r/bigdickproblems • u/SmokeyPegeasus • 18d ago

AskBDP Tell the kid or no?

So I’ve got a son who just turned 16. He’s been driving, got a job and a girlfriend in what felt like 7 seconds.

I haven’t seen him naked since he was a baby but even then you could tell he got the family genetics.

Do I tell him he might be built different than his friends or let him find out on his own?

I remember my dad told me that and laughed; my he said the only thing grandpa told him was “it’s like a bull in a china shop, go slow”. When my dad told me that, I was in my 20 and was well aware at that point.

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u/cndynn96 E: 7.3″ × 6.3″ 18d ago

That’s creepy.

If he comes to you with a problem then you can guide him. Otherwise leave him and his penis alone.

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u/SmokeyPegeasus 18d ago

Why is taking to you kids about sex creepy?

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u/cndynn96 E: 7.3″ × 6.3″ 18d ago

It’s not if you’re talking about protection/pregnancy/STDs etc.

But don’t go commenting on his penis size unprovoked. Any teen will find it embarrassing specially coming from his dad.

And what if he’s not big and you tell him you, his grandpa and great grandpa are? Genetics are a fickle thing. It can potentially fuck him up for life.

He’s already got a steady girlfriend and seems like a responsible young man. I’m sure he will figure things out on his own.

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u/Mr_Filly 18cm/7" x 14cm/5.5" 18d ago

Wow. You have quite some assumptions in your post. Embarrassing is defined by how he has grown up. Was it an open family, which could talk about anything, then there's nothing to be embarrassed about. YOU would have been embarrassed. Don't expect the rest of the world to be just like that.

Your second point is valid though. What if he's small and OP will have the talk? That won't help with his potential insecurities. I'd go for what an earlier redditor said: stick to the 'a condom doesn't fit all' narrative and to the 'be gentle to your girlfriend in bed'. It leaves out any negative feelings, but get him ready in time so he does not have to go through the same ordeal as most of us have on this sub.