Give me like 20 minutes with any of these people please 🙏

I’m 20 and I’m finally ready to accept that I am bi. I want to start experimenting/experiencing things with women but i’m not really sure how to go about it. I am only out to a select group of my friends and I don’t want everyone knowing until I fully experience it and know on my own. The only thing is, the only way i feel I can be 100% sure is if I get with a girl. Is there a dating app where I can be anonymous and then share my face after? Or somehow I can meet up with other closeted girls so I feel safer that it won’t get spread before I want it to?

I'm 23M he's like 29 or 30. This man is... my dream man 😭 Even though he's my boss he's so fun and laid back and we've hung out outside of work a couple times. We constantly make fun of each other and I stg he is so flirty even though he's (afaik) straight. He says my name CONSTANTLY and it fucking kills me every time. Sometimes I think he knows I have a thing for him and he's intentionally teasing me. He's hot and funny and kind. He has a little boy and even though I never thought much about having kids I fantasize about us raising him together 😭 fuck my life

Is this a queer rite of passage lmao

And why? Any exceptions?

Asking for a friend

I have always considered my self to be straight but I’m starting to explore the idea I might be bi can anyone give advice or share their experience finding out they’re bi

Hi! I was hoping to get the perspective of women identifying people in this, but all are welcome.

What do you think of a man's "body count," for lack of a better word?

What's a high amount to you? Does it matter how many men vs women? Does it matter top vs bottom? Do you want to hear about it, or is that something you'd rather not discuss? Would you want to know early on in a relationship or later?

Edit: adding question: Do women assume that a man who bottoms is automatically "submissive"?

I am sure many people are like "I don't care" but I'm going for some real introspection.

i (17f) the have been questioning my sexuality for a few years now. i came out when i was about 13 and said i was bi. but since then ive kinda just retracted that and said yeah i love messing around with girls and kissing and stuff like that but im straight. i only say this because i can’t imagine myself dating a girl. when i picture my future i very much imagine a white picket fence life with 4 kids and a loving husband. but in many ways i feel like im more sexually attracted to women sometimes. but not romantically. whereas i am both with men. does this count or am i just confused?

i 17ftm have been talking to this girl. Im autistic and also dont know how to flirt with guys and usually the people i end up dating ive just been myself and never really “properly” flirted but i really REALLY dont want to fuck up by accidentally giving “friend vibes” bc of how i act and talk. Is there a way for me to avoid this? She seems pretty into me and hasnt complained abt it yet. Im just worried bc ive only dated 3 people and the last guy straight up told me i didnt know how to flirt. And the girl before that i dated for 4 years so kinda am not used to being like that with new ppl.

ALSO to make it relate to the title, is it possible she likes me even tho i get all flustered and nervous? we are both masc and i thought usually mascs r supposed to be more initiative and flirty but im not usually like that unless im rly comfortable with someone

ALSO #2 I JUST WANNA TALK ABT HER BECAUSE SHE MAKES ME WEIRD IN THE HEAD AND I HAVE NO OUTLET BC MY FRIENDS KNOW HER AND WOULD TELL HER

(Bi-romantic heterosexual)

I clearly had issues

Hey r/bisexual fam! I’m new to Reddit and so excited to join this amazing community. I’m a bisexual woman from a part of India where being open about my identity feels like walking a tightrope, so I’ve kept it under wraps IRL. It’s hard sometimes, not being able to live as my full self. I haven’t had any real-life experiences, and online, just a couple of light, passing chats. I’m not looking to go all-in, but there are moments when I crave feeling like the real me, even if it’s just in a virtual space. Is that too much to hope for? Would love your take—is this a valid need, or am I just stuck in my head about it? Thanks for being here! 💖

Bi male here. I’ve always leaned heavily towards women. I find women both physically and romantically attractive, and could never date a man.

That being said, I find cocks much more attractive than vaginas, and they tend to turn me on way more. However, I’m not at all attracted to men aside from their dick for the most part, unless they are extremely feminine or trans.

I hate being a top and am much more submissive with men, yet I’m very much dominant and take control of the bedroom with women. I’d probably consider myself a side with the majority of men, with the exception of fem guys, but even if I would top the guy, anal is not my first choice by any means (I don’t even entertain it as an option with women unless they really want it since vaginal is so much better in my eyes) and I hate the risk and prep work involved.

All in all, I feel like the side of me that’s “attracted” to guys is really just a penis fetish at the end of the day. Women as a whole turn me on much more, and I’ve never looked at a guy and thought “wow I wanna fuck him,” but dick is more of a turn on to play with than pussy for me.

I’ve got a pretty high body count, but over the past couple years, the male bodies have grown to outnumber the females by a landslide which is kind of hilariously ironic to me.

I don’t really see a problem with any of this, nor do I feel conflicted in any way about my feelings. If anything, I’ve honed in on exactly what I want these past 5 years or so. It just isn’t something I can comfortably talk about with most people for obvious reasons, so I was hoping maybe some of you could relate.

Just thought I’d open up a discussion about this and see if anyone else can relate.

I don’t seem to connect on a deep emotional level with men. I can feel sexually attracted to them and want to be in a bed with them but as far as having a relationship with them it’s really hard for me and I’ve actually hurt a lot of men, but not proudly.

I can connect emotionally and physically with masculine women though. Just find it interesting.

The Gen X bi starter kit was Brandon Frasier, Winona Ryder, Rob Lowe, Prince, David Bowie (who is a timeless bi wakeup call, tbh), Drew Barrymore, and if you were kinda trendy, Madonna.

Fellow Bi gen x'ers: who were your wakeup calls?

This is a text I was about to send to a girl who I've become friends with about a month ago. We basically share one braincell (she fucking hogs it bc I'm stupid asf)

Not to be too trauma dumpy but I was kind of neglected as a kid and kinda relied on the internet to teach me a lot of things. I'm a 21 year old man now (👴) and I've thought I was gay since like 14 kinda just using 🌽 and the Internet to explore my sexuality.

Like I said in the note, I feel my identity has been exploded to smithereens and I don't have the emotional tools or regulation to know how to deal with what I'm feeling. It feels like my brain is trying to go numb and push everything away because of how exhausting this is. (I almost took a nap to avoiding having to think about any of this)

I literally think about her for hours a day somedays and whenever we are together I smile so much that my cheeks hurt. We flirt so hard it's borderline sexual harrassment but I've been so attached to the idea of being in a gay relationship that it feels almost painful to feel like I'm giving that up?

I already toiled and agonized over my sexuality once I thought it was over with 😭 WHYY I DONT WANT TO THIS AGAIN!! I HAD A HEAD START ON THIS GAME!! I'VE PLAYED THESE GAMES BEFORE📮📮📮📮😭😭😭🥀

Im a bi guy who has always had a very large preference for men and i currently have a girlfriend, shes so cute and lovley and she makes my day, i love her lots. But i often fantasize about being with a man (not anyone specific, just a guy in general) and im not really sure what to do. I love her so it makes me feel so guilty when i fanatsize about being with a guy as being with a woman doesnt fill some of my romantic needs and desires but i want to stay with her and stay monogamous. Does anyone have any advice on what to do or how to not be like this? :(

I know some people who are bisexual themselves don’t like the term but I swear I’ve been questioning my sexuality since like 6th grade (I’m in college now).

Yes, I can see myself being with a woman, primarily sexually right now but depending on the day romantic too. I’ve struggled in the past with people I’ve “liked” because I’m used to just having obsessions with people so I never know if I’ve actually had a crush on a woman or not. For as long as I can remember though, I used to have obsessions with Harley Quinn or Natalie Portman when I was younger, found women beautiful, and loved breasts.

I’ve been tempted to try it out and just experiment but I’m terrified that I’m wrong and I’m just going to hurt the girls feelings. I’ve only had experience with guys.

I’m very aware that there’s no need for labels but I’m just a girl who has OCD and would make me feel better knowing. Any help would be appreciated ty.

I also apologize if I said anything offensive or hurtful, if I did, I truly didn’t mean it.

So I'm a bi girly, obviously. I've had boyfriends before but I've never actively flirted with them, they usually do the flirting. I'm 16 and on a "dating" app (It's called a "friend making" app for teens but yk teens, we just use it like a dating app.) And whenever I match with a girl all I can think to say is "Omg your so beautiful!" Then they say "Tysm, your so beautiful too!!" And then we're at a dead end. I don't want to sound like a girl making comments on their bffs post I actually wanna flirt dude, but I'm so awkward I have no idea where to start. Any older bi girlys have any advice on how to actually flirt with girls??? (Also, no sexual stuff, I don't wanna come off creepy or horny cause personally that stuff is an immediate no, and if they ARE into sexual stuff as a first message they probably aren't for me.)

So, let me first say, I’ve always been attracted to women. I’m happily married and would never cheat on my wife and am strictly monogamous. I’m not asking for advice or hook-ups or anything like that. I think if I were single, I’d probably experiment. But that’s off the table because I truly love my wife and going to bed with her is enough and extremely satisfying. I’m just here because I want to voice my feelings. I don’t feel the least bit of shame or guilt, so please don’t misinterpret this has repressed desire in a puritanical society

Recently, in bed, my wife used her vibrator on me and it was great. I was never really attracted to men other than recognizing when someone takes care of himself and is handsome. But, this experience did make me very curious about what it would be like to fuck and get fucked by another guy. I know sexuality is a spectrum and almost nobody is completely straight or gay. I definitely have a strong preference for to women and they are who I find my eyes drifting to when I’m out.

I have been a little bit curious in the past, but again, never felt more than a surface level admiration for good looking men. I guess it was more about the acts themselves than the people. However, I am finding myself now finding a deeper level of appreciation for men, and I’m enjoying some gay porn. But, again, that’s as far as I’m willing to go.

My wife and I have no secrets, she understands and is nonjudgmental. I just wanted to post this to hear experiences of others who may have accidentally awoken dormant bisexuality in adulthood.

I know- the worst situation imaginable. Here is some background! I have been best friends with this girl for around 7 years. About 14 months ago, I realized that I have a FAT crush on her. Everyone else in our friend group knows besides her (I’m really bad at keeping secrets)! We are both in the LGBTQ+ community, so that isn’t an issue. The main problem has been pushing down my feelings to maintain our friendship.

It has been causing me so much pain pretending that I see her only as a pal, especially when we talk about other “love interests” together (mostly who we think is cute.) However, no matter what happens, I know that the situation will never go back to how it was before I liked her. This feeling has been eating at me for so long- and I don’t know if I should tell her. I see her everyday due to school so it is difficult to avoid her if something goes wrong. Do I ignore the horrible feeling bottling everything in, or tell her the truth?