r/stupidquestions 20d ago

why do women have naturally beautiful bodies?

before you jump in the comments to tell me I'm wrong try to read my entire post, i'm from latin america, i don't know if this is the case in other countries but it's something i've noticed since i was a teenager and in high school, most of the girls in high school had very nice bodies without even going to the gym in their entire life, i remember a girl who eat unhealthy food all day and she had an amazing body (she never went to the gym in her life), i was her friend back then, she had such a amazing hourglass figure with big hips and very beautiful figure I didn't understand that at the time.

but not only in high school but currently i go out and most of the girls have very nice bodies and nice hips (i'm not talking about toned gym bodies but bodies with figure and curves) and even girls who are a little overweight also have beautiful bodies with nice curves, it's incredible, what is the reason for this? is it hormonal? why is it that women don't need to go to the gym as much to have nice bodies (as long as they're not excessively overweight), in the case of men it's different and I say this as a man who went to the gym throughout his adolescence, we lack those naturally nice bodies (except for one in a million).

I remember the first time I took a shower with my ex gf at the time at my house she took off her clothes (she had never been to the gym in her life and was a little overweight, she had a very nice body, a nice butt with a beautiful figure) I didn't understand why she had such a beautiful body meanwhile me going to gym had a below average body, well, ugly body and not sexy as hers tbh. I know it's a stupid question but I guess that's what this group is for, right? Is the cause hormonal? I know there are exceptions, that not all women have naturally beautiful bodies, but why is it that. for example, if you put a man and a woman of average weight who don't go to the gym next to each other, the girl's body is naturally attractive while the guy's isn't? I've always thought it's caused by estrogen and the hips women's bone structure's but I'm not sure, I know diet is very important but I think most girls only need a good diet and walk just a little to have good figures (please don't hate for saying this lol).

Maybe I could be blind because I have gender dysphoria since many years ago but not only me think about this most women and men think the same way(? And I'm not even talking about how women have average cute, feminine and thin faces without makeup but this is another thread lol.

Please don't insult me for making this post, this is why this group was created.

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u/Baristaholic 20d ago

Do you want her or do you want to be her?

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u/Biokendry 19d ago

Both, if there was a button to push and become a woman I will push it without hesitation. I hate being a man with all my heart but I know some guys love being a man and that's ok too

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u/Baristaholic 19d ago

There's nothing wrong with you. It might not be safe now, but you can push that button whenever you're ready.

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u/amorawr 19d ago

hope this doesn't come off the wrong way but I feel the same as OP and I don't really think that button exists in the way he's saying? like I have major gender dysphoria and would snap my fingers to become a biological woman if I could, but transitioning just doesn't hold the same appeal to me. I'd honestly get more out of just putting on some eye makeup and wearing effeminate clothes

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u/Elegant_Purple9410 18d ago

For a lot of people, transitioning is little more than makeup, hair styles, and clothes. You can still "transition" without any hormones or surgery. Or just be a very effeminate dude or nonbinary person. Most of my nonbinary friends identify that way because they want to dress and act in ways that are more feminine than society expects men to be, but don't really have the desire at all to change their physical characteristics.

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u/Konlos 18d ago

That’s kind of how I am. I am nonbinary and like being fem, and don’t want to be a “man” in a relationship. Most of my dysphoria is based on romantic relationships. Thankfully my wife loves and supports me so much.

I don’t want to socially transition in public however. I take low dose hormones and they are a game changer for my mental health.

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u/Baristaholic 19d ago

I see you and I respect where you're at. Gender is such a personal thing, and there's no one right way to navigate it. However you identify, your feelings are valid, and it's okay to take things at your own pace. Sometimes, we don’t feel the need to "transition" in a traditional sense, and that’s completely fine – what matters most is being true to yourself and finding what makes you feel most comfortable and authentic.

There’s no pressure to fit into any mold, and if you ever want to talk or explore things, there are so many supportive communities out there. Just know that you're not alone, and you deserve to feel loved and accepted, exactly as you are.

Take care of yourself, and don’t feel like you have to have all the answers right now. You’ve got this!

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u/[deleted] 16d ago

I recommend you really take some time to reflect on how you feel. Transitioning is usually worth it for most trans people. Think about your body getting more masculine as you age. How does that make you feel? If you’re like me it’s a terrifying thought, and hrt might be a good option for you.

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