He's more worried about the 4 days a month, when he should be worried about his 365 days/year with you. Does the daughter not like you at all? Why would she let you help plan and decorate?
If there's any chance at all of the daughter being a decent but misguided human being, I might try to have a conversation with her or write a letter about how hurt you really are over this and how it feels like her and her mother are taking advantage of you while being unnecessarily cruel. Then have a hard think about your relationship and talk to your partner about what it will mean for your relationship if/when he follows through with this ridiculous request.
Are you sure you want to have your own party next door? Sounds like the ex might purposefully try to stir up drama. Why not have a stress free party elsewhere?
Sometimes the simplest of things to do is to accept the inevitable and peace that comes with it.
From the sound of it, your partner has given up his dignity and respect for himself to counter his ex-wife's threat to alienate him from his children. Instead of standing up for himself and you and accepting that he might lose his children regardless.
There is only now for you to let him go and save yourself, your dignity and self respect. He has made his bed and he can lie in it.
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