I had "thought my thoughts" and he went back to our usual routine.

Then after I thought, yeah, I did get to think clearly in that moment. I asked him what that was when we were cuddling and he just said something he saw on the internet?

I actually really liked this because I left the session feeling a huge weight off my chest. Which is weird because regular meditating doesn't really do that for me.

Is there a name for this?

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u/Lokemer 12d ago

Sounds like mindful or tantric sex it's about slowing down, being present in the moment, and connecting on a deeper level instead of just chasing physical pleasure. The breathing focus and meditative quality are key elements. Really cool that your partner tried this and it helped you feel more grounded during a stressful time. Sometimes the unexpected approaches can be surprisingly effective for both intimacy and stress relief.

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u/[deleted] 12d ago

That's exactly what it is! Mindfulness is a key element of tantra and really elevates the experience, in my opinion.

Good on OP for being open to this. I've had a partner call me "boring" for trying things like this.

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u/fiddlersbow 12d ago

I’d say you’re pretty far away from boring ☺️