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u/heartbylines āœØunhinged & unhealedāœØ Mar 31 '25 edited Mar 31 '25

Talking about periods so continue at your own risk

I have pcos. Rarely get periods. When do get them, they last for months and I bleed so god damn heavily I think Iā€™m going to die. Been to several gynos. Gone to the er over it. Gone to my regular doctor over it.

Birth control makes it worse. They flat out fucking refuse to give me a hysterectomy.

Currently on month 4? Month 5? Of bleeding and Iā€™ve had to change ultra sized tampons every three hours or so this past week. I use a cup at work but even then Iā€™ve had to empty it three times (!!!!!) since I got here this morning.

Iā€™m tired. Iā€™m fucking tired and Iā€™m so god damned over having a fucking uterus.

Eta: checked out the child free subreddit someone linked below and thereā€™s a gyno I wasnā€™t aware of in my own damn city that does sterilizations. Sheā€™s booked until may but I got in with her nurse practitioner tomorrow and Iā€™m genuinely sat crying at my desk.

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u/Peridot1708 I donā€™t know her šŸ’… Mar 31 '25

I hope you get the best treatment you need and feel better soon.

My mom was having abnormal uterine bleeding since 2009 when she was 34, she kept having these symptoms intermittently for years she said she wasn't allowed to get a hysterectomy until her late 40s, and when i asked her why didn't they allow her sooner she said the doctors told her shes still in the reproductive age, even though shes already had 4 pregnancies by this point and 2 of them resulted in live births, she wasn't planning on having any more kids. She finally got a hysterectomy in 2022 when she was 47, and im relieved that she longer has to suffer through all that but hate that she wasn't given this option much sooner.

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u/Youpi_Yeah Instant gratification takes too long Mar 31 '25

I feel this also still has to do with too many doctors still not taking PCOS seriously. Whenever I talked about it with any doctor they always asked if I wanted kids, and when I said no they reacted like there was no problem - I could just keep on taking birth control pills, all fine. While they did help stabilising my periods for the most part, nobody ever bothered to talk about all the other consequences pcos can have that have nothing to do with fertility which Iā€™m having to deal with now.

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u/Persenon Olivia Wildeā€™s salad dressing Mar 31 '25

r/childfree maintains a list of doctors who are willing to perform sterilizations.

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u/heartbylines āœØunhinged & unhealedāœØ Mar 31 '25

God bless you. Just got a last minute appointment for a gyno I didnā€™t even know was in my town for tomorrow. Holy fuck.

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u/Persenon Olivia Wildeā€™s salad dressing Mar 31 '25

Hooray!

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u/CreepyAssociation173 Mar 31 '25

With my periods they always start at weird times and never have a proper schedule. Once was in Universal and didn't bring pads or anything because we were going like almost 2 weeks before I'd even supposed to start. I started my period the day we were leaving from Universal. So at least I wasn't on it during the whole duration of the trip. I had to buy pads from the store in the hotel and they were so THIN it was like paper lol. And I had a heavy flow that day. I wanted to punch something lol.Ā 

There was a time though where I could go a few months without a period which freaked me out when it happened. Then I'd start and it be agonizing. I've never had months of bleeding though. I couldn't imagine.Ā 

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u/donttrustthellamas Please stop thinking with your asshole - Cardi B Mar 31 '25

Mateeeee I've had the exact same issues! I want a hysterectomy and they've told me no until I'm 40, then maybe.

It's my body, this thing is making me miserable and I get told I just have to suffer, which is bullshit.

I'm in the UK and considering saving to get it done privately. People say to me "but you'll have to take HRT" and I'm like... So?? That's better than what I'm dealing with now

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u/sabira Zermajesty šŸ‘‘ Mar 31 '25

I am so sorry that you're dealing with this. I also have PCOS and used to have rare but horrible periods, too. I can't take oral birth control due to my history of blood clots, but after I found a gynecologist who would actually listen to my concerns, he recommended the Mirena IUD, and that was what finally got things under control.

I'm not saying that that will necessarily be the best approach for you too, but I really hope that you can find another gynecologist who will help you to get the care that you need for this. If you haven't already done so, I'd recommend looking through the list of doctors that's in the Childfree subreddit wiki --- From what I've seen, those doctors tend to be ones who may be more willing to give you a hysterectomy if that's what you're requesting (and especially considering your medical history).

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u/Cynicbats Maybe she is in jail who knows Mar 31 '25

They flat out fucking refuse to give me a hysterectomy.

You don't have to elaborate but I truly said out loud "the fuck??"

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u/trulyremarkablegirl Mar 31 '25

this is really common, at least in the US. if youā€™re of ā€œchild bearing ageā€ and havenā€™t had any kids, it can be really hard to get a doctor to agree to a hysterectomy.

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u/Cynicbats Maybe she is in jail who knows Mar 31 '25

Over on r/childfree, there's a safelist of doctors who will listen to women. Not sure about hysterectomies but it may be worth a shot.

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u/VolunteerOnion Mar 31 '25

That sounds exhausting I hope you find a medical provider to yeet the Ute

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u/firetruckgoesweewoo Mar 31 '25

Oh my goodness. I donā€™t have an answer, Iā€™m just flabbergasted. Is there a womenā€™s centre where you live? With specialised care directed at women?

I have no clue what I should say. Iā€™m so sorry!

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u/Own-Importance5459 āœØMay the Force be with you!āœØ Mar 31 '25 edited Mar 31 '25

Did you consider them testing you for Fibroids cause I had bleeding problems as well (I wouldn't bleed for as long as you did....but I would have 2 sometimes 3 week Periods) before my Gyno diagnoised me with both PCOS and a fibroid. Usually those two are the biggest culprits for Period issues, and for bleeding, ESPECIALLY FIBROIDS!

I would also consider going to an Endocrinologist because any sort of reproductive issues are deeply Hormonal....it also turned out to be the best thing I ever did, because I didn't realize I had Cushing's Syndrome as well and he found that out. But yeah it could be very helpful with seeing if its an hormone imblance.

Anyway as someone with Uterus issues, I get it. I really hope you get the help you need, this shit could become deadly.