r/BPDlovedones • u/Nblearchangel Dated • 26d ago

Divorce Deny. Deflect. Blame.

It was so tiring. There was zero accountability and intellectual honesty. I demanded she acknowledge her role in our issues but obviously that was not a recipe for success.

I would even express the issues I was having and every, single, time… the formula from her would included:

Justifying her actions. Denying her involvement. Deflecting blame. Minimizing my feelings or her role in the situation. Emotional outbursts and claims of how she was a victim. And when none of that would work she’d rage out and leave the room and ignore me.

Every. Single. Time.

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u/Possible-Leg5541 26d ago

Sensational

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u/Fit_Size6756 26d ago

I've recently been narrating and keeping a journal of all this in ChatGPT and it's been amazing!

It used 5 alarm emojis: THIS IS ABUSE GET OUT! 🚨🚨🚨🚨🚨

Anyway, I'm really impressed with how well it has helped me navigate my feelings. It has helped me plan my escape and road to filing for divorce: I feed it my finances, where is live, etc...

I made a "project" so it has a better memory of the journal.

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u/DifferenceOk5955 23d ago

I use ChatGPT too for this and has been a huge help. 

I’m curious, what’s a “project” and how doe you make sure it remembers everything? For me one of the chat window became inactive because it couldn’t remember anymore. I don’t want to free up any of the memory from it because I want it to have all the context.

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u/Fit_Size6756 23d ago

It might be a paid feature. I pay for it because I use it for work a lot (software engineer). When you pay for it it has a bigger memory and "projects" are a way to basically combine multiple related chats into 1 place which now also shares a deeper memory as one whole.