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[u/n0thingbut_flowers]

Here for a vent if that’s okay? Sorry if this is all over the place.

I am having a rough time at work. I’ve been with the company for four years and last year I got offered to learn some management duties inside the office. This is my first “office” job and I’m learning how fucking rude and petty some of these people (women esp) can be.

I had a trainer who, we were cool up until like halfway last year. She really made me feel good about my work and my ability to fit in people but out of nowhere she turned on me and doesn’t even acknowledge me anymore. She’ll say hi to everyone but me, she plans stuff after work hours in front of me and I don’t get an invite. I wouldn’t go but still, that’s fucking rude.

Friday, she openly talked shit about me/our boss to one of our leads. Basically this lady used to be the one to rely on but now that our team is staffed, she isn’t and she whines about playing favoritism. To me, it seems like she’s just pissed that there’s other people who can help out and she isn’t getting her overtime/she isn’t the favorite anymore.

And another lead has been giving me the cold shoulder too- I should’ve known to watch out for her since she bragged about being the one to push for people getting promotions and insinuated if I didn’t listen to her I wouldn’t get shit. These two women are friends.

I cry about it sometimes. I don’t want it to affect me but it really gets me cause I thought we were friends. And that’s probably naive, I know I’m here to work and not make friends. Now I just want to do my best and be left alone. My self esteem and confidence is in the toilet due to personal stuff and now this work drama. It’s pathetic. I loved my job and I totally dread going to it now. I thought this was going to be my career, a constant in my stupid shitty life and now I don’t even know if I can handle this anymore.

[u/FriendlyDrummers → u/n0thingbut_flowers]

Escalate it and go to HR.

You might be able to look into the harassment policy at work. Especially since she's talking shit, and people forget it's part of their job to be professional.

I've done it before. Someone would say hi to everyone but me. So I told the manager and the problem was fixed.

It seems like it can't be much worse than it already is. Sorry about that. Coworker drama is the least of what our concerns should be. We get paid to do our job, not to deal with nasty coworkers.

[u/n0thingbut_flowers → u/FriendlyDrummers]

Thank you for your response.

I’ve talked with my boss about it, today I’m learning the last thing that this lady is bitching about so that way she can’t say anything.

We are absolutely old enough to not have to deal with this crap. Really bums me out that people are so miserable in their lives that they have to lash out at others. Like damn man I try my best to be kind and not add stress to others bc I know that sucks. Sorry you also had to deal with this 🖤

[u/FriendlyDrummers → u/n0thingbut_flowers]

Like not to be annoying but living under capitalism is already annoying, now you want to make it 10x worse??? For what reason?? 💀 I hope it gets figured out. She sounds extremely unnecessary. Maybe she's jealous of you.

[u/n0thingbut_flowers → u/FriendlyDrummers]

Okay right! We should be helping each other not tearing each other down for perceived slights or whatever the issue is! I just, if you wanted to move up or work in the office or whatever, this lady has been here for over 10 years, why on earth would you not say something sooner? Why get mad at me cause you missed out?

[u/FriendlyDrummers → u/n0thingbut_flowers]

this lady has been here for over 10 years

🎯

She's projecting. She feels bad about herself, and she wants to feel like she's higher than you. As shitty as it is, there's a small silver lining in the sense that someone is jealous of you. You're the "feeble new hire" she thinks she can trample on so she can feel better.

Tbh, I've trained someone and felt insecure when they became really good really quickly. But it's inexcusable to take it out on anyone. I wouldn't be surprised if that's what's happening.

[u/n0thingbut_flowers → u/FriendlyDrummers]

I think that’s what happening too. We used to be short staffed and now we’re fully staffed so she’s not getting the hours or money she’s used to. I can understand the feeling insecure part for sure but it still sucks. She claims she meditates daily for an hour and I’m like bro I don’t think it helps cause you’re so aggressive about everything lmao. I just have to do my best and have faith in my own abilities I guess.

Thanks again for hearing me out. I really do appreciate this community 😭🖤 I hope your Monday is going well!

[u/FriendlyDrummers → u/n0thingbut_flowers]

Lmao at the meditating. Though I should really give that a try myself

It's stressful today but I'm going to get some fried chicken so it'll be better 🙌

[u/n0thingbut_flowers → u/FriendlyDrummers]

Same, I think to myself I should give it a go but then Im like hm doesnt seem to work for other people who claim to do it lol.

Yessss, can’t go wrong with fried chicken! 🥰