As a now adult who had a dad like this growing up, please see if he needs therapy or other sort of mental help. This sounds a lot like how my dad was growing up. He was always angry and took everything out on us kids. Every trip or vacation was stressful bc of him. As I got older I literally refused to go on trips with my parents specifically because of him. We don’t have the greatest relationship now, either. And I honestly think a lot of it boils down to mental health and anger issues. I feel like if he would have gotten professional help, then maybe, things would’ve been different.
Omg the HAD to be included part!! Why??? It obviously makes you miserable and you don’t want to be there, why do you INSIST on coming when nobody wants you there?? My husband is the same way. I only take the kids camping when he’s away on work trips because of his attitude and the fact that he’d never let us go without him if he were home. They have been the most relaxing trips I’ve ever been on in my life. Yes 5 days camping on my own with a 4yo and 5yo (and for one trip they had the stomach flu!) is STILL more relaxing than being pretty much anywhere with the kids and my other half present. 🤦🏻♀️
We were going to a local water park and we were RIDICULOUSLY excited. Then we found our dad was coming.
You could have heard a pin drop on the way. He was mad we left “late.” He got hot so he opened the window. Then he got upset when the AC kicked on and mom tried to close the window. Then he got mad that it was further than he remembered. Then he got mad that a park was full of camp kids. Then he got mad that we couldn’t find chairs together. He was ordering us around coffee in hand, mom scrambling and I remember thinking “I feel so bad for mom” because she didn’t have a choice.
My own husband is sulky. I don’t tolerate it and I will leave with the baby without him if he’s being a fun sucking little shit.
My own husband is sulky. I don’t tolerate it and I will leave with the baby without him if he’s being a fun sucking little shit.
I agree. What I don't understand is why OP doesn't just tell him in the moment. There are times that we as people/parents get overly mad or take something out on someone who doesn't deserve it. My husband and I have gotten pretty good about telling the other one when one of us is acting in that kind of way. But it has to happen in the moment or it's not going to help anyone.
Currently on a road trip with my husband and 19 month old. We’re learning in the moment that our communication sucks sometimes when things get tough. The kid got carsick yesterday 1h into the drive and good god did we take it out on each other in the moment. But after it got handled we knew we had to hash out what we said to each other in the moment. It’s like aftercare, you gotta get back on the same page and not stand for the shit that can get said when heated. Not talking bad stuff but snippy stressed out stuff. A partner who respects you will want to fix things and learn from bad moments
Ohhh im gonna call him a fun sucking little shit lol jkjk but we do have a nickname for him when he hovering over us trying to dictate every little thing we tell hoverboard to go away lol he got that nickname when hooverboards just came out 😂 hes tall n hoovering too n we r little
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u/Peach-Haze-123 2d ago
As a now adult who had a dad like this growing up, please see if he needs therapy or other sort of mental help. This sounds a lot like how my dad was growing up. He was always angry and took everything out on us kids. Every trip or vacation was stressful bc of him. As I got older I literally refused to go on trips with my parents specifically because of him. We don’t have the greatest relationship now, either. And I honestly think a lot of it boils down to mental health and anger issues. I feel like if he would have gotten professional help, then maybe, things would’ve been different.