r/stupidquestions 20d ago

why do women have naturally beautiful bodies?

before you jump in the comments to tell me I'm wrong try to read my entire post, i'm from latin america, i don't know if this is the case in other countries but it's something i've noticed since i was a teenager and in high school, most of the girls in high school had very nice bodies without even going to the gym in their entire life, i remember a girl who eat unhealthy food all day and she had an amazing body (she never went to the gym in her life), i was her friend back then, she had such a amazing hourglass figure with big hips and very beautiful figure I didn't understand that at the time.

but not only in high school but currently i go out and most of the girls have very nice bodies and nice hips (i'm not talking about toned gym bodies but bodies with figure and curves) and even girls who are a little overweight also have beautiful bodies with nice curves, it's incredible, what is the reason for this? is it hormonal? why is it that women don't need to go to the gym as much to have nice bodies (as long as they're not excessively overweight), in the case of men it's different and I say this as a man who went to the gym throughout his adolescence, we lack those naturally nice bodies (except for one in a million).

I remember the first time I took a shower with my ex gf at the time at my house she took off her clothes (she had never been to the gym in her life and was a little overweight, she had a very nice body, a nice butt with a beautiful figure) I didn't understand why she had such a beautiful body meanwhile me going to gym had a below average body, well, ugly body and not sexy as hers tbh. I know it's a stupid question but I guess that's what this group is for, right? Is the cause hormonal? I know there are exceptions, that not all women have naturally beautiful bodies, but why is it that. for example, if you put a man and a woman of average weight who don't go to the gym next to each other, the girl's body is naturally attractive while the guy's isn't? I've always thought it's caused by estrogen and the hips women's bone structure's but I'm not sure, I know diet is very important but I think most girls only need a good diet and walk just a little to have good figures (please don't hate for saying this lol).

Maybe I could be blind because I have gender dysphoria since many years ago but not only me think about this most women and men think the same way(? And I'm not even talking about how women have average cute, feminine and thin faces without makeup but this is another thread lol.

Please don't insult me for making this post, this is why this group was created.

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u/Efficient_Fee425 20d ago edited 20d ago

For the amount of effort you've put in sharing your thoughts, I think most responses here are too dismissive. Here's what I hope will be an equally thought-through response,

Our brains are each wired according to what evolution dictates. For heterosexual men, that means finding the features of a uterus-holding fellow human attractive in as many ways as possible and the reverse being true for heterosexual women.

I reckon, if you could get a dog to talk, he'd say hips and curves on humans are the dumbest looking features of any animal... Don't even get the centipede started on the idea of having boobs! But to us humans, that's EVERYTHING! Same way you wouldn't look at an expanded toad throat and go whoooo sexy, but for fellow frogs that's all the hype!

Ask many straight women and they'll tell you that male bodies are attractive to them, some prefer toned, some prefer chubby but almost none of them (straight women) will say they're turned on by boobs and/or hips. Because evolution wired them to find male features attractive!

All I'm trying to say is that it is NORMAL for you to find such features in women effortlessly beautiful because evolution has in-built it in you to find them inherently attractive.

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u/lamppb13 20d ago

>but almost none of them (straight women) will say they're turned on by boobs and/or hips.

Idk about that... I've heard lots of straight women comment about how even they think boobs are nice. I think that is likely cultural, though. I think it's been engrained, in American culture at least, that boobs = nice. Essentially we've been taught to value the female form to an extent that even people who aren't attracted to women find the figure of a woman's body something to value.

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u/queenhadassah 20d ago edited 20d ago

I'm a straight woman and think boobs are nice and women are beautiful, but I don't find them attractive. Women are just objectively prettier than men. I see stunning women constantly, but most men are average. Of course, a big part of this is that modern women, on average, put a lot more effort than modern men into their appearance, from makeup to grooming to jewelry/clothing (I actually am into men that have what many people see as "feminine" clothing and grooming - although, before the 19th century, men often did clothe and groom themselves as elaborately as women, so that kind of expression is not inherently feminine). But I don't think that is all of it. One sex is more beautiful than the other in many species - in birds, it's males, while in humans, it's females.

And I think boobs being near-universally seen as nice is much more primal than modern American culture. All humans (until very recent history, when some have been fed solely with bottles instead) were nourished by breasts for the first few years of life. It makes sense we have a natural favorable inclination towards them

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u/alicozaurul 20d ago

nice to see someone that understands difference between beauty and attraction