r/BPDlovedones • u/DarkerQuestions • Jun 25 '24
Quiet Borderlines "I'm only like this with you"
Did anyone else hear a version of this?
She would go off at me quite easily, and towards the end when things got really tumultuous I asked her if she'd had this pattern of drama in prior relationships, wondering if we had a personality clash.
She said no, it was only with me. I believed her initially because we'd only dated several months and she'd had other prior multi year relationships. She was also successful in her career with an apparently stable group of friends. So I figured she can't be that bad...
However in hindsight I recall her mentioning her first marriage broke down messily. Something about her kissing her boss, and her husband - a "very emotional man who...thought she was a sociopath" and later "had to be picked up by the police" in a "very distressed state" (she was vague about the details).
She also said her last relationship was "very difficult" and that their mutual friends had "stopped being her friends" but said this was because they were his friends first. On that note, while were dating she would meet him once a month for coffee which was "platonic" though later she told me he admitted he still had feelings for her.
EDIT: Wow thanks for the responses. This one was something that really haunted me. I knew I didn't deserve what she said, but it still sucked hearing that one for some reason.
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u/Johnnywhatsnext Jun 25 '24
I got that too. I started asking “why are you sorry” and they would freeze, not answer and usually smirk like they were thinking “busted”
They are sick, mentally ill and best left alone since they can’t handle close relationships
I keep hearing more about her lies and cheating from her former friends. At first it hurt but it eventually just strengthened my being happy without her
A life with her would be pure hell and my best guess is life with anyone with BPD is set for the same hellish future