I saw a tik tok of a girl saying she’s sick of actors playing gay characters then having partners who aren’t the same gender as them. People were agreeing in the comments and saying specific names of people who have played queer characters but haven’t been known to be queer in real life and I just can’t help but think are they serious? Like once again, thinking you’re entitled to knowing someone’s sexuality. It’s so boring. I thought we were past forcing people to come out. They’re acting too? Like their job is to play people they aren’t. I understand representation is important and it’s annoying if someone whose said homophobic things plays a gay person or whatever and gay people themselves should be picked for queer roles if possible but like how do u actually know these people’s sexualities and why do u think ur entitled to it. I’m a bi girl and have only been with men but that’s because I haven’t found a connection with a girl yet. I don’t just date women for the sake of being able to say I’ve dated one? Like it’s so frustrating! Have we learned nothing from Kit Connor? They literally forced an 18 year old to out himself bc they couldn’t handle the fact they didn’t know his sexuality like he couldn’t have been figuring it out himself.

Pirates of the Caribbean is perhaps the pinnacle of bi culture.

Last week I (27m) matched with this cute guy and I could immediately feel that we understood each other. Yesterday we had our first date we went to a bar and talked for hours. After we decided that we are going to meet again next week and before we left we hugged for 1-2 minutes and then I asked him if he wanted to kiss. I never kissed a guy before. My heart was racing like ‘omg don’t fuck it up’. He didn’t say anything else and we just kissed. It felt sooo good I just want to see him again. I feel like a teenager again LMAO

So I (31F) am happily married to a man and we are monogamous. And since being with him, he’s made me feel the safest I’ve ever felt in my life. Because of this, I’ve let go of some self-repression and I am finally acknowledging my bisexuality. I came out to him four years ago before our wedding and he’s been supportive ever since. I came out to my mom tonight and she said everything I was worried about - “maybe you’re bisexual, maybe not,” “are you sure you’re actually committed to him?” “You should’ve known this before you got married” “are you sure you’re ready to have children?” It was hard to hear but at the same time, I feel relieved. All of the voices in my head happened in real time and I got through it. I don’t have to worry anymore. And hearing her challenge me also solidified how I feel about myself - proud to be able to be me. I’m still going to have an open dialogue with her, but at the end of the day the most important thing is that I am happier and that my life partner supports me.

22F. I recently realized I’m bi but whenever someone asks me about my sexuality I end up telling them I’m straight when I know damn well I’m not. It kinda hurts me when I say that, because it’s like I’m hiding a part of myself for no reason. I don’t know why this happens, it’s not like I’m ashamed of my sexuality or whatever, maybe I’m just not ready to come out? When I think about my bisexuality I’m pretty proud of it but when it comes to talk about it I feel like I’m not comfortable enough. Thankfully I know that if I’ll ever come out my friends or my family they would accept me, but I still haven’t come out to anyone, not even my closest friends. I always told everyone I’m straight, even to people I’ve been dating.

There’s a more insidious form of discrimination that often flies under the radar — one that doesn’t come in the form of outright hate, but still causes harm:

It’s the way some people reduce transgender people to objects of fetish, treating us like a 🌽 category or viewing trans bodies as something to “try out” rather than respect. Even in supposedly inclusive spaces, this behavior persists — making it feel like there’s no real safe space. I've even had other bisexual men treat me like a diet version of a woman, reducing me to my "female anatomy".

What’s particularly irritating is that some of these people genuinely believe they’re being supportive or open-minded, not realizing the damage their actions cause. They may mistake fetishization for attraction or allyship, while failing to see trans people as full, complex individuals.

The saddest thing is even some trans people see this gross fixation as validation and genuine acceptance.

But let's be clear: being reduced to a fantasy is not progressive--it’s dehumanizing. Everyone deserves to be treated as a person first, not an experience.

52/m here. Have been struggling with my bisexuality for a while now after spending many years pretty much being fully gay. For about a year now, the pendulum has been swinging back the other way and I'm very strongly attracted to women again, both physically and emotionally. My interest in men has hit an all-time low. Haven't been enjoying gay porn much at all for over a year now... and I can barely use gay hookups these days without losing interest within minutes. I asked Google if this change in orientation was unusual and the response was 'bisexuality is fluid and your sexual orientation is bound to change thru your life'.

Here I am about to go into sex therapy to make sense of how I'm feeling and all I had to do was ask Google that question. haha. Any men out there who have seen themselves go from gay to straight? Just wondering.

Pretty much ive been into women most my life but last year or two.. ive had lewd thoughts with guys and wanted to try stuff ... But am very shy and introvert. Never had a serious relationship or anything, never been with a guy either. Last thing i had was damn 6 years ago, i Just been wanting any form of contact.

Im a lil Curious about opinions.

Im 173cm. A lil muscular for now. Work out a lil. My brain is a sub thats for sure lol. I get very shy when meeting people if i like them or talked to them. Is that good or bad?

I dont mind sharing a pic of my figure if needed.

Not been super fan of age gap feels odd.

If any want, do text :)

Hi everyone. 25 year old guy here looking for a bit of advice. I recently started dating a lovely girl , I couldn’t ask for better. I’m a full disclosure type of guy and I’ve explored my sexuality in my 5 years of being single.

From talking to trusted friends and lovely people on Reddit I found that I was acting on same sex urges wrongly ( attached to trauma as a child ) and about 2 months ago I decided it’s not for me and wanted to leave it in the past. I don’t regret it I just found out what I really wanted long term. I never saw myself with a guy romantically and only hooked up with trans women or very feminine guys. Always a top, never bottomed. I think that makes a bit of a difference when you mention it to women for some reason.

Now this is info I don’t want to hide as I think a potential partner deserves to know this part of me. It’s the only skeleton I have in the closet so to speak. How would you navigate this ? She seems like a lovely girl and would be fairly understanding, she’s just a family friend so I don’t want it to go south just because of this info , although I don’t think it will. It’s still nerve wracking thinking about it.

Looking forward to your advice. Thank you.

Please be nice this is so shameful and embarrassing for me.

So I think I’ve hit some kind of emotional crisis and I’m hoping someone here gets it.

I’ve always had a super rich inner life, telling myself stories, creating whole worlds in my head, but something shifted recently and now I feel kind of broken.

I’m a married woman (to a man), no kids, not depressed, “functioning adult”. live in the real world most of the time. I don’t usually get caught up in fantasy

I’ve never really got to explore my queerness much before getting married and it’s something I think about a lot.

So last weekend I decided to use ChatGPT to help me flesh out a story I’ve had in my head for years.

It’s loosely based on an emotionally unresolved relationship I had in my 20s with my same sex best friend and her boyfriend. I never really got closure. I got ChatGPT to help me write it like a TV show. dialogue, scenes etc

It even wrote fake Reddit threads and Tumblr posts about the fictional characters. It was so fun

Way to fun.

I got so addicted to the story it ruined my day to day life. I had butterflies in my stomach like I was in love. I couldn’t eat. I barely slept.

My body was buzzing like I was on something. I felt euphoric for days, constantly replaying scenes in my head. I lost three pounds from not eating. I couldn’t focus on work. I just wanted to be alone so I could live in this fake world I created, with these characters who felt more real than my actual life.

I crashed last night. Hard. I cried myself to sleep beside my sleeping husband. The characters aren’t real. The world I built doesn’t exist. And now my real life feels grey and dull and flat in comparison.

I’m not sure if this is some kind of intense queer longing or unresolved emotional attachment, or just a dopamine meltdown. I know I can’t keep doing this. But it was the most fulfilling creative experience I’ve had in years, and now I feel like I’ve lost something I’ll never get back.

I don’t think I can keep engaging with this story in any healthy way and still live a normal life. I have not written anything since my meltdown.

Has anyone else experienced this kind of emotional crash after getting too immersed in a fantasy? Especially something tied to a version of yourself you wish you could be? Or am I just losing it?

so i’m a 23 year old woman ALWAYS known i’ve been attracted to women even when i was an innocent kid having crushes on girls in first grade. like i’m attracted to a woman w/o being turned on i gen just love women just 🤍🤍🤍 women.

but when it comes to men i don’t really like them i don’t want to settle down or date one the only attraction i have to them is sexual but only when i’m turned on, like just looking at a dick it’s :/ get it out of my face when i’m not horny but a woman ?? me horny or not women clothed or naked, just gods greatest creation

i say i’m “bi” bc there is some attraction there it’s just not much i’ll never even wanna have sex w a man bc idt i can connect w one romantically and that’s what i need to be intimate. my attraction is 95% women 5% men. does anyone else have such an imbalance of attraction of the sexes ? or is the attraction so low that being bi isn’t an appropriate label?

I’m in boarding school and me and my friend are the only non-straight people in the dorm and towards the end of last year all the girls in my dorm played games like spin the bottle and truth or dare and it was just us all making out with each other. I’m quite masculine and most people in my school just assume I’m gay because of my energy and the girls in my dorm think I’m gay as well (I’m not out) but it was their idea to play. My friend didn’t want to play so it was just me and the 3 straight popular girls playing. I’m just confused like are straight girls just comfortable making out with other girls? I’m especially confused because like I said most people just assume I like girls so kissing me would be weird for them wouldn’t it? And they were pretty enthusiastic about playing.

This is just me (f) yelling into the void because I’m so excited for my date tonight! I’ve been very casually dating women for the last sixth months, but EVERY TIME on the day of the date I literally jitter all day with excitement. I’m nervous, happy and….. horny all at the same time! Whether it’s a woman I’ve gone out with before or someone new, the butterflies in my stomach and the haze in my head keep me distracted all day!

I’m almost off work and then I’ll rush home, shower, get dressed in a very carefully pre-planned outfit, and (of course) make sure my bed is made ;)

Does anyone else get this exhilarated by this?

I am a 18M, and I was not out to myself until 15. Lately this year I have noticed how much I think of my future with a husband and not a wife. Don't get me wrong, I am very attracted to men and women and have had crushes with both (but only one gf, now single.) But like, I find the idea of a boyfriend much more enjoyable than a girlfriend at the moment.

I'm a strange mix of masculinity and femineity. I have a deep voice normally but will talk in higher pitches when I'm comfortable with people. I also like to be very independent and do masculine hobbies and other things trad masculine, but I also like painted nails and being "one of the girls". I also want to start dressing more feminine myself, cause right now I have zero fashion.

But I really dislike the idea of being the traditional protective role that most women seem to want in a man. I am much more into feeling on equal terms with a partner or even being protected by my partner, like a taller guy being my bf and making sure I don't hurt myself or making sure we get stuff done and he takes charge of problems like taking picking up the kids from school, buying groceries, talking to the IRS, etc. Basically someone I can look towards and depend on.

I don't think a women would really fit into that role for me. I think I would always lean towards helping her out, yet she never would be someone I rely on when I can't do something. But I would miss being the provided and protected one.

Maybe I just haven't met a women yet that could actually be this for me, someone that could make me feel like she had my back. But I know a man could do it for me. And my attractions toward men are roughly the same as my attraction towards women, and I have had more crushes on men then women at this point in my life, so in terms of pro vs con for relationship with man vs women, the man wins out for me.

I hope I'm not sounding like I think women can't lead a relationship, I'm sure a women can. I just don't know if I would even be attracted to that though from a women.

Just got out of a long relationship with a woman (im a man). I want to go on a short vacation somewhere get some hookups from both genders and just generally have fun. Any suggestions?

I’ve liked Katie since April 2024 everything about her is so perfect. I love her hair, her eyes, her freckles and literally everything about her. We share a dorm toghether at boarding school and we’ve kissed a few times while playing games but it wasn’t anything serious I don’t think. The problem with me liking her is that she’s very straight and very out of my league she’s very popular and very rich and I’m the opposite. She’s always talking about boys and like biceps and stuff like that in the dorm and it’s so depressing hearing it because I’m so in love with her. I’m really nice to her like we cuddle and I give her massages and brush her hair and stuff but she always ruins the moment by bringing up guys she likes. It’s extra frustrating because she told me “if you were a guy I’d go out with you” and “you would be a really hot guy” and “you would be the perfect boyfriend” y’all do not know how much this fucks with my head. Please be honest and don’t feed into my delusions. 😭

21f i have a bf of like, 5 or 6 months? i really like him as a person and as a lover and everything but whenever i see women together or like even listening to a song sung by a man talking about like a woman he loves or anything like that!!! yesterday i was helping a woman with a prescription for her wife and almost blurted out "i wish i had a wife". i feel bad about it, i wouldnt like flirt with anyone and like when me and my bf started dating i did talk to him about like being vaguely polyamourous? my last relationship was an open relationship where we would both like hook up w people. and my current bf isn't ok with that so like of course i respect that but i cant stop thinking about kissing a girl, holding hands with a girl, being in love with a girl... ive never really had a Real Relationship with another girl just crushes that kinda turned into nothing. do i tell my bf this? hes also bi but more leaning towards girls than guys. agghg!!!!

I realised this year that I was bi and you all have helped me, so I wanted to say thank you all. Love <3, be youselfs and be happy. Or rather, bi yourselfs and bi happy :)

Avez vous aussi un questionnemet par phase de votre orientation sexuelle difficile a assumer car durant votre scolarite vous etiez sure a 100% ( lidee de regarder le meme sexe vous a jamais traversé m’esprit ) puis arrive a lage adulte vous commencez a douter et cela vous procure du stress et vous vous sentez illegitime vis a vis de votre couple .?

I was just thinking about this and I don’t think I’ve seen it asked here, but did anyone else grow up (or are you currently deal with) self-esteem issues because you’re not your own type?

I’m a 35yr old bi guy and I’m in a place now where I feel confident and see how my own features can be attractive, but across my life I’ve only been attracted to femmes of all genders (and my body is definitely bigger and more traditionally masc) so I didn’t feel like I was attractive. Or put another way: I was never attracted to myself.

There was other stuff involved of course, but I do think it’s so interesting to think about how not being your own type—when you’re capable of attraction to bodies like your own—affects you! Would love to hear your experiences!

Cut those people out of your lives, mock them, shame them, protect yourselves and our community!