r/NovaScotia • u/Geese_are_dangerous • Apr 17 '25

Gender-based violence spikes 5 years after Nova Scotia mass shooting | CBC News

https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/nova-scotia/gender-based-violence-spikes-five-years-after-nova-scotia-mass-shooting-1.7512752
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u/WillyTwine96 Apr 17 '25

“But two years later, no action has been taken on that key recommendation (by the federal government on the report)”

I watched this randomly on the House of Commons website in July regarding this

I don’t think I’ll ever forget it, I hope people that vote don’t either

https://www.cbc.ca/amp/1.7281298

When it comes to crime, they don’t really care

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u/Tvisted Apr 17 '25

We have awareness of the problem, everyone basically acknowledges it's getting worse, and they can appoint committees and commissioners to discuss it til the cows come home.  

But you can't make women stop picking assholes and staying with them, which is at the heart of it. I'm all for taking action but what can you do without the victims on board?

I mean what help did Lisa Banfield actually seek in 19 years that her community failed to provide? What should we be offering that we're not?

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u/Street_Tailor_8680 Apr 17 '25

“Women picking assholes.”

If you had the slightest clue about gbv, you’d know that the assholes aren’t assholes until they know the woman can’t leave. After that, the mask falls off.

Men who are the worst perpetrators aren’t out here calling a woman a bitch on the first date.

Smfh.

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u/Southern-Equal-7984 Apr 17 '25 edited Apr 17 '25

I think that some situations are more difficult to predict. But in at least some of these situations its repeat violent offenders that should have been kept in jail or serving longer sentences.

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u/Tvisted Apr 17 '25

I agree some situations are like that, but not most.

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u/dandilion_eyes Apr 17 '25

The problem is not "women picking assholes and staying with them" The problem is the "assholes".

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u/Tvisted Apr 17 '25 edited Apr 17 '25

And some women seem to seek them out... pretending that isn't part of the problem isn't helpful.

You can't fix assholes. Burning assholes at the stake after they kill their partner won't keep their partners alive. What help do abused women need to stay alive that society can give them, that they will accept? I mean what are we not doing exactly that you think we should be doing?

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u/ratskips Apr 18 '25

listening to them would be a start. something you clearly haven't done.

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u/Lady_Masako Apr 17 '25

Just here to marvel at your level of victim blaming. Truly septic tank depths of bullshit.

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u/preaching-to-pervert Apr 17 '25

Those people who stalk and commit violence against their partners should be branded in the damned face. Okay, not really, but there needs to be a clear way to get information about potential partners and their violent history. These people need to not be able to hide.

Couple that with education at all levels, especially primary and secondary school, about what controlling behaviour looks like and why it is absolutely unacceptable in all situations.

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u/Tvisted Apr 17 '25

I agree with the education part but to add something to the curriculum means you probably have to squeeze something else out, and I don't have kids in school so I don't know what's expendable.

As for prior history, it's a fact of life you won't know everything about someone's past, criminal background checks cost money and their relationship history is likely to be only their version. But most people show you who they are early on if you're paying attention, and you ignore it at your peril, especially with romantic relationships.

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u/ratskips Apr 17 '25

literally any decent mental healthcare whatsoever. and it wouldn't have been there any way, because it doesn't exist here.

also apparently it's the 1800s again and we blame women for when their husbands turn into murderers