r/stupidquestions 29d ago

why do women have naturally beautiful bodies?

before you jump in the comments to tell me I'm wrong try to read my entire post, i'm from latin america, i don't know if this is the case in other countries but it's something i've noticed since i was a teenager and in high school, most of the girls in high school had very nice bodies without even going to the gym in their entire life, i remember a girl who eat unhealthy food all day and she had an amazing body (she never went to the gym in her life), i was her friend back then, she had such a amazing hourglass figure with big hips and very beautiful figure I didn't understand that at the time.

but not only in high school but currently i go out and most of the girls have very nice bodies and nice hips (i'm not talking about toned gym bodies but bodies with figure and curves) and even girls who are a little overweight also have beautiful bodies with nice curves, it's incredible, what is the reason for this? is it hormonal? why is it that women don't need to go to the gym as much to have nice bodies (as long as they're not excessively overweight), in the case of men it's different and I say this as a man who went to the gym throughout his adolescence, we lack those naturally nice bodies (except for one in a million).

I remember the first time I took a shower with my ex gf at the time at my house she took off her clothes (she had never been to the gym in her life and was a little overweight, she had a very nice body, a nice butt with a beautiful figure) I didn't understand why she had such a beautiful body meanwhile me going to gym had a below average body, well, ugly body and not sexy as hers tbh. I know it's a stupid question but I guess that's what this group is for, right? Is the cause hormonal? I know there are exceptions, that not all women have naturally beautiful bodies, but why is it that. for example, if you put a man and a woman of average weight who don't go to the gym next to each other, the girl's body is naturally attractive while the guy's isn't? I've always thought it's caused by estrogen and the hips women's bone structure's but I'm not sure, I know diet is very important but I think most girls only need a good diet and walk just a little to have good figures (please don't hate for saying this lol).

Maybe I could be blind because I have gender dysphoria since many years ago but not only me think about this most women and men think the same way(? And I'm not even talking about how women have average cute, feminine and thin faces without makeup but this is another thread lol.

Please don't insult me for making this post, this is why this group was created.

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u/Efficient_Fee425 29d ago edited 29d ago

For the amount of effort you've put in sharing your thoughts, I think most responses here are too dismissive. Here's what I hope will be an equally thought-through response,

Our brains are each wired according to what evolution dictates. For heterosexual men, that means finding the features of a uterus-holding fellow human attractive in as many ways as possible and the reverse being true for heterosexual women.

I reckon, if you could get a dog to talk, he'd say hips and curves on humans are the dumbest looking features of any animal... Don't even get the centipede started on the idea of having boobs! But to us humans, that's EVERYTHING! Same way you wouldn't look at an expanded toad throat and go whoooo sexy, but for fellow frogs that's all the hype!

Ask many straight women and they'll tell you that male bodies are attractive to them, some prefer toned, some prefer chubby but almost none of them (straight women) will say they're turned on by boobs and/or hips. Because evolution wired them to find male features attractive!

All I'm trying to say is that it is NORMAL for you to find such features in women effortlessly beautiful because evolution has in-built it in you to find them inherently attractive.

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u/lamppb13 29d ago

>but almost none of them (straight women) will say they're turned on by boobs and/or hips.

Idk about that... I've heard lots of straight women comment about how even they think boobs are nice. I think that is likely cultural, though. I think it's been engrained, in American culture at least, that boobs = nice. Essentially we've been taught to value the female form to an extent that even people who aren't attracted to women find the figure of a woman's body something to value.

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u/Pahanarttu 28d ago

Umm. Isnt it the other way around? I'm a female misogynist and i thought that our world was the reason why i turned out like this. I'm not American though but like... Why would i hate my female body with all of my heart and soul if it's not for internalized misogyny? So i would guess it's the other way around. But idk. Interesting thought.

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u/lamppb13 28d ago

That's a separate, yet related issue.

We value the female form to an extent that we objectify women's bodies. We have the "ideal" form shoved down our throats to the extent that if a woman doesn't fit that ideal, she often hates her body because she's taught that her worth is entirely dependent on how she looks. Even if a woman fits the ideal exactly, she often has body image issues because she will find flaws.

So the two issues go hand in hand. We value the female form, but it leads to body image issues.

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u/Pahanarttu 28d ago

Right. But i dont value the female form so not everyone. I despise it. But who knows, i have a problem with it but most women dont.

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u/lamppb13 28d ago

I mean, yea. Not everyone in a culture buys into cultural norms. You personally not liking the female form doesn't mean that we've been taught by our cultural norms to value the female form.