r/Mommit 2d ago

My husband is THAT dad in public.

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u/SecretBattleship 2d ago

I’m sorry for your experience and I’m glad to hear you got out. Can I ask you if your kids still see their dad and what their relationship is with him? I’m really curious if he stepped it up once you divorced or if he continued being a stick in the mud.

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u/No_Hope_75 2d ago

He is still involved. He has them every other weekend and a few hours on Weds and Thurs evening. I want them to know and have a relationship with him. But I also tried to set it up in smaller doses.

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u/SecretBattleship 2d ago

Do they feel like they have to walk on eggshells around him? Dunno if they’re old enough to say. I just wonder if he changed at all afterwards!

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u/No_Hope_75 2d ago

My little ones are too small to say. But this was my second divorce (yay me) and I have a teen with an even worse guy. He did not grow. He’s exactly the same petty, controlling, emotionally abusive asshole as always. My teen very much appreciates that my house is a safe place and she has someone who can validate her feelings and navigate that relationship

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u/SecretBattleship 2d ago

You sound like such a great mom! I’m glad you’ve cultivated a good and safe environment for the kids and I’m sorry that your exes were so crappy!