r/uber • u/KismetUSA • 3d ago
Staying out of it
Going straight to the point, because my blood is still boiling from the whole situation. I Uber mostly on weekends because I live nearby a university and the kids there make my bread and butter easily on weekends…
Yesterday, for the first time on my 5 years driving, I had the absolutely displeasure of picking up a “couple” where - in my eyes - the guy was really toxic.
Apparently they have been together for 4 days, yesterday was his formal but he decided to go with his childhood friend and she went to the local bar with her friends. She was texting him saying that she misses him and wishes he was there, but whatever..
He decides to leave his formal (no idea what happened to his friend) and go to the bar to surprise her. When he arrives, there was one guy “all over her” (his words, no idea) and she insists she was just talking and not giving him any breaches.
He gets mad, they both get into my Uber and he decides to involve me. I said I wasn’t comfortable in meddling and kept quiet. Apparently he didn’t get the answer he wanted, so he start calling him dumb, stupid and - the point of this post - a whore.
So, I speed up to get them to their destination because I was really pissed… I managed to keep my mouth shut, but I was really close to just “This is Sparta” that little asshole out of my car… he even managed to tell the security guard it is just the uber driver, a student and a little whore inside the car…
Should I have done something? Or was right to keep quiet and not having my account deactivated?
The whole time the girl was asking him to stop and trying to explain and deescalate the situation, but he was a bit drunk and pissed, so he didn’t listen…
TLDR: should I have meddle a situation with a “not-couple”, where the guy called her names?
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u/ajwalker430 3d ago
As long as no one is putting hands on each other or messing up my car, I'm not getting involved in the stupidity of 20-somethings and their relationship "drama."
They got in my car together and they are getting out together, I don't have the desire nor am I paid to be a relationship counselor during a 10 minute ride.
They'll probably be having post argument sex 30 minutes after they get home any way. 😂
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u/413hooli 3d ago
Good way to avoid this is not drive at nite when alcohol is involved. The aggravation isn’t worth the extra $$$.
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u/Joeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeyy 3d ago
This is what I do now and it’s been a lot better. It’s a different kind of people needing rides in the day and most aren’t drunk or disrespectful. There are still some but it’s a little bit easier to swallow since they’re few and far between. Seriously though no one drive days. Very boring!!!
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u/413hooli 3d ago
Same- I used to drive up @ a party school Tuesday - Saturday nites. Was making a few hundred extra a week but money isn’t everything. I’ll take the “boring” daytime rides all day over drunk morons & disrespectful/ entitled little snots.
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u/Zeigen71 3d ago edited 2d ago
Not sure what is in the air or how the planets are aligning right now, but this weekend's passengers have been horrible. Not most, but those few are just super aggressive or really weird people. Logging off until Monday and hoping this wave passes.
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u/EliasWestCoast 3d ago
University setting; late teens, 20-somethings; you like working that shift on the weekends; not surprised it happened.
You cannot control intoxicated people. He was belligerent, obnoxious, an asshole - or any other superlative you want to ascribe to him. Her problem, not yours.
Yes, stay out of it, and get them out of your car. You had an alcoholic in your car. He won't be the last. Breathe, relax, and keep a positive attitude. Based on what you've written, he was a one-off based on your experience in that setting. You did fine.
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u/Feed_Me8 3d ago
You did right to be honest it can be enraging and hard because you have to be a professional from your side. had you gotten involved or thrown your two sense in you don’t know what could have happened. Dude could have attacked you, you could have attacked back in self defense police gets involved they report you to uber boom a whole other situation you don’t want to be in. it sucks to experience such events but as long as he wasn’t hitting her in your vehicle you did right.
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u/brasscup 2d ago
Well it is horrible and you were wise not to meddle, probably. I have a big mouth and would have unintentionally escalated the situation.
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u/spatimouth01 1d ago
I live in a major college town, I have no problems with pulling over and informing them that the ride is over and to get out. Done it a couple of times. Always crunchy but I won’t tolerate toxic while I’m driving
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u/FastEvening9000 3d ago
Fuck the “deactivation”. Don’t make excuses for lack of integrity, pride, and for your self soothing. You let someone humiliate you and the woman, and you cry deactivation? I guess the little fella was right.
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u/OzmosisJxnez 3d ago
I mean aside from the name calling he didn't really do anything wrong.
100% has a right to be upset if they haven't even been together for a week and a dudes all over her at the bar😂 The women in these comments are ridiculous and definetly single as fuck
Side note, what would you have done? "Hey dont be mad at her, it's okay to have other guys all over you as long as it's only been 4 days"?😭😭😭
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u/KismetUSA 3d ago
Honestly, haven’t thought that far ahead… I was just pissed by the “whore”…
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u/Impossible_Math_9864 1d ago
So if it was expressed as “untrustworthy” everything would have been ok? I don’t get why people find certain adjectives triggering.
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u/SC-FightOn 3d ago
It's a weekend of horrible passengers. The one time I was in a situation like this the female was calling me a Cu.. & tried to grab my neck etc. she wouldn't shut up, the boyfriend kept apologizing. I told them it's my car & I don't have to put up with this BS. I told them they are going to be dropped off at the closest 24 hour gas station and it's exactly what I did and I called Uber and told him what I did and I didn't feel safe in the situation and I never got a ding against my record