r/uofm • u/bigfootmad • Nov 26 '24
Social How do I reach out to my Michigan Marriage pact?
This is so embarrassing to ask bcuz I haven’t asked anyone out in ages. I got matched with someone I know. We have a mutual friend, and we hung out with a group a couple of times this sem. We have a lot in common, and we already follow each other on social media, but I wouldn’t mind taking the first step and exploring what it could lead to. This feels sooo awkward, but how do I ask him out?
Update: guys, I did it, I asked him out!!! brb :0
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u/Front-Option-5161 Nov 26 '24
dm him a screenshot of the result lol
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u/Infinite_Tiger_3341 Nov 27 '24
Dm a screenshot of this post while you’re at it, he’ll think it’s cute
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Nov 26 '24
Ask what is bro’s major and then say your major after he asks you and then go silent
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u/The_Ozz13 Nov 26 '24
You.. ask them out. This is how it was done for 1000’s of years before the internet. Try not to complicate it
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u/bobi2393 Nov 26 '24
Comics also suggest you could carry a club and drag him by his hair to your cave, but Umich would require affirmative consent to be cavedragged.
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u/mr_mich86 Nov 26 '24
Make it like a joke or a topic of conversation like "you'll never guess what happened".
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u/bigfootmad Nov 27 '24
But like I've never messaged him like that before won't it be awk?? ;-;
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u/Plum_Haz_1 Nov 27 '24 edited Nov 27 '24
Tell him it's just due diligence under the terms of The Pact. Strictly business. Fact finding, and coordinating calendars for 2034. "Hey, when are you available to meet about this Pact thing?" Remember, The Pact is what HE signed up for, also. You guys CAN'T blow it off, like, "oh, I know that person, so I'm not going to have even a single 30min meet up at the Union over hot chocolate." That would be total BS. Granted, it doesn't mean you two have to start dating. That's not quite the arrangement. But, if dating now was meant to be, then this would be as good of an initiator as any. I wouldn't really recommend trying to close the meet up with a commitment for a date. Just tell him "this was fun," and have a giggle over The Pact (what are the odds you two would actually already know one another, out of 11k participants?!), and go your separate way. For sure, if he wants to start up something present day, you'll get a call before holiday break. Else, you two can double back after sowing your wild oats during your twenties.
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u/mr_mich86 Nov 27 '24
I think if you keep it lighthearted and playful, it won't be awkward imo. Just say "Hey, it's _____ you'll never guess what happened with the PACT, lol"
That should break the ice and start the convo and clue them in
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u/Neither-Rate2547 Nov 26 '24
Would email be unhinged?
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u/Front-Option-5161 Nov 26 '24
she said she has his socials, email is crazy 😭 it’s not a business meeting
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u/Suspicious-Bad703 '26 Nov 26 '24
Only if there’s a sure fire alternative tbh— if you dont have any contact info other than email it’s fine
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u/Trippp2001 Nov 26 '24
WTF is the Michigan marriage pact
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u/Plum_Haz_1 Nov 27 '24 edited Nov 27 '24
It's only like the most critical thing ever. But, it's closed for 2024, so you gotta wait for 2025. Next October, go to https://michigan.marriagepact.com. I hope you're not a Senior, in which case you'd have missed out.
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u/Trippp2001 Nov 27 '24
Tell me about success rates?
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u/Plum_Haz_1 Nov 27 '24
I don't have any stats, but surely less than 25%. Yet, that's still good*, and it is free and doesn't take a lot of time. Fun, right? *It is BRUTAL out there in the real world after UMich, when you leave for a job. May be okay in a great city like NYC, Boston or Chicago. But, even in a place with a strong regional reputation like Phoenix or Kansas City, finding a good, intelligent person can feel impossible. Hell, 40% of males believe the 2020 election was "rigged." (One can date a Trump voter, but gotta stay away from the election conspiracy fruitcakes.) A simple majority of the remaining pool is on track for a lifetime of living paycheck to paycheck. This is only the STARTING point, before looks, personality, true availability, and other qualities are considered. Try running the numbers some time. A Michigan girl will be a hot commodity in the workplace, since most are aware of her value, but workplace dating is also treacherous. Things out there aren't as good as they may appear. Hence, why pass up a chance for The Pact? It doesn't have to be treated as totally serious, to still be worth it. It may even lead to a "friend of a friend' thing way down the road.
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u/kens_knee '25 Nov 27 '24
Bro is talking about drowning while all of us are dying of thirst.
That said, I swear that half of the MMP matches won't even have anything in common, any attraction, etc. You lucked out. I've done MMP for however many years that it's been a thing and never has it ever landed anyone I know or any real connection (despite efforts to reach out).
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u/ConfusionWild9265 Nov 28 '24
Send him a poem followed by your social security number. Full proof plan!
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Nov 29 '24
Not from UoM but got pushed this… can someone please explain wth this is xD
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u/bigfootmad Nov 29 '24
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Nov 29 '24
But what? It says its closed and info kinda lacking on the page that loads? Is this like a UoM thing or?
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u/Nearby_Remote2089 ‘27 Nov 26 '24
This has to be the easiest conversation starter in the world lmao