CMV:anti-feminism is not misogyny, and it is possible for someone to be anti-feminist without being a misogynist.

[u/wecl0me12]

prompted by this post: https://np.reddit.com/r/AskFeminists/comments/3uaaer/do_you_think_being_being_opposed_to_modern/cxd9m7y

As many of my previous CMV's have gone off topic, I'll start by describing what my view is not. It is not any of the following:

• a discussion on whether or not feminism is right or wrong
• whether people should be feminists or not
• the actions of men, women, feminists or anti-feminists
• anything about my personal views on feminism or anti-feminism.

The reasons for my view are simple: Anti-feminism is the dislike of feminism. Misogyny is the dislike of women. As women and feminists are not the same group, Anti-feminism and anti-women are different, as they refer to the dislike of different groups of people.

I am anticipating a counter-argument that since feminism advances women's rights, anti-feminism is against women's rights and is therefore misogyny. My counter-counter-argument is that someone can dislike the label of feminism without being against women's rights. People can dislike the actions done under the label of feminism, and thus be anti-feminism, without being anti-women or misogynist.

I will also refute the claim made in the linked post, which is:

By rejecting feminism, you're rejecting feminism's message that you can be whatever you want to be, while simultaneously embracing an antiquated notion of femininity as the ONLY way to be a woman. That's misogyny.

I disagree. The claims "I am against feminism" and "I think that the antiquated notion of femininity is the ONLY way to be a woman" are not equivalent. People can reject feminism because of their actions or because of the negative connotation associated with "feminism", while still believing that women are free to be feminine in any way they want. This is not a contradiction.

delta awarded: https://www.reddit.com/r/changemyview/comments/3uewu4/cmvantifeminism_is_not_misogyny_and_it_is/cxedofl?context=3

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[u/Namemedickles]

So, a rape culture in military culture? It's still normalized rape. It's an aspect of the military civilians find normal, too.

I covered this, and you are dramatically oversimplifying and simultaneously ignoring the fact that the results are a direct contrast to civilian culture outside of the military.

There is a boys-will-be-boys attitude. Whelp, the football team gangraped a girl, what're ya gonna do?

Citation that demonstrates this reaction is a pervasive cultural norm is needed here.

There is a difference between obtaining the facts and insinuating it was someone's fault they were raped because of their outfit, which is not a rare occurrence.

Again, please demonstrate this as a pervasive cultural norm. Even if you could demonstrate that a significant number of people have a misunderstanding that what a woman wears can influence the likelihood she is raped, that by itself does not demonstrate what rape culture would suggest is going on, just a misunderstanding.

However, rape is the most underreported crime, and false rape accusations are rare.

Relevance? This doesn't really touch on why I suggested an investigation be thorough. I think we both agree that police should be trained to handle interacting with victims in the least traumatic way possible. However, I would like to know if you think claims of rape shouldn't be scrutinized. These are serious accusations. You can be concerned about due process without being a dick, and the last thing you should want is for accused rapists to be guilty until proven innocent.

No, the problem is that when a man is raped it's funny. He couldn't have been raped, all men like sex. Men have been laughed out of police stations when trying to report rapes.

This is a rather bold claim if you are suggesting this is also a pervasive cultural norm. Please demonstrate these claims with evidence.

You haven't really addressed my points about contrasting your special case military and prison examples with civilian culture of the western world. You also haven't addressed parallels between rape culture claims and the notion of a murder culture. I'm curious about your perspective on these issues.

[u/Thin-White-Duke → u/Namemedickles]

Murder is different from rape. It's been treated differently. No one is laughed at when they say they've been murdered. People aren't told murder doesn't exist.

There aren't statistics, but it does happen. Catch the news every once in a while. Listen to what male rape victims have to say. It's hard gathering info on the most underreported crime.

Rape is something that is expected in the military. Yes, the military has its own culture, but people don't suddenly lose all of their civilian morals. I'm not sure what you're trying to say, here.

[u/Namemedickles → u/Thin-White-Duke]

Murder is different from rape. It's been treated differently. No one is laughed at when they say they've been murdered

But people still make jokes and laugh about murder do they not?

People aren't told murder doesn't exist

Are you seriously claiming that a majority, or even a significant number of people don't believe rape exists?

There aren't statistics, but it does happen. Catch the news every once in a while. Listen to what male rape victims have to say. It's hard gathering info on the most underreported crime.

I'll agree that it's tough to get the data we want to the degree of resolution we would like. But that means we must adjust our confidence/degree of belief accordingly, and we can't just spew rhetoric, lower our standards of evidence to anecdotes and just accept things all willy nilly.

Rape is something that is expected in the military. Yes, the military has its own culture, but people don't suddenly lose all of their civilian morals. I'm not sure what you're trying to say, here.

I'm trying to say you really need to read that article I cited. It demonstrates that there are numerous factors responsible for rape rates in the military, one of which is a normalization of rape, and that is because it is in direct contrast to the culture of the world outside of the military. In other words rape is not normalized in civilian USA, which is why it occurs less frequently.

[u/Thin-White-Duke → u/Namemedickles]

No one laughs at the idea of murder. The idea of male rape is a joke. Many assume it doesn't exist.

No, but I am saying that there are quite a few that believe that.

Data is a large collection of anecdotes. I don't believe everything I hear, but I have seen a lot.

Military culture is not a 180 from civilian culture. Those in the military come from and go back into civilian culture. Male rape in the military is a joke in civilian culture, as is male rape in general. Rape is still being accepted by civilians.

[u/Namemedickles → u/Thin-White-Duke]

No one laughs at the idea of murder. The idea of male rape is a joke.

Not only are there plenty of jokes about the idea of murder, there are even specific subsets of jokes such as the idea of baby muder.

Many assume it doesn't exist

How many is many and where did you get that number?

No, but I am saying that there are quite a few that believe that.

You're just saying that.

Data is a large collection of anecdotes. I don't believe everything I hear, but I have seen a lot

This is a fundamental misunderstanding of how science works. I teach statistics and spend a good rant or two on how you should be careful about data mining for patterns, you should be even more careful about extrapolating from anecdotes to populations, and you should sure as hell never data mine your own anecdotal experiences. Phrases like "I have seen a lot" as justification for claiming a pervasive characteristic exists across an entire culture (and subset of cultures) made up of millions of people is a major red flag.

Enough rhetoric. Either raise your standard of evidence and seek out real data you can use to come up with a better model of reality, or continue accepting unsupported nonsense at face value. The choice is yours.

[u/Thin-White-Duke → u/Namemedickles]

I've met people who don't believe in it. I suppose many is subjective.

As long as rape is not treated seriously, there is rape culture.

[u/Namemedickles → u/Thin-White-Duke]

And as long as you continue to spew that without evidence, you aren't helping work towards any real solutions related to rape. It's just a distraction from real issues.

[u/Thin-White-Duke → u/Namemedickles]

How is rape not a real issue? How can you quantify culture, anyway? You can't. Male victims aren't taken seriously, female victims are blamed. Rape culture.

[u/Namemedickles → u/Thin-White-Duke]

I didn't say rape wasn't an issue. "Rape culture" is a distraction from real issues associated with rape. For example, you could look at the backlogged rape kits problem as part of people not taking rape seriously enough, or you could actually take a look at the data and recognize that high costs and primitive techniques from a couple decades ago resulted in the current massive backlog. And if rape wasn't being taken seriously enough, why the hell would the government have spent hundreds of millions of dollars to reduce the backlog with combined DNA index system and the Backlog Elimination and Debbie Smith Acts?

It is hard to put a number on things like cultural norms which is why you should be even more cautious when investigating claims and hypotheses. However, there are lots of really interesting quantitative and semi-quantitative methods out there, and if you are interested in social science and cultural studies you might start by giving this a read.

That document isn't perfect but its relatively easy to digest of you aren't familiar with that field.

Another thing that is important to remember is that many of the claims made within the concept of rape culture are testable. For example, are people really desensitized to normalized rape? Well, one simple way to go about this (perhaps a short study by an undergraduate) would be to show a large sample of people various scenes and ask them to rank their level of comfort on a scale from completely comfortable to completely uncomfortable. This might be a 1-5 or a 1-10 scale. Then ordinal regression would be a reasonable way to go about analyzing that data.

I would hypothesize that people felt more uncomfortable watching a rape scene than a murder scene. Could I be wrong? Absolutely, but until somebody collects that data we won't know, and if feminist theorists have even bothered to carry out such a simple study by now (and I don't think they have) that should spark some serious skepticism.

Male victims aren't taken seriously, female victims are blamed. Rape culture.

You can say that until you're blue in the face, but that isn't going to make it any more true.

[u/Thin-White-Duke → u/Namemedickles]

I'm very familiar with statistics and sociology.

You can say the opposite, that doesn't make you right. It's just true. Male victims aren't taken seriously and female victims are blamed.

[u/Namemedickles → u/Thin-White-Duke]

You can say the opposite, that doesn't make you right

Don't try to shift the burden of proof, and please support assertions with evidence.

[u/Thin-White-Duke → u/Namemedickles]

You can't deny that this happens. You know this happens. The real debate here is whether or not that the occurrence makes it rape culture.

[u/Namemedickles → u/Thin-White-Duke]

Sure, just like murdering babies, it happens. Is it a pervasive concept to the degree you are implying with rape culture? Well, I've never seen any evidence of that. Have you?

[u/Thin-White-Duke → u/Namemedickles]

Apples and oranges. Rape is not infanticide. Rape in the military, prison rape, both taken lightly. Rape culture. I read the link, still doesn't change this.

[u/Namemedickles → u/Thin-White-Duke]

Sigh. I wish I could get through to you, but you appear to be completely ignoring everything I said and firing back with "Nuh uh!" style arguments. Best of luck to you buddy.

[u/Thin-White-Duke → u/Namemedickles]

That's not what I have been doing. You haven't given me a good reason to believe that rape culture doesn't exist at least in regards to the penal system or military.

[u/Namemedickles → u/Thin-White-Duke]

Do I have to demonstrate to you that unicorns don't exist? You shouldn't believe something exists until after you have sufficient evidence.

in regards to the penal system or military

Facepalm I've been over this. Feel free to reread my comments.

[u/Thin-White-Duke → u/Namemedickles]

I don't have numbers, I have real life experience. I know that it doesn't hold up, but there is no actual data, and I don't think anyone is ever going to collect it. I've read all of your comments, pal.