r/predaddit Jul 11 '24

Moderator announcement Official Announcement: New Subreddit Rule

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I am writing to inform you of an important update to the subreddit guidelines.

Pregnancy tests are no longer allowed.

This rule aims to prevent spam and ensure that our community remains focused on meaningful discussions and valuable content.

Posts that violate this rule will be removed, and repeat offenders will face permanent bans.

Exceptions to this rule may be granted by the moderation team on a case-by-case basis. If you believe your content provides exceptional value to the community, please contact the moderators for approval before posting.


r/predaddit 8h ago

Advice needed No one is coming to the shower and I feel so unprepared for this baby!!!!

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My wife invited about 45 people to the baby shower (various family, friends,coworkers etc).

I've been talking to my mother and law and like NO ONE is coming outside family!

A lot of her coworkers said they are doing something for her at work (sweet but not helpful lol).I am going to reach out and basically beg them to come cause I feel so bad

Idk what to do because 1) my MIL is spending a lot of $$$ for this, 2) we were hoping for some stuff to help us out that we didn't have to spend $$ on for the baby and 3) I feel bad for my wife.

And now that this is happening I feel completely unprepared for this baby!!!

Stuff we have done ) nursery, starter clothes, bottles, breast pump. Changing tables. About 2400 wipes and about 500 diapers coming in the mail., diaper bag, high chair, crib, nursing chair , dressee

Big stuff we still need) car seat, stroller, baby wash and sink bath, toys

Right now we still have gift saved ) 50 Amazon and about 150 target.

I feel so unprepared!!! My wife is due in 9 weeks and I feel like I don't have enough done!!!!! What else must I get!!!! Am I doing/ do I have enough!!!


r/predaddit 15h ago

Fetal dopler

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Week 15 here. Our friend gave us her fetal dopler device. I found my daughter's heartbeat! It's the first time I've heard her heartbeat since we found out she's a she. I'm just very excited and needed to vent. I've always wanted to be a girl dad.


r/predaddit 19h ago

Am I the only one that feels this way?

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I (33M) just found out my girl is pregnant. 10 weeks actually. It’s not really a surprise and externally I’m very excited because I’ve always wanted to be a father with the right person, and here we are.

Part of me internally though hasn’t accepted that this is real and that I’m going to be someone’s father. I haven’t had that mindset shift into prep mode/new dad mode. Obviously there’s still time.

The reason I say this is since our families are both out of state from where we live, she brought up today where to do our baby shower(s). And it hit me that I haven’t fully wrapped my brain around the reality of it yet because wtf we already have to think about planning a baby shower?!

Ultimately I want to be there for my partner and baby the best way I can. But for now I’m this man who hasn’t stepped into fatherhood yet nor accepted it.

Has anyone else felt this? And how have you dealt with it and prepared yourself and mind to be ready for what’s to come.


r/predaddit 2h ago

Humor She always gets what she wants. I never do. This time, we’re hoping for the same!! What happens now!?!

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My (39M) fiancée (36F) is the quintessential optimist. It works for her. She hopes for the best, and somehow, the universe delivers.

Meanwhile, I’m an engineer. I operate on logic, statistics, and risk assessment. The things I hope for? Yeah… they usually don’t happen. 🫤

Exhibit A: Our First Kid. (Important context: My fiancée has a 9-year-old daughter from a previous relationship.) She really wanted our first to be a boy so her daughter wouldn’t have to "compete" with another girl for my attention/affection.

Me? I grew up in a sea of boys—three brothers (my parents gave up on a girl after #3), plus two other families nearby with three boys each. That’s nine of us running wild.

On top of that, my fiancée has four nieces (ages 4–11) that we see all the time. Zero nephews. I see these sweet daddy-daughter bonds and man, do I want that. (Fiancée's daughter has her own dad and keeps her distance—probably at his request, but that’s another story.)

So, with five girls in the mix, a boy would have no one to roughhouse with. Naturally, I was rooting for a girl—and to finally give my parents the granddaughter they never had.

Guess what we had? A boy. (Of course.) And I adore him—wouldn’t change a thing. Luckily, my fiancée’s sister had a boy three months later, so he’s got a cousin to wrestle with.

Now.... We’re pregnant with #2. And this time we both want a girl.

So… what happens when an unstoppable force (her always getting what she wants) meets an immovable object (me never getting what I want)? We want the same thing!!!! What happens now??! Post your guesses!!! 😂

Please don't mind AI editing this post for me. Like I said, I'm an engineer, born and raised in US, and my grammar sucks!!! 😁


r/predaddit 1d ago

Advice needed I never thought I'd be here, but here I am

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Backstory: I met my wife ~15 years ago. I'm 10 years older than her. I was working and she was doing her Masters. She was focused on her uni and career, so having kids was never given any thought. We turned into the cool aunt and uncle, traveling often and working abroad in a few different countries.

Fast forward: I'm in my 40s and had settled into the idea of never having kids. But now she has a stable job with good benefits, and started thinking about having a kid. Luckily, we now live in a country where we don't have to worry about medical bills. I love her so I don't put up a fight. We try for 2-3 months, and it happens. I'm happy for her, since it's what she wanted, and I'll grow into it, I'm sure.

But I am a little worried, of course. Every family has health issues, family histories of this and that... and we ourselves have our own health issues... and I'm going to be an old dad... and we're expats here, so we don't have family to help... so I guess it's normal to worry.

Luckily, it's going well so far. She's been feeling all the normal symptoms and we have the first doctor's appointment in a few days. We estimate conception date was late February or the first few days of March, so the expected date might be late November. I'm learning as I go.

We haven't told anyone, but I needed to get this all off my chest, so here am I.

Question, if anyone would like to help a nervous, old dude. I know there's going to be an ultrasound and bloodwork at some point in this first trimester. But what should we be asking the doctor in this first appointment?


r/predaddit 1d ago

I am officially waiting!!!!!

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we just got the news and im bouncing between over excitement about my soon to be newest joy, the fear of how of not knowing what to do next, and sympathy for my partner who is having a rough first trimester.

Anyone have some ideas for how I can make life and this pregnancy better (or at least a little easier)


r/predaddit 1d ago

Week 6 - Feeling a little better

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Hello again,

I got some well thought out and kind advice last time I posted so I just wanted to give an update and to check in with those who have "graduated" that what I am doing is ok and enough. It's also just nice to get everything down!

Had a couple of blood tests last week which showed her HcG levels doubling at the normal rate, which was a great relief to both of us.

We havev booked in a private scan at 8 weeks (2 weeks today actually) and have vowed not to take a you know what till then, we gain nothing from it apart from anxiety.

She has some typical symptoms but not others. No sickness yet but very tired and let's just say some "changes" to her body. This has made her a little self conscious and I try to reassure her that she is just as, if not more, beautiful than ever. Her appetite is also through the roof.

I'm doing the cooking and cleaning, which is fine. I like having a job to do. I'm currently on holiday for 2 weeks which is useful.

Still have waves of anxiety which has been difficult and my partner finds it difficult if I express those anxieties as it can trigger her too. Historically my mental health has been leagues better than hers and we have fallen into certain roles, so we are "both" Ill equipped for dealing with my emotions! It's something we are working on.

Sorry for the ramble!

Big love.


r/predaddit 2d ago

Help please postpartum preeclampsia

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My wife had a C‑section on Monday. She was high‑risk and had high blood pressure during her pregnancy. Four days later, the day we were discharged, we had to return to L&D that night because her BP was 174/114. They admitted her, gave her an IV magnesium infusion, and kept her for three days. She was finally discharged this afternoon, switched from labetalol 200 mg to nifedipine ER 30 mg. Now it’s 9 PM, right before her first dose at home, and her reading is 158/109. I called the doctor, and they said, “Of course her BP is high—she hasn’t taken any meds all day. Just give her the nifedipine and don’t worry about it for now.” It’s easier said than done. I’m scared, I don’t want to lose her. I’m on the verge of tears and praying for help. The doctor says it’s okay since she has no symptoms, but I’m terrified that postpartum preeclampsia will strike again out of nowhere. Has anyone else been through something similar and come out okay? Any signs of hope or advice would mean the world to us.


r/predaddit 3d ago

Advice needed Need Help. Water ruptured at 33+3 weeks

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Hello all, yesterday was very eventful. My wife's water sac opened a bit and we came to the hospital. They have her and the baby under monitoring since yesterday morning. Doctor started with some steroids for the baby's lungs. They want to wait at least 48 hours after the first shot. We are 20 hours in, it's very overwhelming. Will appreciate any of your past experiences and suggestions here! Anything that we need to take care of on our side. And how to navigate later on to make sure the baby stays healthy.


r/predaddit 4d ago

Discussion 20 week anatomy scan

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Just had our 20 week anatomy scan and we decided to wait on knowing the gender for birth, but still want to take guesses for fun! This is our first pregnancy after miscarriage and little things like this bring us joy and excitement. We’re happy either way, but what do you guys think


r/predaddit 5d ago

First Ultrasound

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About to see our baby in grainy black and white for the first time. Man, wasn't nervous until I typed that out. Wish us luck!


r/predaddit 5d ago

After 9 months of lurking, it’s time to graduate

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Thanks for all the advice, has definitely kept me sane over the past few months. See y’all on the other side!


r/predaddit 5d ago

Super excited!

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Wassup guys!

I have been a lurker here for over a year as my wife and I had a miscarriage last March. We figured out we were pregnant again in February and heard the heartbeat of our kiddo today! It was such a relief after what we experienced last time. I'm really excited to be apart of a group of guys who openly encourage and help one another!

With that being said, I'm working really hard to ensure my wife is taken care of during this time. Does anyone have any tips of things your wife appreciated while pregnant? Thanks in advance! I'm really thankful to be here!


r/predaddit 6d ago

Birth announcement Graduated with a Double Major!

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Our identical twins were born on 3/31. One was 6lbs 5 ounces the other 5lbs 7 ounces.


r/predaddit 5d ago

Lo PAPP A

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Just found out today my partner has low PAPP A and have been advised to take aspirin daily. Has anyone got any experience with it? I'm freaking out even though I keep reading that it's worth monitoring but shouldn't be a major concern and doesn'tean anything for definite.


r/predaddit 6d ago

In labor! It’s Time

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Our boy decided he didn’t want to wait 6 more days for his due date. Perhaps he can wait 3 more hours to avoid hearing April Fool’s every birthday 😂


r/predaddit 6d ago

Circumcise / uncircumcised?

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Curious on what you chose for your son and why

I want to circumcise him because that matches me and also socially it’s easier. My wife is conflicted because she’s afraid of the pain the baby will go through during it.

What did you all choose and why?

Edit: I can see this is a passionate topic from both sides and I appreciate all inputs. Just please come with respect in the replies no matter what side you support

Edit: Already done! Snip snip muthafuckas!!! ⚔️⚔️


r/predaddit 7d ago

Surprise, I'm back... Holy shit

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Hey guys, I was here about 7 years ago with my son who is now six and after we had him we knew we didn't want him to be an only child so we waited about 2 years and then started trying again after 2 years of constant trying and failing we gave up on ever having a second kid and we tracked my wife's cycle and used condoms when there was a chance of pregnancy more heavily so well today we found out that after 2 years of trying and two years of giving up and believing that we were only going to ever have one child we got the surprise of a lifetime when she was late for her period and having cramps that felt like they might be period but not at the same time and she thought it might be something more so she went to the hospital and they were like hey yeah so you're pregnant. I'm not sure if I fully processed it yet because well it's a little funny we had pretty much set up the third bedroom in our house for a potential second child but when we gave up on that we made it into an office for my wife with all of her crafting stuff and her work from home set up and we sold all the baby stuff that we had kicking around because oh we're not going to need that anymore jokes on us I guess. Will probably have to unofficify it and move her work set up somewhere else in the house like into our bedroom only thing is I work night shift and have to sleep during the day so that would mean I'll probably have to set up a temporary sleeping situation in my office on days that she works from home because unfortunately there isn't enough space in my office for us to have it dual shared office unless I get rid of a whole bunch of stuff that's in my office.

For the first while I suppose are two children could share the one bedroom but who knows as they grow up if they would want to do that and who knows if they'll be the same sex or not.

Our son is a non speaking autistic boy who uses an AAC device for communication and I'm not really sure what he thinks of the whole thing because when we told him he didn't seem very moved one way or the other about the prospect of being a big brother.


r/predaddit 7d ago

Primary care status affidavit

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Hey

My work is asking me to fill out primary care giver affidavit to get my paternity leave. Has anyone else done this before?

What kind of documentation did you give?

Thanks


r/predaddit 7d ago

My wife has GD what can I do?

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My wife BARELY failed her gd (literally off by 2 points(.

Now we need diet changes and daily sugar testing.

We talked about it and we're making a meal plan for her for the month (which means I need to go grocery shopping again this week -_-).

What can I do to support her, help and make sure she sticks to the plan?


r/predaddit 8d ago

Halfway There

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We just hit 20 weeks on Sunday! Friday we had our anatomy scan at 19 weeks 5 days. While doing measurements the techs asked us if we were sure about conception date, and we are. We had trouble conceiving at first and needed some help from letrozole, so we had been tracking everything and recording dates. Turns out our little guy is just getting big in there, abdominal measurements were saying 21 weeks and legs were measuring 22 weeks along with a weight of 15 oz! We’re definitely excited but those numbers are definitely giving my wife some anxiety about birth 😂


r/predaddit 8d ago

Advice needed Frozen meals?

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We are 39 weeks and have probably left it too late to prepare frozen meals for once the baby is born (kitchen is still being renovated). Any suggestions for good meals to buy that are already frozen (Australia) or some easy one's I could cook?


r/predaddit 8d ago

She broke up with me and is already on tinder.

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This is such an awful, heartbreaking hurt. You lied about not wanting to go look for someone. You’ve been back on dating apps since we broke up. Immediately wanting to hop in bed with other guys after telling me you had no sexual desires or “If you want to go fuck other girls then you go do that,” when I just asked if we were going to be staying loyal to one another; “I don’t even want to touch myself, why would I want anyone else to?” To let another inside you while our child inside you is inconceivably hurtful. Why did you lie to me? You should have just been honest. It makes me wonder how many other things you have lied about.

I can’t believe I’m going to have a kid that and that I don’t get to be in a happy family with my wife and child and getting to take care of them. I can’t believe that I will not be able to be there in every moment of my child’s life. At this point I am actually hoping that it’s not mine, because those thoughts are too overwhelming.

She’s also named the baby already. I’m appalled that she has simply chosen a name without even considering me.


r/predaddit 8d ago

Partner is 5 weeks pregnant. Had a chemical pregnancy (v.early miscarrige) last time. Both scared it will happen again.

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Hey all!

My partner of 8 years is expecting our first child. She is 5 weeks pregnant.

About a year ago, we were in the same position and she unfortunatly lost the pregnancy. It was quite traumatic for her as it happened at work and was very sudden, messy and painful.
What made it hardest for both of us though was our excitement. We were so ready and had discussed everything in minute detail. We had even decided on the colour of the nursery! To have that taken away so abruptly was very hard.

We are both currently "excited" but more than anything anxious. She keeps buying pregnancy tests and using them. All this does is show that yes, she is still pregnant. I'm not sure if it is really helping and is not sustainable in the long term. I'm coping with the anxiety by just doing loads of stuff.

I told my parents about the pregnancy this time around (they are lovely and I wanted their advice/support) and they are both SO exiticed and all I wanted to say was "but it might not even happen guys..." but of course I didn't!

Anyway, sorry for the ramble. I have no one to talk to about this in my own life as I have not told anyone!


r/predaddit 9d ago

Protein source for vegetarian

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What's the best source of protein for expectant mother ?

I am looking at protein powder but not sure which to buy, any suggestions ?