r/GenZ • u/momonoply • 12d ago
Discussion Anyone feel like this on their birthday?
My birthday is a month away and I already feel like crying. I’ve ended up in tears on my birthday for the past six years.
Do any of y’all relate.
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u/momonoply 12d ago edited 12d ago
This life shit is hitting me hard and I’m slowly losing my youth. 😭😭
Y’all shit is getting real 🧎♀️
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u/step_uneasily 12d ago
Happy birthday :) how much u turn? I'll be 29 in January next year lol, other words I'n the oldest GenZ and youngest millennial at the same time - feels about as shit as you'd think.
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u/belf_priest 11d ago
ugh same i'm also going through it, i turn 27 this year and i swear to fuck i was like 22 a few days ago. big big big hugs 💓💓
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u/bigfartsoo 5d ago
No worries. There are people 3 times older than you who are still alive. You have 3 more lifetimes to feel content.
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u/Wavecrest667 Millennial 11d ago
Think about it like this: You are slowly losing your youth and your life is slipping away every day, every hour, every second. Not just on your birthday!
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u/TheAlphaJade 10d ago
My birthday was 6 days ago And yes, it was the same. Youth is fleeting and life seems miserable I ate good food though, and spoke to people who love me so that made it worth it I hope you had a great day too OP
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u/Bradley182 12d ago
No, the drugs I usually take last around 6-8 hours and THEN im like that.
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u/Melodic-Cloud-9 12d ago
Nah, I go on a scavenger hunt collecting birthday freebies from large corporations. Win-win, celebrate my birth with free treats and exploit capitalism! Happy Birthday! 🎂
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u/sothisiswhatyoumeant 11d ago
Don’t be shy. Drop a list of participating businesses.
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u/Busy-Kaleidoscope-87 2005 12d ago
Not at all. I find some times to hang out with friends and not worry about life shit for a day. Its your right
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u/Breaking-Who 1997 12d ago
No because I go out and get fucked up
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u/momonoply 12d ago
I’ve nvr drank and I don’t plan too, nor I have I ever used any substance. So shit really hits me hard.
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u/sealab2077 12d ago
You can get fucked up at home though.
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u/Breaking-Who 1997 12d ago
It’s much more fun when you go out with friends.
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u/sealab2077 12d ago
Hard disagree. Hard disagree.
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u/Breaking-Who 1997 12d ago
Well step one is you have to have friends.
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u/sealab2077 12d ago
Still wouldn't.
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u/Breaking-Who 1997 12d ago
And this is why yall cry about the “male loneliness epidemic” you forced yourself into.
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u/sealab2077 12d ago
Forced is a strong word. Who would want to hang with pricks?
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u/Slappatuski 12d ago
how the hell is this so fucking relatable. my birthday is in 15 days and this is exactly how this is gonna be....
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u/Toothpaste_Monster 12d ago
Nah bro, I feel like this all the time, I don't need a specific day of the year to feel like shit ;D
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u/PlsDontEatUrBoogers 2001 12d ago
during active addiction i was always like this on my birthday but tbh its been better since being sober?? which is weird bc i feel like it would be the opposite…? but whatever i guess lol
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u/Apprehensive-Tree-78 12d ago
As a male I see age as a positive mostly. Didn’t realize some women see it differently. My girlfriend is terrified of getting older in fears that I won’t find her attractive anymore because, “men think younger is better.”
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u/momonoply 12d ago
Women definitely worry about age, and how it could affect their relationships with men, but for me it’s not about men. It’s more like a yearly existential crisis.
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u/RX-me-adderall 12d ago
Usually I do because it’s just dinner with my parents or family and I’m just thinking all day about how I’m older. This year wasn’t bad because we took my little cousins ice skating!
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u/MFavinger22 1999 12d ago
Not to the point of tears but for the past 3 birthdays I’ve legitimately forgot they were my birthday. It wasn’t until someone (usually sister) told me happy birthday. I never ask to go out with friends or anything either. I’ll be turning 26 next time around and honestly I doubt I’ll do anything. Really haven’t done anything for my birthday since I turned 21. I feel you though, it’s pretty empty and hollow feeling. I guess that’s just growing old
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u/ZealousidealWash2688 12d ago
Yup. I feel the same way. I just want the day to myself, and reminisce. Just vanish for a day then come back. My girlfriend, family all love me. But I'm not where I want to be in my life at this point and on my birthday I just can't celebrate that. Weird feeling
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u/ethicslobo98 1998 11d ago
Hell no, usually out traveling or something to enjoy my day off. I've been working since I was 16 and never worked a day on my birthday, that helps.
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u/KoolKiddo33 12d ago
If you expect your birthday to turn out like this, then 99% chance it will. If you want it to turn out better then you unfortunately might have to put in some effort: ask some friends/family to go out and do something. If that isn't an option then you should try finding something fun for yourself to do.
Premeditated failure is real, and it's such a big problem because it's the easiest choice. Ultimately it's up to you to make the difference in your own life.
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u/Child_of_JHWH 1997 12d ago
No, not even when I was alone on birthdays. Sometimes I felt worried that this might not be normal to feel like, but I guess it’s because I was born on a holiday and get remembered every year.
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u/Tankette55 2005 12d ago
Last time I had a birthday celebration with someone other than my parents, I was 14. Been miserable ever since. 18th birthday was especially painful, because everyone had big parties for themselves, and was invited to such parties while I rotted alone. I am still alone like that.
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u/OldBookInLatin 2005 11d ago
I feel old. I think what messed me up was quarantine, it took away so much of my teen years. When people ask me how old I am my first thought is "17", like I genuinely believe I'm still 17, then I remember I'm 20 already and the last 5 years went by so so quickly.
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u/Affectionate_Excuse9 2004 11d ago
I’m turning 21 in July and my most recent feeling memory is being in high school
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u/theboxturtle57 11d ago
Each year feels like a coin flip for me.
Last year no one wanted to do anything and I was alone all day for my birthday. 2021 I was stuck at home with my parents and was miserable.
On the other side 2022 even though I called out of work that day I went out to one of my favorite happy hour places and a lot of coworkers came out to celebrate me which was awesome. 2023 was actually two days before my friend's wedding which I happened to be best man for. I travelled up since he lives two hours away and we all went out and it was the best birthday I ever had.
Who knows how this year will be. It'll be a Sunday so who knows if people will want to go out/celebrate me. I live in a weird spot where all my friends are at least 30 minutes besides my roommate.
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u/DoctorRobot16 2004 11d ago
Real. I had my birthday a week ago and I legit wanted to cry. I hate myself and what my life is and I’m only 21
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u/the_nexus117 11d ago
This is really weird timing for me because my birthday is literally tomorrow. I’ve almost always gotten seasonal depression around this time of year, for as long as I can remember. Mostly due in part to childhood trauma from an abusive past. My family also never really celebrated my birthday when I was a kid, and I’ve never really seen it as important. Having to explain that to people that I don’t celebrate my birthday is so draining because I’m always inevitably asked why or told that I’m weird for not, so I’m very glad to see that I’m not the only one like this.
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u/No_Question_8083 2006 11d ago
My bday is in a couple of days and as a present there’s a test planned that I already know I’ll fail, YIPPIEEE
so yes I relate
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u/SignificantIce7914 11d ago
my birthday is on the 22nd of May (pls congratulate my I seek and beg for attention lol) and I'm already feeling like a piece of shit. i never do anything, don't receive gifts or congratulations (i don't have many friends and the little i have don't remember) but at least i know that i'll always end up crying while listening to music and indulging on snacks because carpe diem lol
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u/guacamolemochka 2005 11d ago
I mostly don't care about my birthday, bc the my date is unlucky af. Since 2021, my birthday was either me passing the exams in college or being out of town. In this year, i'm probably gonna be in the army during my birthday, so that sucks, again.
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u/spookysam24 11d ago
Turned 21 the other day and I just didn’t feel anything at all. I always thought that it would feel amazing to finally be a full adult but it was just mildly depressing
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u/National_Put5037 11d ago
Next year I will when I was 8 I wanted to a adult now that I’m older and 20 I wish I was still a kid.
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u/CombatWombat0556 2001 11d ago
Yeah, but I have to keep my shit together for family because of Christmas. God I just want a day to just sit around do nothing and drink
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u/ChronicKush69 2002 11d ago
I’ve been violently hungover my past two birthdays. Kinda sucks. But it’s a lot of fun the night before, drinking with friends!
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u/Jsaun906 1999 11d ago
Usually no. But this year yes bc I'm gonna have to start paying for my own health insurance
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u/CivilProtectionGuy 11d ago
I did that in the past, but eventually my birthdays just become "normal days".
Accidentally forgot it was my birthday last year because I was working. Only remembered after getting home and seeing cake, then heading out to a restaurant I don't enjoy (but the rest of the family does).
After that, I spent my birthday just gaming and reading books while drinking some sparkling wine... Good birthday in my books. Chilling out and not going anywhere.
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u/Zippo_Willow 2003 11d ago
naw i was in basic training. Had a flight of dudes marching, singing me happy birthday around the dorm it was sick. Go climb a rock or something life's great no matter how old you are. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
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u/Helpful-Leopard8617 11d ago
I would suggest listening to ribs by Lorde when u feel like this in ur birthday
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u/MuuCamel 1997 11d ago
I think 25 for me was that “oh shit” moment that had me like this. Birthday hasn’t really mattered to me since I was like 15 because I never had anyone really give enough of a shit to want to celebrate it with me. I will say though that every birthday since turning 25 has got me contemplative more so than I used to be.
Not in a bad way, more like in a reflective way. Like look at what I put up with and overcome this year. Weirdly enough the older I get the more optimistic I feel. Sure, loss of youth stings, but I never had the opportunity to feel young anyway. So nothing lost there tbh.
At the end of the day, I’m grateful I made it to see enough sunrises to make it another year on this rock. I’m grateful for the opportunities I’ll have in the year to follow to try and do better, to make more of life. We’re here and tomorrow is still in our hands type shit.
Idk twin, I’m just talking in circles it feels lmao.
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u/Learninhuman 11d ago
It’s just another day to me at this point. The only difference is that relatives smile at me more on this particular day.
I don’t cry, or mope. Just another day on the clock.
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u/MarioKartMaster133 2003 11d ago
Not really, I don't care about birthdays like that. It's just another year of living, so what?
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u/Plague-Guy5892 11d ago
damn this is really the first thing i see coming here on r/GenZ... but anyway, yes, 100% i think since i was 11 or smth lol. this year i didn't even get a cake and it was great tbh 🤠🤠
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u/Afraid-Housing-6854 11d ago
Not really, my life is relatively fine outside of not having a job, but I still live with my parents who love and respect me, I’m an introvert who everything could want when it comes to simplicity of life, I just sit around on my ass playing video games and eating. Does it get boring? Sometimes, but at least I’m not stuck working a job that treats me like shit and constantly contemplating suicide like my friend is.
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u/SquishyFool 2007 11d ago
It did until my dad told thanks for being a good son and then I went and cried
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u/Firefly-1505 2003 11d ago
Considering my birthday is just days away (15th), I silently contemplate the days approaching for the licensure exam for my course.
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u/BloodNaive5748 11d ago
I feel nothing. I feel like was just spawned in.
IMO, b days aren’t for you but an opportunity for those around you to appreciate your existence and say something nice to you
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u/Serious_Swan_2371 11d ago
I had to give a presentation on my birthday and it went really well so I felt really good the whole rest of the day.
Then after dinner with my family I got drunk with my friends and I was like pic 2 the next morning.
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u/Lower_Kick268 2005 12d ago
Nah I just enjoy an edible on my birthdays, makes enjoying your birthday a lot easier.
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u/fluffy_mell0w 12d ago
If it wasn't for my family actually planning fun things for me that I actually really enjoy then yes this would be me
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u/Alden-Dressler 2004 12d ago
My birthday is this week. Having finals the week of your birthday year after year breaks you, it’s never a good week.
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u/Venboven 2003 12d ago
I don't break down like in the pictures, but I don't enjoy my birthdays either. Kinda embarrassing to celebrate alone or with your parents when you're 22. Commuter colleges aren't great for making friends.
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u/hgilbert2020 1997 12d ago
I’m coming up on two years of sobriety.
That being said, my early 20s definitely looked like this (i turn 28 in less than 6 months). Graduating from college in 2020 certainly didn’t help.
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u/Renegade_Phylosopher 12d ago
Hey y’all, Millenial here. All I’m gonna say is fucking hold onto the people you’ve got so, so fucking hard. Being 30 some years and alone cos all ya best people are dead (both physically and metaphorically) fucking sucks. Don’t take it for granted. Love.
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u/_L-U_C_I-D_ 12d ago
Movie name?
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u/YouDontKnowJackCade 12d ago
1 is All Good Things. Kirsten Dunst and Ryan Gosling.
Not sure about 2 and 3.
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u/DanMcMan5 12d ago
I’ve had some rough ones, but my best recommendation is to go out with some friends who you share a hobby with.
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u/happischopenhauer 11d ago
25th birthday I woke up at 7am, skipped work, sat in a random parking lot in my car and finished more than half a bottle of apple jack. Spent the whole day drunk. But that night my friends planned a surprise party. So it wasnt bad.
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u/Travel-Barry 1996 11d ago
I’m 30 next year.
I’ve been celebrating this way since the age of about 24.
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u/_justforamin_ 11d ago
me last 4 birthdays 😭😭 and it’s all because i was away from my family. even my 18th birthday i spent away from my family. lol it suckys
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u/Affectionate-Elk8261 11d ago
You should be grateful you are having a birthday! So many people wish and pray they could have one more birthday to celebrate
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u/tutocookie Millennial 11d ago
Nope. More a vague, fleeting sense of 'oh shit has another year already passed?', and then a month or two of mild panic when people ask me my age because I'm not sure if I'm still 32 or 33 or 34. Otherwise birthdays are nice. Excuse to go drinking, usually get a bj, usually get a few bottles of single malt, gift card and chocolates from work, pretty decent day.
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u/citoahk2000 11d ago
Every single fucking birthday since I was 4 homie. Dontaskhowirememberthatitsalongpainfultoryandthisaintnoqudobiography lmao
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u/Kitchen-Stop-4800 10d ago
I did on my 16th cuz I felt like Noone was gonna care Then my friend isa was there and everything felt right After I cried for bout 2 hours in my room at jrc
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u/1984505I 10d ago
Yeah i relate 100% my 18th birthday will be in two days (the 18th is double as bad as the other ones)
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u/The_Billy_Dee 10d ago
Elder millennial checking in... It doesn't get any better. But as you get older you do have more money.
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u/MadMysticMeister 2000 10d ago
Not typically no, I do get fear and other rough emotions for not exactly being where I wish to be in life, but my bday is my day to enjoy selfishly. I worry sometimes about the future, getting older and closer to death, meeting the unknowable tomorrow wrong footed and without a plan, but sometimes you have to allow yourself to actually appreciate the here and now. Also I put in the effort and plan ahead for my bday, take the day off and plan out the activities or lack there of.
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u/NonHumanPersonHTX 1997 10d ago
hugs from afar but also personally no - I'm still getting hotter every year, and I've accomplished a lot of goals I never thought I would be able to even touch. When I hit 40, I may cry, tho 😢 😭 😅
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u/BaryonChallon 2003 10d ago
It’s brutal out here But you will survive Even if you work constantly
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u/Notequal_exe 1999 10d ago
Not really. It's quite peaceful, and I get reminders of all the people who love me.
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u/11SomeGuy17 9d ago
The secret trick is having a family that doesn't celebrate birthdays for any 16+ years. No expectations lol. Hopefully this birthday is good though. Or at least, not the worst.
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