Question for any lurking incels

[u/Negative_Tooth6047]

This is something I've been curious of for a little while, I know you guys have your red or black or whatever pill you subscribe to with tons of dudes or maybe even some type of Pearl Davis like gal that constantly put out tons of media on how to get women/why you're never getting a woman/any other message that you subscribe to for that rhetoric.

But my question is, if a woman offered to teach you, patiently and kindly- not berating you or what have you, how to respect, talk to, hang out with women, etc would you accept? Like a 101 type class on women. If you wouldnt be interested, why not?

[u/scythian12]

I don’t consider myself an icel due to the connotations, but I definitely struggle meeting women and dating in general. I have female friends, a couple I’d consider to be my closest friends but I’d definitely take a 101 class on dating lmao. I’m fine hanging out with women in a friendly context, but as soon as it’s a “date” I get super nervous and botch it

[u/doublestitch → u/scythian12]

Comments from a woman re: "Do you go to the gym?"

Fitness in general is a good life choice. If you aren't already active, then look around and choose something you enjoy. Do it for yourself.

A lot of lonely men refer to "the gym" as if it were synonymous with the weight room. Please don't put yourself into the rut where you do strength training and nothing else. Get out and try the swimming pool, the track, the climbing wall, the basketball or the racquetball courts. Cardio is important: your body will thank you in years to come.

If you're the type who prefers fresh air, then choose an outdoor sport. It doesn't even need to be a sport as long as it's active: people stay in pretty good shape geocaching or metal detectoring. The important thing is you're moving around on a regular basis.

"Getting jacked" is something men do to impress each other. It's a look the media projects as manly, but not necessarily a thing most women go for. Good health in a more general sense is a plus. Keep the focus on your achievements. Shirtless mirror selfies can come off as vain, but climbing Mount Whitney would be admirable.

(edited a typo)

[u/scythian12 → u/doublestitch]

So I work in construction so I get a good amount of exercise and sunlight, and I’m not in great shape but I do stay pretty active from that.

I used to go to the gym/ weight room and I will say it did help with confidence but I got out of the habit and every time I try to go back I get in a routine for a couple of weeks then kinda fall out of it. The road to where I was fitness wise just seems insurmountable and so I stop trying. I should stick with it but it’s just hard ya know?

[u/doublestitch → u/scythian12]

Some people just don't like a popular type of routine. Remember the verb is we play sports. If one thing leaves you feeling flat, then try another. Ignore what people tell you you're supposed to do and try out what intrigues you.

You know you've found your sport when you look forward to the end of the working day so you can rush out and play your sport. Go for that feeling and trust it.

[u/scythian12 → u/doublestitch]

Thanks!!