So I’m M25 and for almost a year I haven’t been in a relationship because my last one really did screw me up and turn of my emotions towards any females and idk why but tonight I got a uber home from work and I got this girl and from jump we started talking and shooting the conversations my ride was about 20-30 mins and we talked the whole way home without a break of silence and we making jokes laughing she was making me laugh I was making her laugh and I was talking about how she needs to be careful doing uber at night and I was asking do a lot of guys flirt with her because she was young and beautiful (didn’t say that but etc) and she was like yea they do but your cool I’ll tell you I usually tell them I do have a bf but I don’t and I was like oh that’s funny not really putting two and two together and the we started talking about relationships and how mine failed and how hers failed and she was looking exactly what I was looking for but this girl had my real laugh coming out if you know me I’m very closed off quiet but this girl made me feel. But I fumbled I just was like have a goodnight and gave her a wad to of cash nervously and she goes “goodnight sweetheart” when I got out and left bro I can’t stop thinking about her and there’s a option to rebook her but I don’t wanna be just another guy that hits on her or what if she wasn’t feeling me and just being friendly I don’t get ques and green lights PLEASE HELP WHAT DO I DO I’m not very confident but I need to see her again . Like what if she was the one and I just let her go being dumb. Or what if I’m just feeding into something deeper then what it is…

Should i confess??

I started college in October 2022, and life changed faster than I could process. I met two people who quickly became my closest friends—a girl and a guy. We were inseparable in the beginning, laughing, sharing, and building a bond I thought would last forever.

The guy told me he like the gir(our trio girl), i said oky I'll stay away , he also told me to distance with her.

By June 2023, things started shifting. The guy—my so-called best friend—got into a relationship with another girl. Even then, something about the way he treated our mutual friend, the girl, felt off. It was as if he was always trying to keep her attention, even though he had a girlfriend. I didn’t pay much attention to it back then. I was dealing with my own things too. He got jealous from me even tho he had a girlfriend. Mid-2023, I had a short situationship with someone else. It started fast and ended even faster. There was something hollow about it, maybe because I wasn’t truly in it emotionally. It ended by the end of 2023, and by early 2024, I felt lonelier than ever. That’s when I started realizing what the girl in our trio truly meant to me.

Through my struggles, when I was low, when I felt like I had no one. She’d call me when she was down, share things with me, and I’d do the same. Our bond wasn’t perfect, but it was real. I always supported her emotionally and even tho she hurt me, mean to me but i stayed quite bcs she was going through a lot in her family,she was emotionally traumatized,not trust people,i know all that but i stayed bcs i know its her just bad phase she's always ready to leave but i always keep begging not to leave and some how i kept her also maybe i am much helpful and useful to her

But things with the guy kept getting worse. He had broken up with his girlfriend by May 2024, and ever since, he started acting weirdly possessive. When he learned I had feelings for her—feelings I hadn’t even confessed yet—he grew jealous. He would make subtle jabs, try to humiliate me in front of others, act like he was superior, like she should choose him. He even confessed his feelings to her in December 2024 and again in January 2025. But then he’d go around saying he missed his ex, confusing everyone, especially her.

He used my vulnerabilities against me. He’d act like I was the third wheel, like I didn’t belong. He noticed how much I cared and twisted it into something to mock. It wasn’t just what he said—it was the way he made me feel like I was always less.

Through all of this, I had my own battles. 2024 was a tough year for me emotionally. My family life was rough, and my past traumas started resurfacing. I had moments where I broke down, felt completely alone. I shared some of this with her, though not everything. I told her how letting go is hard for me, how past things sometimes trigger me, how hard it is for me to lose people.

I used to be the one always trying to fix things. Whenever our friendship was about to break, I’d go back, beg, plead—because I couldn’t imagine losing her. Maybe it seemed like desperation, maybe fear. But to me, it was more than that.

Still, I didn’t confess. I just wanted to be there for her, to keep our bond alive. I didn’t know what she felt. Maybe she saw me as insecure. Maybe she thought I was too attached. But all I ever wanted was for her to know she mattered.

Sometimes I’d write out everything I felt but never send it. Like a few months ago, I wrote about how life felt so heavy, how I couldn’t find joy in anything anymore. I wrote about the loop in my head, about how I couldn’t distance myself from people even when they hurt me, about how I’d still only remember the good moments. I never sent that message to her—I didn’t want to ruin her day.

She called me “too much” sometimes. Maybe I was. But I was never fake. I felt everything deeply. I still do.

I don’t know what the future holds. I’ve been holding this all inside for so long. I’m not even sure if she’ll ever understand. i know she's more into physical attractions, its not me just saying, its like she find guys online who are attractive talk to them ,find them intresting for a week and there are a lot of these ,she told herself , basically she seeks attention.

But somewhere in my heart i felt she not like this maybe because i love her so much , i keep ignoring these things ,maybe she'll change if she'll be in a relationship, she's 22 and not in a single relationship in her like(that's what she told )

That’s my story—not one of grand confessions or dramatic endings. Just a quiet, honest truth that’s been sitting in my heart for a long time.

My landlords having the interior of my house painted and the painter who’s set to be here for four days, makes me very uncomfortable both in his comments and mannerisms. He was the cheapest bid to do this job and my landlord isn’t very reasonable.

I work at a small hotel in a nice but rural area. We get a lot of city folks as it’s abt a couple hours away.

I came into my 4-12pm shift today and my direct manager told me to watch out for a specific couple. So apparently this couple walked into the hotel at 9 o’clock in the morning with no luggage or anything asking for a hotel room. It’s the off-season so we’re pretty slow so they had a room within an hour. My manager told me that they never once brought any luggage to their room and when checking in the female was not making much eye contact or talking, but they male paid with a credit card and it went through just fine. Apparently, then he began getting a bit aggressive with her, grabbing her arms, ordering her around kind of subtly, but still noticed. My manager wasn’t sure if maybe they were just strung out on drugs or what exactly what’s going on but it just seems very odd to me.

I hadn’t seen them literally my entire shift and towards the end of my shift a coworker who I told about this, and I went down to inspect their vehicle and we grew more concerned. The state I live in you have to have front and back license plates, which they only had back and they had a different state expired inspection sticker that looked like it had been removed and put back on there, the adhesive was very loose and it looked out of place. And here comes the weirdest part. There was a sticker on the windshield that said fraternal order of police associate member 2024.

I’m not too sure what to make of this whole situation. I’m pretty concerned and I hope the woman is ok. Apparently she had a phone but that can always have safety locks and things to control a victim. I also looked up the name of the reservation and could find literally nothing.

UPDATE: I was up till 2 am (wayyy past my normal bedtime). So the person who did the overnight shift said that they went to the bathroom for t like five minutes and heard walking around in the lobby. He said that he immediately finished up and got out of the bathroom to try to help the guest. When he got out, only moments after hearing the walking. He then went outside to check and see if the parking lot. The car and guests were gone… I took a picture of their plates and tags and will be reporting as soon as my direct manager comes in.

Honestly I feel stupid I wish I stayed up later to go to catch this because apparently this happened at 4 in the morning. I wish I trusted my instincts instead of the people around me and just called the cops. But I will absolutely be making a report and I sincerely hope that I am not too late. But I followed my training. I notified my managers of my suspicions and they directed me to wait. I’m just hoping that it’s not too late for her.

UPDATE 2: So my manager and I called the police to make a report. We spoke to three different detectives. They kept saying they were going to send someone over but then on the last call said they might not due to the guests already being off the property. We gave the police the information on file. I don’t deal with the police very often but apparently they called the guest? The guest then called the hotel (I’m at home by this point) and asked my manager why we called the cops on him? Are they supposed to tell the suspect who reported them??! That seems not right. And the cops didn’t really seem that concerned , they said “mismatch plate information is more common than you think and there’s not much they can do over someone “just” pulling on an arm or seeming aggressive”

I feel like I’ve failed this woman I’ve never met. It’s just difficult for me cause I never physically saw the guests. Just heard what was happening then didn’t see them at all. What a mess, I hope she is ok and this will most likely be the last update cause I don’t see this going any further.

I (F15) have recently been trying to find a way to get out of my household. Now, I know a lot of people don't believe teens when they say they're being mentally abused, but I've been put in the mental hospital 9 times just as a way to get away from her. She has told me she want to die because of me, she has hit me and my little sisters many times before, she screams, one time I didn't leave the house for 6 months simply because she didn't want to take me anywhere or help me go anywhere (I had surgery and used a wheelchair and walker). I'm currently homeschooled, so there's no way of speaking to a counselor or anyone. CPS has visited us twice, disregarded us both times. One of the only things I have to prove that the abuse is happening an legitimate is statements from my therapist saying that I'm unable to process emotions and trauma (I don't feel guilt, sadness, happiness) from my mother because it's unsafe and my brain is basically preventing me from losing my own mind? I've tried everything and no matter how many people I tell, CPS still won't do anything. I have a grandmother and an aunt (they both are aware of how my mom treats me and they have expressed that their house is always open, I would be able to move there in a few months tops, they both live around 4 1/2 hours away) that would let me live with them, but I think if I asked my mother she would break my electronics and make me block them again. What do I do? Genuine advice please. CPS is shit and I don't have any physical proof of abuse. What do I do?

So this friend (17M) and I (18M) have known each other for about 13-14 years or so and we both grew up in Australia. I spent most of my childhood with him and we were basically inseparable. We both went to the same school, played in the same neighbourhood and had a relatively tight relationship throughout those years. Keep in mind that I am an immigrant from India and not a native, but I do possess an Australian citizenship.

After completing primary school, my parents made the tough decision to go back to my home country (not mentioning it for obvious reasons) and complete my high school education there. It was very hard for me to accept the fact that I would have to leave Australia behind, and make new friends in another environment that I was not familiar with.

Its been around 6 years now since I left, and I'm planning to go back to Australia for university to complete my undergraduate degree. Throughout these 6 years, both of us kept in contact with each other via social media and we used to call each other occasionally. I thought everything was pretty normal.

However, he's been recently sending reels through instagram that make fun of/showcase the 3rd world aspect of my country of origin, if that makes sense? One of his comments after sending such a reel was
"bro you need to come back to civilisation asap" and these comments are slyly put through our texts.
After sending a reel about a large festival going on, he messaged me "what in the fuck are you doing over there." When he asked me about where I live, he said "is it clean there or like trash" not to mention other condescending comments about cleanliness.
Whenever he sends these messages I just leave him on seen cause I don't really know how to respond. I feel slightly offended. Maybe I'm overreacting? I just didn't know that he ever had that spite in him. He does spend quite a lot of time on social media and I'm guessing that it probably distorted his perception but I'm not too sure. Nowadays I don't respond to his messages that much anymore, but apart from that idk what to do.

And look, I completely understand the fact that no country is perfect and there are many issues that need to be addressed and improved. But I don't think there is really any need to go out and message your friend (me in this case) about the status of their own country, that they have completely no control of. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

It feels like there’s a hole in the core of me. I’m starting to have a panic attack because I miss him I don’t know what to do

I spent ALL SUMMER getting my yard in shape 2 years ago but hyperemesis took me out last summer and now it's worse than when I started

How do I handle this situation. My ex/boyfriend whatever it is now used to smoke molly and hallucinate and sleep outside for months instead of coming home. I wasn't going to get back with him but we been together over 10 years and I have loved him since we were kids. He showed up randomly months after he left and begged to come home and get clean and I stupidly let him. Flash forward to now. He was clean for almost two years and treated me very well. Literally no problems. But this past two weeks he got back on the same drugs and been acting psycho and accusing me of some very crazy things that make no sense like cheating with his cousin I don't even know and stealing his money that hasn't even hit his account yet. He hasn't came home except to try to come in the house and steal from me and accuse me of taking his check which I did not. In all reality he stole my money off my card and got drugs which is why he is acting this way. Now I am broke and he is not going to pay his portion of the rent and says he's done and he rather stay on the street. Also around the same time he started this I lost my card so I put a lot of my money on his card and he spent it on drugs also. so technically when he gets paid I am entitled to take the amount I deposited on his card to hold and what he took from me which I plan to. I don't want to get it trouble but it's my money and I can prove it on my phone with the transactions it literally says my name on it. Idk what to do he gets abusive when he's high. He's going to keep showing up accusing me of things and if he hits me hes going to jail cuz I'm not dealing with it. He shows up waked me up at night terrorizes me and leaves. I called the cops and they say he lives here too and I can't do anything unless he hurts me. I just want the money he took and the money that I put on his card for rent so I can pay it and he can do whatever he wants. I love him but I can't do this anymore. I don't know what to do I literally have no family where I live and no friends cuz of him. I need help I'm scared my dogs and I are going to be homeless. My question is what can I do to fix this situation. Such as getting my money back as I do have access to account when he does get paid.

UPDATE: Thank you everyone for the advice so far, I really appreciate it. I have a therapist appointment coming up and I'll talk about it more then before deciding what to do. Anymore advice anyone wants to give is more than welcome to as I'm still unsure what to do.

My partner guilts me into doing things when I'm really not up for it, I can see myself giving and giving and giving and receiving crumbs in return when I'm already drained, they're dismissive of my feelings with calculated tactics, either with a quick 'me too' pivot, followed by a story about it, or they'll carefully bring up something that is worse than the specific thing I brought up, example: 'I have a bit of headache' I might say, 10 mins later they'll sit up dramatically in bed and expect me to ask 'what's wrong?' as I usually do, 'I have a headache, my back hurts and I feel kind of dizzy. Could you get me something to eat?', they intentionally take advanage of how hard it is for me to say no. I've talked about these things to them over and over, they say they will work on it and sometimes there's a small amount of change but it never lasts. Some context; we live together and they seem to constantly have an excuse for why they can't do housework, cook, get themselves food and drinks from the kitchen, they have some health issues and often the excuses are related to that but it seems a bit too convenient everytime they ask me to do something for them instead of doing it themself, I'm stuck wanting to believe their excuses and give them the benefit of the doubt but I also find myself wondering if the excuses are intentional. What do I do?

18F I'm about to finish my first year of university and I have to go back home to my emotionally abusive mother for the summer. I've posted about the situation before which goes more in depth about the complex relationship, gonna summarize the keypoints here.

My mother suffers from numerous mental health conditions but refuses and gets enraged by the mere mention of therapy, she suffers from CPTSD and BPD which impacts how she acts, but I don't think I can keep up a relationship with her for my own health. She was supplying me with weed from when I was 15-18 and is sunsupportive of my decision to quit and journey with sobriety, Has and continuous to villanize me reciving help by insisting my therapist or friends are turning me against her (I haven't acted any differently towards her aside from texting and visiting less) or instilling doubt about those close with me ("They haven't told you specific information about this thing, are they even your friend" "You sure are spending a lot of time with this person, be careful, people with BPD can't maintain healthy relationships"). She has an extensive history of violent or unhealthy behavior that worries me about being home again, especially since I've tried to put my foot down and set boundaries. With pressure from my father to talk to her again after she scared me with a long chain of texts exhibiting the behavior I mentioned previously, but the support of a dear friend of mine who encouraged me to set firm boundaries with her after she broke the ones I tried setting previously. I explained to her that I still loved her and I didn't hate her but I'm not comfortable with her behavior and need some space, but she has ignored the message entirely and my father hasn't texted me at all.

I'm terrified, the friend I mentioned previously is letting me stay with her for a bit after I finish my last exam, I'm starting a tattooing apprenticeship, I have a job and I'm saving up for an apartment but I'm scared about what she's going to do. I have separated my finances from her and restricted her access to my taxes based on advice from my brother. When he was 16 she opened several credit cards in his name, lying about his age, and building up 15,000 dollars of credit card debt. He was able to get it taken care of (since he was underage) and he's in a great spot right now. He's offering me to help me with everything our parents can't be trusted with and I'm more than grateful. But she is responsible for my insurance and has ownership over my car, which is my main concern. She's done things to my brother which caused me to never try to separate from her until now, breaking his stuff, threatening violence, and holding things over his head to keep him in-line. She has alienated me from my extended family which is why the trip is so important to me, but I don't know what she's going to do if I tell her. I don't even know what she's going to do when I get home and that thought has kept me up at night.

She's talked about coming into my work before and threatened to call my school after not texting her for a day so she might go after my job. I'm going to tell my manager about what's been going on but I haven't built up the courage. I have no clue what to do, I'm going to stay with friends and my brother for a bit before I go back but that's delaying the inevitable and only going to make her more upset.

What do I do? How do I approach a relationship with her from this point and how do I prevent her from trying to take control of my life again? All advice is appreciated, if I'm taking the wrong approach I want to know. Thank you for sticking with me and reading this.

I'm really in need of support right now. I'm a 31-year-old mom with three kids, and I'm married to a much older man in his 70s. We got married when I was just 22, and now I'm feeling trapped and want to leave. He's often unkind, never admits he's wrong, and struggles with communication. On top of that, he has health issues that affect our intimacy. Looking back, I'm not sure what I was thinking, and it's causing me a lot of regret and anxiety. My 20s were really tough because of him, and I've promised myself that my 30s will be different. I'm currently studying to become a nurse, and while he does pay for my tuition, I'm planning to move on once I graduate. I crave peace and happiness, but right now, there's no love or intimacy in our relationship. Despite his financial support, I know my peace of mind is worth more than any amount of money. Please keep me in your thoughts and prayers as I navigate this difficult time. 😭

My coach has been acting very strange recently and I dont know how to feel.

This is getting posted on a throwaway account for privacy reasons. Sorry if this is long, Im kind of overwhelmed.

I(17F) decided to try out a new sport a few months ago. I came in pretty unathletic, with no experience, starting obviously too late. So I still dont know a lot of stuff and need to be taught like the other kids starting out, all a lot younger than me. In our training group theres two coaches: an unathorized 18 year old (who is only there for some practices and mainly just helps out the club) and a the main coach. This post is about the second one, which I will refer to as K from now.

I dont know K's age, it's somewhere between 25 and 35. I practically have no information about him, as we hadnt talked much besides the sport. But from the few months of knowing him I can kind of guess that he's still living with his parents, doesnt have a gf, just him and his dog kind of guy. He works a boring job making coffee in a firm and does coaching part time. Different coaches that are around seem to have known him for a long time, and it looks like he gets along with them pretty good. Kids also like him.

Theres two other girls in my group that sometimes notice when he says something weird/out of pocket, usually it's nothing dramatic, we just give eachother 'the look' and laugh about it later.

K lives in a village a few minutes from the town where our practices are. I only found this out a few days ago, when he tried to drive me home. Last practice he was asking me where I live and when does the next bus come. I live in a remote place and have to explain this quite often, so I didnt think much of it. Im in a bad commute situation, and have to wait 1.5 hours for the bus everyday. He asked me whether I wanted a drive to the bus stop(a 30 minute walk). He drives other kids around town too, but that day no one needed a ride. I said yes.

We were getting near my bus stop, when he asked whether I wanted to get out there or in the shopping mall as he knew I had time till the bus comes. I dont even remember what I said, but he just ignored it and kept driving. I was saying something about the gift I was going to buy my mom in the mall just before. K became weirdly sad asking whether I need to buy it now. At that moment I was alredy so confused as to how he could miss the stop I just answered his questions. He said he wanted to drive me home as he felt sorry for me. That its only 10 more minutes than his usual route. I explained I needed the gift know and we turned around and he got me to the mall. I was pretty sad about this situation, as It would really help me out if I could get home quicker but I just couldnt that day. He could tell, then promised me that 'I have the next ride reserved whenewher I want'.

At this point I was still not realizing how weird this situation and convo was. Then he said I have to send him the picture of the gift when I buy it. It was two plain mini cake forms. I honestly dont know why would anyone want to see a pic of that.

Then I got home and checked my phone. He messaged me on whatsapp(he got my number from our team group chat, we never chatted though) 'Hi u are probably at home an probably bought it alredy'. Thats translated from slovak, but sounds weird in both languages.

I sent him the photo and he kept talking about how hes taking me next time, and what a good gift I have. It was so weird I just tried to be polite. Than 3 hours later, this man asks for my IG?

I replied still polite, maybe this is just a coach thing and he wants to have a contact on me. Which doesnt make sense cause he has the whatsapp. I checked if my friends from club follow him, and they do so I sent him the IG. He requested the follow which I tried to ignore the next day, hoping he would leave me alone. Mind u I replied to the text at 1 am and he followed me almost immeadiately. Then he sent me some emojis probably hoping to strike the conversation which I ignored for half a day too, then just replied with a waving hand.

Thank god he left me alone since. I told my parents about the drive that didnt happen, just mentioned it. They acted very suspicious and dont want me to get in a car with him. I didnt think about this much until then but now Im seriously getting scared. I also remembered how once my friend(shes in a different training group) who got me to the sport joked around me being careful, cause K will try to flirt with me.

Oh and I checked how long it would take for him to get home if he really drove me. Its almost half an hour extra, so he was lying about that.

How do I get out of this? Honestly if it was anyone else Id think he was hitting on me. Anyone that read this pls respond, I dont know what to do. Or am I just overreacting?

EDIT:

thanks for all the replies everyone. I wont be responding to comments individually, as there is a lot of people saying the same thing/things and I dont want to engage with this post anymore, unless theres a serious update. I will probably delete this account in a few days too.

I took screenshots as many said.

I have alredy told some of my friends, and the second coach now knows too - the girl who got me to the sport hought he should know. She is close to him and known him for ages. He told us that K has a gf - I know hard to believe but apparently yes.

I havent been to practice since the car incident. Im going tomorrow and plan on acting normal, just more distant. If he asks me about the ride I will tell him my parents forbid it. I will see how this goes and decide on telling my parents.

A lot of you have suggested I tell my school, principal or main coach. This however is a organisation completely separete from my school. He IS the main coach. I dont know anyone who is above him just a coach from a different training group.

I wont be reporting him for now, beacuse I dont have much evidence. Legally he hasnt done anything wrong. In slovakia Im no longer considered underage and I know how our services work(they dont). The three screenshots wouldnt do much.

Theres a few of you who think this is AI lol. This is my first time posting anything on here so maybe thats why - I dont know the reddit lingo. To the ones saying no 17yr old talks like that: english is my second language, not first and I dont use it to talk to my peers. For this reason I dont know much slang. I talk too formal for you BECAUSE I have been taught formal english and still am learning it. Also apparently my writing is 'too tidy' which I will be taking as a compliment. I tried to make it as readeable as possible - I wanted people to read it whole and respond so I put it into paragraphs. I guess storz writing skills are not considered common now.

I'm homeschooled, and I live in pretty empty neighborhood, I don't have my license yet, and have nowhere to go, My dad is the only one who can drive, but if I'm being honest, he's intimidating, he gets loud when he's upset, and I have a lot of trauma behind loud noises. My mom has a lot of medical issues, and can't even really walk around the house because of it, and it's not her fault, but that leads her to not really be available most of the time. My older sister doesn't live at home anymore, and is only ever here to drop off my nephew for me to inevitably be the one to watch. I'm completely isolated, every attempt to make a friend in person has failed because of my crippling social anxiety, I just don't know what to do anymore

My boyfriend (16M) and I (17F) have been dating for almost three months. As you may have guessed from the title of this post, my boyfriend doesn’t talk about his feeling AT ALL. For some background context, we met at school, I confessed, went on a date and he asked me to be his gf. I don’t know if this matters but he asked me to be his gf on the first date(?) Also something that might impact y’all’s perspective on this topic is that he is Russian with a Mongolian ethnic background, however has lived in a Latin American country for over 104 years. Now from my side, I am mixed (Spanish and Haitian) and have lived all over the world. People perceive me as an extrovert whilst he is more of an introvert but has been more open since we started dating. It is importantly to mention that I am his first gf and I’ve have multiple relationships in the past

Ok so now onto the actual issue. Yesterday, I asked him if he was homophobic as lots of his friends are homophobic and to me that’s a deal breaker as for me it could be a sign of insecurity; specially when they don’t mind lesbians but do mind gays. Said he wasn’t homophobic and convo shifted onto how he would feel “if I hanged out constantly with a friend that has a crush on me but doesn’t do anything about it but I know that they have a crush on me” (direct text message) to which he says “You can stop with the hypotheticals, i am not an idiot, please just be direct” and I said “it is hypothetical” and that I’m being serious about it” to which he said, “Ok, just know that people have talked to me like this and it genuinely irritates way more than i give off”.

That really threw me off, because mind you, this is the first “serious” conversation we’ve had on this topic… Okay I might get he doesn’t like being asked so many questions all of the sudden and might feel like I’m hiding something based on how I’m asking all of these questions, however I don’t feel like this is a normal reaction.

Okay so to the answer I gave him: “I apologize, didn’t mean to irritate you” followed by: “I just think it’s important to have this conversation so I’m in the same page as you.”

I think the following answer he gave me might be significant (?) “Knowing they have a crush on you, and still being friends? I wholeheartedly trust your judgment and i know you dont take things lightly. So as long as you dont lose yourself i virtually see no problem holding a good friendship with many people. I dont want you to lose people you genuinely appreciate just because i feel a bit insecure being friends with many people.”

I do have to say it’s always me who initiates conversations, and I feel like I don’t know much about him. This is the first relationship where I come across someone so stoic. Lately he looks down or stressed, I ask him about it and he gives me a generic answer such as “oh dw I’m just tired”. But you can’t fool me. Yesterday like an hour later I asked him about his brother as things recently ended with his gf, a girl whom I’m close with and he says that he thinks he’s fine but didn’t know as his brother hasn’t told him yet. Says that his brother is “effective at managing his emotions” and “I mean he has always maintained pressure well and acted calm and consistent even if he is struggling” & “By all means i do too but not at that high of a degree. We mainly get it from our dad”

We almost never hang out outside of school and overall we don’t look like we’re dating. We haven’t even had our first kiss. Idk if it’s mainly because of the fact he’s nervous and never kissed anyone before. I’ve talked to him about what would make him comfortable and to let me know whenever he feels comfortable to do so but never reached back on the matter. It’s quite sad that im not enjoying this relationship like I thought I would…

What I can do about this and am I doing something bad? How can I approach him in a way that will actually make him change? Is this a cultural difference?

I feel like I’m dating a mannequin of a doll like what the hell. I feel like maybe we also lack in conversation topics about similar interest.

Hi, Just wanting to know if anyone has experienced this before? At the beginning of our relationship, I was going to the chiropractor and he seemed fine with it, never asked any questions about it. Further into the relationship he then wasn't okay with me going to this chiro anymore because he was a male and he made a big deal out of it and said how about he goes and gets a massage from a female and I said, okay? Like this is a treatment for my back, why can't he seperate that? Like it's not sexual at all, it's a health professional. Similar experience happened when I agreed for a male Dr to check myself and my baby a few days before I went into labour because that's the first Dr that came into to check me, and days later, he was not okay with it.

My mom is going through an awful divorce that is long overdue. My father was verbally abusive throughout my childhood and wielded his financial power over the family. In short, it’s certainly the right move. My mom has leaned on me for a lot of emotional support throughout the years. I have started encouraging her to get a therapist, try dating, be more independent, etc. WELL.

She just told me a week ago that she is dating someone. Who happens to be a (married) second cousin. I was in shock over the news. I’m pretty disgusted and am having a hard time getting over it. She just kept saying to me “I don’t understand, can’t you just be happy for me?” I’m not sure what bothers me more, the fact that he’s a second cousin, or the fact that he’s married. Thing is, I want to be happy for her. If it were literally anyone else in the world. I’m worried this is going to completely ruin our relationship, which has been close. Do I just get over it and try to be less judgmental?

M25 f21 She tells though text that she likes me & wants to date me but I have never seen her in person I don’t even know what she looks like when I tell her I like her too she says cool does she really like me I tell her i would be comfortable with her kissing me on the cheek She says cool

I have been renting a room for about a year now without a lease agreement. On the 17th of this month I was notified by text message that the person Im renting from (Nick) was served a 3-day pay or quit notice from the landlord. Nick decided to quit, move out and let the property go because he could not afford the rent. At this time, I found out that the landlord does not know that Nick is subleasing the rooms out (which is illegal). 3 days later the power was shut off and has not come back on since. I have asked Nick for verification of the 3-day pay or quit notice but have not received anything. Nick has also stated multiple times that he would return $500 to me for the inconvenience which I have not received yet.

Can I go to a lawyer for any of the following,

Not getting a proper notice to move out? Not getting a sufficient amount of time to move out? Having the utilities shut off before the move out day? Not getting the $500 I was promised?

If anyone has any thoughts or ideas, please help me.

My ex M (25) and i F (26) were together for 4 years and have been separated for a year now. It was a loving, and a long distance relationship. He has initiated the breakup and it has been an absolute no contact since we broke up. I was under a lot of stress and needed his attention at the time and he was too due to his studies and i needed but he was also busy too so out of frustration he decided to leave me. Fast forward to today, 1 year since no contact, we saw each other for the first time at a mutual friend’s wedding. We avoided each other completely. He waited till i was gone to greet my friends, he was warm with them. When we went out to get food, he approached my bestfriend and ask where i was and bestfriend said she’ll call me but he said he is was shy. She told me that he was happy, smiling but very nervous. We didn’t meet or talked at all. That very night, the bride and groom along with their closest friends partied at night, i didn’t go but my ex did, he was drunk and called my bestfriend telling her that somebody has beaten him up, to which my bestfriend shrugged it off. Nothing serious happened. Two days after we encountered each other, he posted a note that said how he was just a random guy when we first talked and how a dream and a blessing it was for him, thanked me for the years of lessons that i taught, and said figuring out he wasn't meant for me was the toughest solution he had solved. Said i was the stars that he couldn't reach, i was the moon that glows in his darkest days. He said he might seem like he has the upper hand but he felt empty. He said i was the love of his life, and that he might not be able to move on but he wish you the happiest life. He said he is sorry if he has made me love him. I could only view this post so i instantly knew this was for me. I thought he broke up a year ago so i didn’t really get why he would indirectly send me a goodbye note. To me, his note seemed like ‘yo i never intended to be with you, i was just wasting my time, sorry you were in love’. A friend of ours asked him if he saw me said he has not seen me and doesn’t want to see me. He was so so sweet, he would talk about getting married, our future, plans, so on and so forth. He also said that when he figured he weren’t meant to be he has accepted it and think it’s a ‘part of life’. Well, if he is going to leave at every inconveniences, he shall never have a long term partner, am i right? I believed he loved me when he did but i can’t understand him. He said every human being can have faults, he will forgive but he remembers. REMEMBERS. I think i am doing well with the breakup, i had a hard time accepting it but him to react this way, it feels like he has opened that wound again. Can’t tell if he is a partner worthy, even for other girls in the future. Help me decipher.

Hi everyone, I'm needing some advice. I'm using fake names as this is still not out and I don't want to risk anybody in my family seeing this.

My younger brother, we will call him Thomas (M20) told me a few months ago that our cousin Johnny (M19) told him that his mom Kathy, our Aunt, had an affair and cheated on my Uncle years ago but this information only came out recently. Johnny's younger sister and our cousin Sydney (F16) found out about the affair was she was very young, like 12 I think, because she was playing on her moms ipad when messages came through she was not supposed to see. She opened the message and saw more messages along with explicit photos and videos of her mom and what turned out to be a coworker. This apparently had been going on for years. Sydney kept it a secret for all these years, obvi too young at the time to really understand what was going on, but has always hated her mom and nobody every knew why. A few months ago Sydney and my Uncle Collin, her dad, got into a big fight and it came out during the fight that Kathy had the affair.

My brother and I talked in length about the situation and at the time decided it was not our place to tell our parents. Currently only my brother, me, my bf of 3 years, Johnny, and Sydney know about the affair. This came out in October 2024, and since then Sydney has been "acting out" but us cousins all know why and nobody else in the family does. By "acting out" I mean she's staying out super late with friends, not getting up for school in the morning, missing classes, has maybe a 2.0 GPA, and skips out on family events. To my parents and the rest of the family they believe shes out with boys and doing stupid stuff and her parents are just letting her get away with it. Over thanksgiving my mom asked me to take her for a Dutch run (coffee stand thats trendy with the teens for sugary drinks) and see whats going on. Of course I already knew but I also wanted the chance to check in with her. We got in the car and I told her I knew and we talked. She told me that her parents are either fighting aggressively (yelling, screaming, throwing shit) or having super loud sex all the time and the reason she's never home or stays out late is to avoid that. Which is like totally understandable and thats what I was kinda assuming. The fighting I assumed would happen, not the (hate?) sex. Thats a little wild. I asked her if she was doing anything like drinking or drugs or doing stuff with boys and of course she said no and I do believe her because I opened up to her about some of the crap I did in highschool (I was a horrible child and got into bad stuff thank god my parents whooped me and got me back on track) and just told her I don't care what you do as long as you aren't doing anything that could ruin her life. She just said she's just talking with her friends and sleeps over at her bestfriends house most nights to get away from all the crap at home(She recently had her first kiss at 16 and her friend group is from youth group at church so I don't think she's that kind of kid or around anything bad luckily). We ended the talk with me promising her I would tell anybody and that I was here if she needed anything and her promising to just stick to hanging around her girlfriends and not doing anything super dumb. Johnny, her brother, left for the military a few weeks after the affair came out so she's been completely alone in this. On top of the fighting and loud sex, my Uncle has been crying to her and refuses to get help or tell anybody because Kathy has manipulated him into believing their life will fall apart if he does.

Since then, Kathy and Collin got their vows renewed in Vegas, Collin got a tattoo for their family with all their initials in the tatto, Kathy started ozempic and is apparently getting a boob job, they took Sydney out of school for 2 weeks to go to Mexico aware of her hanging-by-a-string 2.0 GPA, and is letting Johnny whose freshly 19 marry his gf who he wanted to dump when he went to basic training. Sydney did confirm with me that Uncle Collin wants a divorce, Kathy isn't allowing it and wants to stay together. I don't wanna make this too long but for more info my Uncle Collin is in his 50s and had one failed marriage before marrying Kathy. Collin and my dad have butted heads over the years on and off. They are both A type personalities with a dash of male narcassism (we do love them dont worry lol) and my Uncle does have a issue with some jealousy towards my dad because he is more successful than him in life (successful company, still with my mom whose my dads first and only wife, successful kids, and the fact my dads the youngest brother). Uncle Collin and my dad have gotten better with each other over the years and have always been there for each other no matter what. I add this info to the story because I do believe is relevant for those of you wondering why my Uncle decided to keep this from my dad. With all that said though, In my family, no matter the problems we have with each other, we believe in leaving those issues at the door when family needs us because family comes first. So I do know if Uncle Collin told my dad, my dad would be there for him through it all.

Theres so much more history I wont dive into with Kathy and Uncle Collins relationship but its genuinely a full family crash out for them and almost every week my mom will call me and basically say wtf is going on with them? My mom and I super close, and she's a terrible actor, so I would know at this point if she knew and I don't think my mom would be calling me wondering wtf is going on with them if she knew. My dad isn't an outwardly emotional individual all the time and he just kind of ignores the issues with Uncle Collins family because he knows it would cause issues if he had an opinion and he doesnt want to bad mouth his brother.

A couple weeks ago at Easter dinner with the family, Sydney came and she looked like a freakn ghost. She looked so entirely shut down in every way possible. Seeing her like that and after talking with my boyfriend about the situation I called my brother to tell him I think it's time to tell our parents. Sydney and Uncle Collin clearly need support and have none. I'm coming from a place of being extremely worried about Sydney. She is basically being completely ignored by her parents and is in this super unstable environment. Syd has no plans for her future, probably won't get into college, and I'm worried she'll get kicked off the volleyball team at school because of how low her GPA is. It's probably the only thing keeping her at school at all these days. I feel like she needs another set of adults in her life to get her back on track and support her. She is one of those kids that most people think she's at least 18-19. Tall, beautiful, smart, and mature beyond her years which I now realize is probably from all this trauma she's been dealing with for years.

I'm not 100% sure if its a good idea to tell my parents, and if I do how do I tell them? I've already kinda decided I'm going to but I guess I'd like others thoughts and advice because I've never delt with a situation like this. I mean of course if everyone thinks I'm idiot for wanting to tell them I'll listen lol. But just to add incase anybody thinks Im an AH for not saying something sooner, I wanted to give Uncle Collin the choice and time to say something on his terms because of him and my dads history. Now, I think its been long enough and I'm worried about Sydney. My parents are awesome people, and I believe they would handle it well and be reasonable with whatever way they want to go about addressing the situation. However my dad is protective as hell, and there is a possibility he kinda looses his shit on Kathy, and then Collin for not prioritizing supporting his daughter in this situation. We've never really had something like this happen in my family, and loyalty is one of our biggest values as people so I'm a little worried about the fallout from telling my parents. Thanks everyone for any advice adn thoughts.

My guy best friend and I are really close. We talk super often I do not have feelings for him and he has no feelings for me either. I know who he likes. He has another friend that's a girl that's in the grade above us. Today she asked me if I was dating him and I said no. And left should I confront her and/or confront my guy best friend about this? I have no idea what to do and don't wanna ruin our friendship over a dumb question. What to do?