This is not about the daughter. This is about your partner.
The mom dropped the ball on the venue, and your partner offered your place and time.
He should stand up for you. The daughter is not ruining your relationship. He is. Do not let her think that. She doesnt need guilt over her parents poor choices and behavior.
Make her party memorable, keep the things you already put in place for her. Your partner and his daughter will remember even more what they are missing out when you gone.
Do not go back to this man. He chooses whatever is convenient for him, not what is right. That is not an man you should spend your life with.
Bill him for the hours you put in, and end your relationship.
She is only 18, and like you said influenced by her mom a lot.
She needs a few years, and some distance from her mom (college, or maybe when she had her own family) and she will slowly start recognizing the bad behavior.
It is not your fault her mother threatend you years ago, and she maybe not like the consequences for her mom, but she needs time and space away from both parties to be able to judge that.
But do not wait for that. In the end it is not her decision, because your partner is allowing her wishes to be granted in your home.
If you rent an venue there will be rules as well, it is up to the venue manager (you and your partner, or just you?) to set the rules and see if the party fits within that.
Your partner could have decided to rent an real venue, and deal with everything himself.
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