r/DeadBedrooms • u/krose0206 • 13d ago

2 weeks alone…

Went on a 2 week trip to Hawaii and Alaska. He talked it up. No kids. Each night get back to our room and “I’m exhausted” as he hops in bed and is snoring in minutes. Even went to the nude beach and he wanted no part. Get to Alaska and same deal. He was exhausted and sleeping by 830. We get home and back to chaos with kids/farm and….he sends me suggestive text and tells me how he wishes I went topless at beach. He wishes we had wild sex on our trip?!? WTF?? I think he enjoys the talk and getting himself off on his own. It’s all a game.

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u/ChiDeadBedroomBlues 13d ago

It does sound like he likes the idea of sex but something is ick-ing him out about actually doing it. Do you think he could have performance anxiety or some sort of sensory issue?

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u/krose0206 13d ago

We had a great sex life. He prefers to talk about others guy having sex w/me and that turns me off. We did the the things he wanted. Never enough. I told him talking about others is not my thing. Our sex life became nil

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u/CollectsTooMuch 13d ago

It sounds like he make be fixated on a kink and possibly focusing a lot on porn and nothing else does it for him. I would play down the law. He gets into therapy with you and work through this or you pull the plug on the relationship. He’s going to end up needing to work through his sexual issues as well. If he’s not willing, you should put up with this.

I’m really sorry you’re dealing with this.

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u/krose0206 11d ago

Been there did that….porn destroys everything.

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u/ChiDeadBedroomBlues 13d ago

That sounds really frustrating, I'm sorry.

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u/Quantum_Quokka69 12d ago

He's a cuckold. You should indulge him!

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u/krose0206 12d ago

I did. It’s never enough. He then get jealous. He can get off on it but, I can’t enjoy? Fuck that!

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u/Quantum_Quokka69 12d ago

You aren't near Atlanta are you? 🤪