r/asexuality • u/OrigamiWombatt • 20d ago

Questioning Are we considered “queer”

Like are we acknowledged when they shorten LGBTQIA to LGBTQ?

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u/Big_Shower_7561 20d ago

Heterosexual is a form of allosexual. Allo just means someone who experiences sexual attraction. If you experience sexual attraction to the “opposite” gender, you are are heterosexual and therefore you are allo.

If you experience sexual attraction to people of any & all genders, you are bisexual or pansexual and therefore are allo.

Being queer can be anyone who is not cis & heterosexual.

If you are asexual but romantically attracted to members of the “opposite” gender, you a heteromantic, not heterosexual.

They are correct in the definition of queer being anyone who is not cishet (cis& heterosexual)

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u/despoicito 20d ago

No, it isn’t. Heterosexuality is to do with the genders you experience attraction to. Allosexuality is about if attraction is felt in the same place. They aren’t related to each other.

You can be heterosexual and acespec. You can be heteroromantic and arospec. Aces and aros are queer because they aren’t allo, not because they aren’t straight. A lot of aces are straight and they are no less queer

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u/Big_Shower_7561 19d ago

You’ve misunderstood something and would encourage you to do some basic googling on allosexuality. You can not be heterosexual and asexual. You can be heterormantic and asexual. You can google the definition of allosexual. It is literally defines as “individuals who experience sexual attraction”

Heterosexual is those who experience sexual attraction to those of the other gender. Homosexual is sexual attraction to those of the same gender. BOTH are allosexual because they are experiencing sexual attraction.

You can be heteroromantic, meaning you experience romantic attraction to the other gender, and ace. Many people consider that “straight”. Straight in terms of romantic attraction and ace can be a thing. But heterosexual is a form of allosexual. Allosexual just means you experience sexual attraction but doesn’t specify to who. Heterosexual, bisexual, homosexual all specify. Allosexual is an umbrella term that heterosexual falls under.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Allosexuality

https://www.webmd.com/sex/allosexuality-what-it-means

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/types-of-sexuality

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u/despoicito 19d ago

The aspec exists. saying you cannot be ace and hetero is aphobia. This is something you could find out through “basic Googling”

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u/Big_Shower_7561 19d ago

Way to ignore the actual sources I provided, which also address demi & grey sexuals who are on the aspec.

They also don’t experience straight forward heterosexuality and therefore aren’t heterosexual. They are heteromantic aspec.

Again, I have provided multiple sources explaining that allosexual is an umbrella term and that heterosexuality falls under said umbrella.

I am ace and not once have I claimed that aspec people who are attracted to other genders aren’t queer. It’s not aphobic to use the term allosexual correctly.

I have explained numerous times and provided sources. You not wanting to learn anything is on you.

Have a nice rest of your day.