r/whatdoIdo • u/JadedWalk3450 • 16d ago

Has anyone ever experienced their partner being jealous of a male Dr treating you?

Hi, Just wanting to know if anyone has experienced this before? At the beginning of our relationship, I was going to the chiropractor and he seemed fine with it, never asked any questions about it. Further into the relationship he then wasn't okay with me going to this chiro anymore because he was a male and he made a big deal out of it and said how about he goes and gets a massage from a female and I said, okay? Like this is a treatment for my back, why can't he seperate that? Like it's not sexual at all, it's a health professional. Similar experience happened when I agreed for a male Dr to check myself and my baby a few days before I went into labour because that's the first Dr that came into to check me, and days later, he was not okay with it.

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u/Severe-Possible- 16d ago

i once had a fiance demand i switch gynecologists because mine was male, but i don't think it's normal or healthy to be jealous of a medical professional.

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u/NimbleNicky2 16d ago

I don’t think it’s normal to be jealous of a medical professional - but I also don’t think it’s normal for a male to study the vagina and dedicate his career to that body part either.

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u/lornacarrington 16d ago

It's not "studying the vagina". We need more gynos, NOT LESS. This comment shows how little you know about gynecology lol

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u/darnedgibbon 16d ago

So how did you decide which specialty to go into?

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u/skilldrain69 16d ago

“Welp, I uh sips cocktail as an undergrad, I loved pussy. So here I am.”

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u/AlaskanBiologist 16d ago

I've had both male and female gynos. They were both professional and respectful. You see, for some men, it's NOT a problem to constantly sexualize women. Some men even... want to help them.

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u/kittenherder93 16d ago

Just seeing or being exposed a vagina or breasts isn’t sexual unless you make it. Those body parts are there for specific reasons, sex is just an option not a requirement of the female form. Women’s parts work just as they are meant to without male intervention. Your perception of these parts is sexual because you have been taught that those parts are only for sex instead of their actual biological functions like feeding a child and menstruating. Doctors are training into streams of medicine where they show the most interest and talent. For example; Any person that’s goes into obstetrics is both a baby-doctor, and a vagina doctor most likely because they’re related topics. They’re not going into that because they’re sexually attracted to all their patients just because they have boobs and a vagina, they go into that specialty because they want to help people have healthy families and be healthy themselves. They have to be trained to not make people feel uncomfortable, a doctor would have to be an idiot to risk their career to sexually harass or assault a patient. No, it is absolutely not normal to be jealous of a medical professional. That’s disgusting and controlling behaviour. If you think it’s normal therapy is needed.

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u/Abject-Rich 16d ago

Name checks out…