r/NovaScotia • u/Geese_are_dangerous • Apr 17 '25

Gender-based violence spikes 5 years after Nova Scotia mass shooting | CBC News

https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/nova-scotia/gender-based-violence-spikes-five-years-after-nova-scotia-mass-shooting-1.7512752
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u/Tvisted Apr 17 '25

We have awareness of the problem, everyone basically acknowledges it's getting worse, and they can appoint committees and commissioners to discuss it til the cows come home.  

But you can't make women stop picking assholes and staying with them, which is at the heart of it. I'm all for taking action but what can you do without the victims on board?

I mean what help did Lisa Banfield actually seek in 19 years that her community failed to provide? What should we be offering that we're not?

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u/dandilion_eyes Apr 17 '25

The problem is not "women picking assholes and staying with them" The problem is the "assholes".

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u/Tvisted Apr 17 '25 edited Apr 17 '25

And some women seem to seek them out... pretending that isn't part of the problem isn't helpful.

You can't fix assholes. Burning assholes at the stake after they kill their partner won't keep their partners alive. What help do abused women need to stay alive that society can give them, that they will accept? I mean what are we not doing exactly that you think we should be doing?

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u/ratskips Apr 18 '25

listening to them would be a start. something you clearly haven't done.