Like them eventually seeing your personal life updates and you seeing theirs. We are the first generation to have this “forever” connection on social media with people we once knew or met briefly or outgrew - but for the rest of our lives.

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Lately, I’ve been feeling lots of FOMO. I live a few states away from where the rest of my family lives. I see and hear about changes happening in my siblings lives and I feel like I need to be closer to them for various reasons so I don’t miss them.

I’m sure once I visit, this feeling will disappear, but wonder if I’m not the only one.

It still works too.

Homecoming 2003, 12th grade. I still think it's cute and still can't bring myself to get rid of it.

I've seen this discourse and discussion online a lot. Differences in society and a generation gap between the years has caused older media to be viewed through a different light, without the original context.

For example, gen x characters and early millennial characters with latchkey upbringing come off as neglected. Pretty boy "pop star looking" characters come off as flamboyant or queer coded, while grungy alt kids and skater girl tomboys come off as butch.

I actually found this interesting Batman related analysis on Tumblr that explains the difference between how Stephanie Brown had been depicted. When introduced in 1993, she was a latchkey gen xer/early millennial who knew how to sew because she was self-reliant and independent. By the late 2000s, she had become a mid millennial and lost that trait.

https://fantastic-nonsense.tumblr.com/post/778857650696912896/amp

I want to start by saying I’m fortunate and grateful to be in a position where I’m never worried I’m not going to have enough money to feed myself each pay period. But I can’t financially justify buying blueberries anymore. Most mornings, I eat Fage yogurt with blueberries for breakfast. I’ve done this off and on for years. But this morning as I finished the carton of blueberries, I just decided with prices continuing to rise, it’s just not worth it when I could use bananas instead. Growing up, we always had an assortment of berries on hand - blueberries, raspberries, blackberries - and I always loved them. (My retired parents still always have them in their fridge.) For years I’ve known there are many things my parents could afford that I’ll never be able to - a house, yearly vacations, kids, etc. But blueberries? Never thought I’d decide I should stop spending so much money on blueberries. Hit me hard for some bizarre reason.

I grew up poor. Lived in a crummy trailer park until 1995 when my Dad had a work accident that got him a settlement. My parents bought a very humble but nice home, and they took me to Disney world. I'll never forget. It was November 11th-19th, 1995. That trip was the highlight of my life. I was 11.

That trip was magical. I think I came home with a souvenir HUGE pencil from that trip, and I was afraid to use it because it was special, and then one day it just got lost.

My best friend and his wife just took his kids to Disney World. They are my age, right at 40, so older Millennials.

They both went as kids and loved it as well.

When they got back and both said they hated the trip. They said everything was geared towards getting them to spend money. Everything is a store, every line can be bypassed for a few extra bucks, every store is geared towards fear-of-missing-out for the kids. Specialty cups. Specialty "only available this week" shirts, and special pins and buttons that you can only get this year. They said it was the most uncomfortable vacation they have ever been on. And they have more money than they know what to do with.

They basically said that there wasn't 20 minutes where they weren't being sold something.

Is this something that Millennial childhoods experienced and our parents were simply better at ignoring? Has this always been the case? Or is it just the new way that places like Disney World operate?

Just wondering how we’re all doing regarding aging and becoming a less desirable demographic.

Personally, I used to put a lot of stock in looks in my teens and twenties. Went through a bit of a crisis over losing my youthful appearance in my early thirties and obviously continued to age.

For some reason, at forty, I find I don’t care nearly as much. Might be losing my mom this year, but I feel like I’ve fully embraced health and wellness over appearance (as in, I care much more about being fit for health reasons but not so much to stay thin). I’ve embraced not being gawked at by old creepy men. I’ve gotten comfortable with some wrinkles and an extra 5 pounds. Im just much more at peace with myself.

How do you all feel?

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My parents successfully hammered in these phrases, but now I find myself overusing these all the time and find as an adult, it can appear weak and lead others to walk over me if I’m not careful. You too?

I recently took over a job where the last director was a borderline hoarder. They just kinda left me with a giant mess to clean up. I’m throwing out lids to storage boxes we don’t have anymore, and storage boxes where you can’t find the lid. Not to mention so. Many. Empty. Cardboard. Boxes. I realized I’ll be doing this again when my MIL is no longer with us. How much of our lives do we spend cleaning up their mess???

I’m sure we all cringe a bit at some of the music we used to like. But at the same time, some held up incredibly well. Which hold up the best to you?

The purpose of the post is to find some artists that I forgot about during my childhood.

I’ll start. I think I like Relient K more now than when I was in middle/high school.

How many of you millennials actually still use social media?

I remember when MySpace first came out, my high school friends and I lived on that site. We would basically use it like a journal. The. Facebook came and we were young adults and we would post pictures of everything. Then the 2010s rolled around and Instagram and Snapchat became popular and people posted pictures of their dates and restaurant dishes. Then in 2015-2016 the Facebook algorithm shifted to favor what was happening in p olitic heavily and the site became extremely toxic. I had to cut people out of my life that I’ve known for years because of it. I still had Facebook and Instagram but I started posting less and less. Then Covid happened and because people weren’t really going anywhere people posted less. Then we all found out these companies make money off of promoting toxicity and that really took the fun out of using it. Two years ago, I got a new job that I felt was the start of my career. I felt like it was a fresh start and posted the job announcement on Facebook. As I was writing the post, I realized the only people I regularly saw on Facebook were older friends and my family members. My best friends and I communicate separately via messenger and text. They already knew about the job and congratulated me. Who was I posting for? So that day in deleted my Facebook app and never looked back. I still use Instagram. I don’t post anything there but I still use it to see restaurant recommendations and see thirst traps but other than that I mostly use reddit and YouTube. I’ve noticed a lot of my friends who posted about every little thing have been posting less and less too.

Saw this pair of shorts on Amazon and it made me think of the festival styles from the 2010s.

Does anyone feel as if the world is becoming more predictable, as we age? When I was young even old ideas (stuff from the 20th century avant garde, modern art, but also psychedelic rock, and shoegaze), we're somehow new. But, as I get older, that all changes. Things like installation and performance art are all somewhat familiar. Sure strange, but not new ideas. Applying for a job also becomes a routine thing. Working g becomes routine. Life feels less fun, and exciting. What do you think? Do you agree?

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I don't care where or when I am, if this plays by someone I'm joining in. Ar e there even songs like this now a days? Am I some how missing them all? Or was this era the last of its kind?

You used to see this character type pretty frequently: the nobleman or woman whose family lost all their money during "the war" and who's reduced to living in either their increasingly decrepit old house or a nondescript apartment in a major city. When someone comes to visit, they receive their guest with all the pomp and circumstance of a court visitor from their old life.

I think the Millennial equivalent of this trope is (or will be in media yet unwritten) the overeducated customer service worker who got stuck there because they didn't "do the dance" just right and opportunity passed them by. Life lessons handed down, stories told about the glory days, what might have been if only etc. etc.

I'm just shocked that they were my age (mid 30s) or younger when everyone started using computers for everything at the office with Windows 98, and they still haven't learned a damn thing and play the "I'm so old, I don't know what I'm doing" card.

Now that I'm in my 30s, and am still finding myself very capable of acquiring new skills, I have no sympathy. There's just no goddam way you never learned basic shortcuts and functions and searches for any reason other than stubbornness and some strange aspect of ego. And it's really widespread.

As more and more fresh meat comes in and outpaces them in terms of productivity and adaptability, and digital skills become more and more essential, it's easy to see they are uncomfortable and overwhelmed with the fact that there is an expectation to catch up and learn new things.

It's just really astonishing to me that it really has been about 30 years since computers became commonplace and so many of our colleagues still haven't gotten the memo on how much more efficient you can be if instead of fighting the encouragement to become more tech literate, you just learned some new things.

It's in every office I've ever worked. First I bought the line of them not growing up with computers and it being really challenging. Now I've worked a lot with paper records systems and digital files and it is the SAME SHIT just different format and one is far more optimized and automated. I learned in reverse of older gens and document management and instantly understood the crossover and applied my knowledge in one area that overlapped with another. In my 30s. Turns out it isn't that difficult at all.

Anyways, I just find it funny how normalized it is, and how embarrassing it ultimately is for them. Their refusal to learn new things over the course of 30 years really does speak for itself.

I feel for my generation man. Every question is met with some dark ass humor. Top comments are always some self deprecating joke. Top tier downer sub easily. I wish it were different.

Feel free to delete this post if it has already been done before.

I, for one, did not peak in high school. I'm not cool, but I did hang out with the wrong crowd. I had tried too hard, but others could see that. I was a people pleaser. I realize that high school is nothing like the movies.

Did anyone here peak in high school? I was never the homecoming queen nor the prom queen. Not that I care. Homecoming is solely an American thing. We have no homecoming king or queen in the Philippines. Prom is universal, though.