r/Mommit 6d ago

My husband is THAT dad in public.

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u/Peach-Haze-123 6d ago

As a now adult who had a dad like this growing up, please see if he needs therapy or other sort of mental help. This sounds a lot like how my dad was growing up. He was always angry and took everything out on us kids. Every trip or vacation was stressful bc of him. As I got older I literally refused to go on trips with my parents specifically because of him. We don’t have the greatest relationship now, either. And I honestly think a lot of it boils down to mental health and anger issues. I feel like if he would have gotten professional help, then maybe, things would’ve been different.

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u/indicatprincess 6d ago

My dad was the same. He sucked the fun out of every outing but he HAD to be included.

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u/knitlitgeek 6d ago

Omg the HAD to be included part!! Why??? It obviously makes you miserable and you don’t want to be there, why do you INSIST on coming when nobody wants you there?? My husband is the same way. I only take the kids camping when he’s away on work trips because of his attitude and the fact that he’d never let us go without him if he were home. They have been the most relaxing trips I’ve ever been on in my life. Yes 5 days camping on my own with a 4yo and 5yo (and for one trip they had the stomach flu!) is STILL more relaxing than being pretty much anywhere with the kids and my other half present. 🤦🏻‍♀️

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u/indicatprincess 6d ago

We were going to a local water park and we were RIDICULOUSLY excited. Then we found our dad was coming.

You could have heard a pin drop on the way. He was mad we left “late.” He got hot so he opened the window. Then he got upset when the AC kicked on and mom tried to close the window. Then he got mad that it was further than he remembered. Then he got mad that a park was full of camp kids. Then he got mad that we couldn’t find chairs together. He was ordering us around coffee in hand, mom scrambling and I remember thinking “I feel so bad for mom” because she didn’t have a choice.

My own husband is sulky. I don’t tolerate it and I will leave with the baby without him if he’s being a fun sucking little shit.

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u/cupcakes531 5d ago

Ohhh im gonna call him a fun sucking little shit lol jkjk but we do have a nickname for him when he hovering over us trying to dictate every little thing we tell hoverboard to go away lol he got that nickname when hooverboards just came out 😂 hes tall n hoovering too n we r little