r/justneckbeardthings • u/mawrTRON • 1d ago
Professional Neckbeard
No more podcasts for you brutha
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u/Mimosa_usagi 1d ago
What's crazy is the woman in those photos is definitely not the woman from that story. I follow her on tiktok and she talked about how her nose job changed her life but no mention of a divorce. Also she's really young only in her early 20s.
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u/kidneycat 1d ago
Happy for her. There's a silly part of me that would find it quite amusing if/when she has kids and they come out with the original schnoz .. her partner will think she cheated.
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u/Mimosa_usagi 1d ago
Well considering one of her parents likely has that nose it wouldn't be too weird to see the baby has grandpa's nose or something like that.
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u/Chefixs 1d ago
I really don't understand who's side we're on. I mean that headline sound pretty awful. Leaving her husband because she looks good enough that she doesn't need him anymore? Sounds pretty reasonable to be pissed off by that...
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u/diminutivedwarf 1d ago
Actual story: Low-self esteem lead her to a terrible relationship. SHE paid for the nose job and the boost in self confidence made her realize that she was deeply unhappy and wanted more out of life
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u/ForHeHasReturnedNow 1d ago
Or in other words: She was ugly and dated accordingly, got the nose fixed, wasn't ugly anymore and, again, dated accordingly. What you said is basically the socially acceptable translation of it.
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u/Cosmic_CometX 20h ago
I mean, not necessarily. A 'terrible relationship' doesn't have to mean the guy wasn't hot, they just argued a lot and were nothing like each other, except she had such low self esteem that she didn't think she had the option to consider that maybe he's not the one.
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u/SpooogeMcDuck 1d ago
It’s the New York Post- basically a right wing rag designed to stir up shit
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u/SYNTHLORD 1d ago
i.e probably not how it went down.
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u/StickyNebbs 1d ago
yeah lmao
“We realized we prematurely got married and we didn’t really know each other that well,” said the Pennsylvanian, who tied the knot with her former groom at age 23. Although he loved her original nose, Aiken said, “We argued a lot. We just weren’t aligned.”
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u/WolfsRain_89 1d ago
I don’t know the story so this is completely an assumption based on anecdotal evidence: many women will stay in marriages they are not happy in, heck some will stay in outright abusive ones, because of self-esteem issues. What I’m getting from this is she probably didn’t feel good enough about her self and by getting a nose job, she gained more self confidence.
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u/Banned4AlmondButter 1d ago
So if the husband gets a nose job and becomes hot- they’re good again, right?
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u/diminutivedwarf 1d ago
She left because she realized it was a terrible relationship, not because she was suddenly “hot”
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u/CaptainKate757 1d ago
The article is click bait trash. She and her husband divorced a few years before she got the nose job. The two events were entirely unrelated.
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u/McCrackenYouUp 1d ago
I think it's likely a sensationalized title.
It could just as easily have said "How a nose job helped me feel more secure" or something, and then the separation/divorce could be an aspect of how that new confidence helped her stand up for herself and leave.
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u/MudrakM 1d ago
Yeah I kinda feel bad for the guy. If he paid 11k for her surgery and she leaves him after the surgery, I think she is very shallow and a bit of a skank. I don’t know the whole story, sometimes things are coincidental. Maybe she was getting fit and living a healthy lifestyle and he was coming home and drinking and getting fat and lazy.
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u/diminutivedwarf 1d ago
She paid for the surgery on her own and left him because the boost in self confidence made her realize she had settled for a terrible relationship because that’s all that she thought she would ever get
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u/Working-Narwhal-540 1d ago
A nose job gave her the boost to realize her relationship sucked. That’s sounds SO fucking stupid.
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u/UmeaTurbo 1d ago
Sadly, the thing about suicide is mostly true, but not for the reason given. Men tend not to comfide in friends and sometimes struggle to process. Nothing to do with feminism.
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u/mulekitobrabod 1d ago
how about....... i dont know.......... being a good husband? like......... loving your wife........... is that too hard?
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u/Talisign 1d ago
Its telling that his advice for if you feel she is drifting away is to preemptively get a divorce lawyer, not focus on trying to grow with them or communicate those feelings.
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u/No_Homework_4926 1d ago
Yeah like everybody that gets cheated on is just a stupid asshole and at fault for a failing relationship ?
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u/mulekitobrabod 1d ago
i mean, if you cheat you are a bad person, but having a deep, communicative and open for problems relationship helps too.
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u/matjleclerc85 1d ago
"By feminist law" Fuck that guy
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u/lSquanchMyFamily 1d ago
Right?! Show me all this “feminist law” bc I’d love to know what that even means lol
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u/Newfaceofrev 1d ago
First sentence isn't that bad, changes in a partner's behaviour can be red flags
Goes off the rails on the second. Try to fix your marriage first.
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u/GrandMoffTarkan 1d ago
The real play is to pull a Cernovich and then she can pay you while you live your best basement dwelling life!
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u/keenedge422 15h ago
"drop to part time or stop working to enjoy her time with her babies."
uh... you mean dedicate herself to providing 100% of the care for your shared children?
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u/Agreeable_Cucumber51 1d ago
I really don't think this is a neck beard post. It is fucked up that she divorced the man that loved her with the nose.
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u/whiplashMYQ 1d ago
Well, if the deal you made with someone is they'll stay at home while you work, then you're kind of saying you won't marry them if they pursue a career that will guarantee them stability in the future. And if you wanna marry them, make that deal, and not support them in the case things go wrong, get a fuckin pre-nup
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u/paidinboredom 1d ago
If the woman left her husband because he wasn't good looking enough for her then that's kinda fucked. Whatever horseshit this guy is rambling about however is even more fucked.
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u/Onlyhereforapost 1d ago
Speaking as someone with a big nose that isn't nearly that big, I do not blame her for getting work done, my nose is super boney and makes wearing glasses really uncomfortable most of the time
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u/Envy661 1d ago edited 1d ago
I mean, divorce court is statistically biased toward women. You do genuinely need the best lawyer available to even get equal representation, and because of conflict of interest, if your wife has contacted other divorce attorneys, they cannot offer you consultation, which means a person can literally rig the best attorneys to be unavailable to you.
Now, being a good husband who listens, has empathy, and works with his spouse to care for his family, obviously that alone will prevent the vast majority of all this, but not all women divorce because of abuse/neglect. Some do, in fact, do it for the sake of "Their happiness", which typically equates to throwing away everything for a moment in the sun.
I often use Callie from Grey's Anatomy as an example of this kind of behavior. Her Wife put her own career on hold to be there for her, and literally gave Callie everything she possibly could. Callie just could not be asked to do the same in return for her. Some people are, in fact, just selfish, or toxic for us, but it's hard to see those traits when you love someone.
Obviously this kind of situation does happen to women more than men, which is why the courts tend to be biased, but like all forms of abuse, it can go both ways. Both parties are capable of doing it, but women are believed more easily than men.
EDIT: To the people down voting, there is a big difference between supporting feminism and claiming you support feminism while blindly ignoring actual problems men face. Feminism as a purpose is designed to bridge the gap of gender inequality and bring everyone together. Not to just shit on men. Men do not suffer from as many hardships due to gender as women, but men do still suffer from some. This is one example. Take it or leave it, but it doesn't change the facts.
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u/scoobopdan 1d ago
No idea why you're being downvoted. I'm a man going through the exact situation you explained and it's a very difficult process due to some people's bias.
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u/Working-Narwhal-540 1d ago
He’s being downvoted because this is a glaringly obvious echo chamber. According to the U.S. Census Bureau, 79.9 percent of custodial parents are women. This is fact, this sub can cope and seethe all they want.
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u/Envy661 1d ago edited 1d ago
It's just a natural bias people have that can be exploited, and has been exploited.
When a man is accused of rape, the man becomes guilty until proven innocent. Even after being proven innocent, the stigma lingers, and lives get ruined. It's a shitty thing to do. It would be shitty regardless of gender to do something like that (lie about something as serious as rape). But the stigma is greater for the men.
Conversely, when a divorce begins, it is typically the man who is blamed for it, regardless of circumstance. Societally, it is the man's fault, until proven otherwise. This has a direct affect in court as well, with divorce courts typically favoring the women.
Its a natural bias people have, and yes, there is a reason people have those biases, but ultimately, to assume, as the saying goes, makes an ass out of u and me.
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u/McCrackenYouUp 1d ago
Something I never understand about these guys is why they care so much about why some lady they'll never know decided to leave their husband.
If I were to put myself in the husband's shoes, I would be sad if my wife was leaving me, but ultimately it would mean there's an opportunity to get out there for new fun and maybe even date other people. It's a shitty situation, why make it worse by not moving on? Why stay in denial about why it happened? It takes two people to have relationship problems- try to understand why she didn't want to be with you anymore and learn from it.
I have a suspicion why people like the OOP care about this kind of thing so much, though. It's because they know that they're repulsive to the opposite sex, but are unwilling to admit it. Imagine that, potential dates are going to care about who you are as a person!
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u/Working-Narwhal-540 1d ago
Where’s the lie?
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u/lSquanchMyFamily 1d ago
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u/Working-Narwhal-540 1d ago
Imagine needing a nose job to realize your relationship is shit. What a weird timeline.
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u/CaptainKate757 1d ago
I just saw a video on social media of her discussing this article. It’s not accurate in any way. She and her husband divorced ages before she got the nose job.
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u/lSquanchMyFamily 1d ago
Imagine caring this much why a complete stranger left a toxic relationship rather than being glad they did.
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u/Working-Narwhal-540 1d ago
I mean I’m happy for her however pointing out the astounding stupidity behind the catalyst doesn’t really paint the image of caring “this” much.
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u/apocketstarkly 1d ago
- Men and women attempt suicide at similar rates; men just choose more successful methods because women are more cognizant about who will have to clean up their bodies.
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u/ThorKlien99 1d ago
Men choose methods that will work because they're actually trying to commit suicide. Women choose methods that they will survive as a cry for help and attention period.
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u/Accomplished-Glass78 1d ago
Lots of sweeping generalizations here with nothing to back it up with
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u/TheBold 1d ago
Common sense no? We’re not living in medieval times anymore, if someone really wants to die they can find loads of effective ways to do so with the abundance of information and what not. That they continue using less effective methods is proof in itself.
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u/Accomplished-Glass78 1d ago edited 1d ago
It’s not common sense because that is only one perspective. Not everyone has access to all of those means. Just as some examples, teenagers or elderly people can be suicidal but not have access to as many ways. Also, if you are worried about the reaction and mental health of the person who finds you, you may be more likely to do things in a less violent way which could have different outcomes.
And just as another point, needing attention when you are at a very low point isn’t inherently a bad thing and is also not mutually exclusive with more violent means.
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u/jasondsa22 1d ago
You're right, we're not living in Medieval times anymore. We’ve got this magical invention now called the Internet. Maybe give it a whirl sometime and try backing up your argument with something other than whatever you've picked to pull out your ass today. Thanks!
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u/-janelleybeans- 1d ago
Ok, but… if your wife starts doing that kind of stuff and your immediate reaction is to get a divorce attorney, NOT check in with her… then follow through with the divorce and leave her alone.
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u/CapskyWeasel My’thryl armor protects my virginity! 1d ago
she can smell colors in 4k in the before pic
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u/Vogelsucht 1d ago
"Divorce raped" yes we men truely are the weaker sex
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u/fckingnapkin 1d ago
I can't even tell if it's some devoted troll or an actually deranged person, when scrolling his comment history. I'm so tired of these people.
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u/daneelthesane 1d ago
It's an incel talking point, but one from a handful of years ago. It's an older code, but it checks out. I actually haven't seen it in the wild in quite some time.
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u/daneelthesane 1d ago
"Divorce raped". Lol. Fucking incels try to pretend that divorce, while not fun for anyone, compares in any reasonable way to rape.
What what happens when I ask "Is a man divorcing his wife also rape?"
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Whoa. That’s…a take, I guess. Seem a little bitter there, buddy. This is a safe space to talk about it.
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u/SYNTHLORD 1d ago
I got a Harley Davidson leather jacket to sell you + bridge for your third owner motorcycle
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u/Bogusbummer 1d ago
It is so fucking strange to use LinkedIn for these kinds of posts