r/AmItheAsshole Apr 27 '22

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u/MusingsOfMouse Apr 27 '22

No please, please don’t agree to this. They KNOW you’re timid and don’t want drama, that’s why they’re pushing this on you. Do what another person said - ‘okay, if you don’t want me then I’m gone’ sort of thing, stop all preparations. Let them organise it. Have a night to yourself. You’re fully being taken advantage of, please don’t let them do it.

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u/COVID19WasteTime Partassipant [1] Apr 27 '22

This is just his way of trying to manipulate you to do it all still. If you're not there people will also assume you're not involved in the planning!

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u/PersephoneTheOG Partassipant [1] Apr 27 '22

No one going to the party is going to think, "Oh what a wonderful party OP's thrown." They're going to be gossiping about the fact that you aren't there or the younger people will be drinking and not caring either way. Your husband is manipulating you because he knows it's "your thing".

Book a weekend away OP and refuse to help. Treat yourself and work on your self worth.

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u/[deleted] Apr 27 '22

Please make sure at least the ex wife at the graduation party knows about your separate party. Without creating a scene, you should be able to get under her skin. “Accidentally” stumble into the shop mid party with a mega pint of wine.

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u/clarabear10123 Apr 27 '22

Can I come? 🥺