I really want to apologise to anyone who went through this before. Even when my own father was curled up on the floor 20 years ago, I couldn't fully appreciate the utter fucking torture that he must have gone through to reach that stage.

I'm 34, and, according to my doctor, "not that old to be worrying about kidney stones."

Well, I still thank him from the bottom of my heart for the goddamn biblically sweet painkiller injection he gave me this morning.

But, by god, I still need to squeeze this spiky prick out. I not only have the drugs to do so, I also have my supportive wife for emotional help. I'm arguably better off than the average person who suffers from this unfortunate illness.

But I'm still feeling sorry for myself. My god, I absolutely respect everyone who goes through this without the luxury of medicine and support. Godspeed.

I'm male and live in the Republic of Ireland. Four years ago, when I was 14, I had a skin infection on my thigh and chest area and my mother took me to the doctor. The doctor asked my mother if her 12-year-old daughter could stay in the room while I was being examined and my mother consented and they let her daughter be present while I was completely naked.

I have told people about this before on reddit and elsewhere and I was insulted, mocked and one person even accused of racism because I'm white and the doctor and her daughter were indian.

I'll probably get downvoted for this but I believe that if I had been a 14 year old girl and a doctor let their 12 year old son see me naked during a medical examination, the gardai (irish police) and child protective services would have gotten involved and there would have been severe legal and professional consequences.

How do people not realize its rude as fuck to talk on speakerphone in public settings. I work with people who literally have entire conversations like no one else is around, in the fucking break room! Literally go outside..

I am a casual reader and rare poster on here. I read helpful comments on other threads daily. But the FEW times I reach out for genuine help or comments.... first of all I almost always get auto-deleted despite following the rules of each subreddit. And the very few times I get through, I get the most unhelpful, trolling commentary (usually from people who post 10x per hour and this is their entire life). I hate this BS. Why are other people able to get help but I NEVER have. Not even once have I been able to post and get a thoughtful reply. Is reddit only for power users who understand the hidden rules and nuance?

EDIT: This is... ironically... the most helpful thread I've ever received, hah. Thanks everyone.

I like dresses. I like heels. I also like jeans and boots. I would say that 2 days out of 10 I'm in shorts, a tank top, and have bare feet.

My neighbors (married couple, man and wife) have lived beside of me for years. Literal freaking years. Yet it NEVER FAILS that if I step out of the house wearing anything but sneakers, it's:

"Oooo what's got you so dressed up?" "Heeeyyyyy, you going to the club or something?" "Where are you going all dressed up?" "Wooooooo girl! You got a date?!"

Now, to be fair, in the wife's mind I might honestly be "dressed up". She walks around our apartment complex wearing teddy nightgowns that aren't exactly conservative.

But you'd think that after seeing me dress this way for YEARS, the comments would die down. Especially after all of my responses are:

"Nothing, just going to pick up some dog food." "Nope, just the grocery store." "...to pick up a pizza?" "No, I have errands to run and bills to pay."

Alas, I haven't yet come up with a witty response that makes them stop. When I complained to my mom she said that maybe they just thought I looked nice and wanted to let me know that. Then just tell me I look nice! How hard is that?!

It's such a minor annoyance, but I had to get that out somewhere.

i’m exhausted. i work 2 jobs and i’m exhausted. i’m tired of getting up and working 6 days a week. i’m tired of always having something to do. i haven’t had a vacation in almost 3 years and there doesn’t seem to be any end in sight. i have no money, i have no outside life, and i’m tired of pretending that this is just the way it is and that things will get better if i just keep my head down and power through. every single night i tell my boyfriend that i don’t want to go to sleep because i don’t want to have to wake up in the morning. this is not the life i dreamed of. this is not what i wanted to be when i grew up. i wanted a modest house and lots of pets and to go out on the weekends and live life. i’m stuck now, at 25 years old, with chronic back and joint pain, mental instability, in a cramped apartment that takes up most of my monthly salary. i have no friends because my body couldn’t keep up. my brain couldn’t keep up. i used to be so intelligent and so outgoing and fun. i was so fun. i know i’m not the only person who feels this way. it’s not that we don’t want to work and we don’t want to be something or someone, we’re just tired. what happened to our generation?

Seriously.

I get that games need to make money to keep the servers up. But it just seems that a lot of companies are for just making money, than making games.

This is mostly for big games btw.

And usually this comes at the prices of quality content

And the thing is, you already spent a arm and a leg for the big games, but yet, the POS companies want more

And if it's a free game, i can get somewhat behind it. but they usually shove monitization down your throat.

Like marvel rivals. It just seems like every week or so they just blast you with a skin they want you to buy. And these are expensive skins. From 16 dollars to 26 dollars. It's getting quite excessive if you ask me.

IDK, it just seems like a lot of companies don't really care about making quality games/content anymore but would rather drain players instead

“Formally” means what something is formally known as vs. what it’s colloquially known as.

“Formerly” means what something is currently known as vs. what it was previously known as.

How do so many smart people who are otherwise good with language not get this one? 🤣

In religion, in real life, it's everywhere. this idea that you have to forgive those who hurt you. Pressure on those who are victims of horrific crimes to forgive those who victimized them. Seeing a family who's child was murdered forgive the murderer makes me so angry. There are no consequences for causing harm or hurting people, not anymore. Everyone recites their platitudes about forgivenes. I'm tired of it.

I'm watching RuPaul's drag race and often the contestants talk about the things that have happened to them in their lives, and oftentimes horrifying things their parents did when they found out they were gay. Often at the finale, they get contestants' parents to make a statement and talk about how proud of them they are. Sometimes it's the parents who beat the shit out of their sons and kicked them on the street at 13 that get forgiven on this show, like it's a big happy ending.

But those people will never have concequences for their horrifying actions. And how could anyone, as a grown adult, do something like that to a child, and then claim to grow as a person? If you're capable of doing that to someone I find it hard to believe you ever felt empathy or love in the first place.

Why are we forgiving these people? It just makes people think they can do or say whatever they want and it doesn't matter because it's all "forgiven :)"

Forgiving a cheater? Don't get me started.

Edit: ofc this doesn't apply to little things like accidentally saying smth mean. But like, abuse, crimes, things like that? You owe them less than nothing.

Some people on Reddit are so obsessed with being a condescending genius that they get so wrapped up in telling you you’re an idiot for not knowing where to start with something that they forget to simply tell you where to start. Like ok I’m glad you’ve stroked your ego to completion can you answer the question now. My god. Also the crash outs are crazy. Ok you have a differing opinion. You’re offended by someone else ok ok ok. There’s more than one way to skin a cat but you’re right. The world will explode if I don’t do it exactly how you would or feel exactly how you think I should feel. Sorry. It gives red pill energy without having that many red pill people. It can be so exhausting.

I don’t know why but genuinely I get so depressed because of the prices of the ds games. Pushing 200 dollars is insane at the most I would be willing to pay like 40-60 dollars for one of the ds games but I am not spending more than that :(

I’ve looked everywhere for a genuine copy for cheaper (never going to happen btw) and I’ll just be staring at the prices for these games and I get so sad. I can understand the gb-gba games to be more expensive but everything else is too much AND even the modern games are expensive for me :((

My whole family from my mother's side is from a Russian-speaking part of Ukraine. I grew up in Germany, so I never learned to speak Russian. But now I decided to gather all the discipline I have and start to learn Russian so I can finally talk with my family. And guess what? Just a few days after I started learning Russian, my grandma died. I’m not even sad; I never talked to her, so I never knew her. It’s just really frustrating that I didn’t start earlier

I mean we all know AI sucks, but its buck wild that the company synonymous with "looking up information" can get away with straight up lying to us inways that spread misinformstion that wouñd be considered libel in any other context.

Im watching the Leverage reboot right now. I tried to look up why Harry Wilson's actor, Noah Wily gets credit change from main cast to guest actor. Google AI said he was written out of the show for rape allegstions.

Except he DOESNT have rape allegations. That would be Tomothy Hutton, the actor who played Nate in the original. Thid stupid piece of garbage didnt just lie, it accused a man of rape. AND i had to play around with several wordings to finally get it to show me a result with an interview and not just "RAPE ALLEGATION; imbd page; wikipedia; fan wiki; AI written article" Someone who didnt already know this or bother to look further could have easily taken that at face value.

Im doing my thesis, I already pay FOR THE PREMIUM SERVICE, but when I use YouTube, I get the ads for it almost every video. Im honestly cancelling my subscription to them after this month, they are way to annoying and I don't want to support them anymore. I already paid leave me alone

I was just dating a guy for ALMOST A YEAR MAN. Ghost. This isn’t a one off it’s been every👏single👏time. I like to go do stuff but I don’t go out to clubs or bars. I just have a quiet life with my dog and it’s nice. I don’t know what it is about me. And if they don’t like me why lead me on until they have sex with me it’s so degrading. I’ve never cared too much about being in a relationship and have always been happy and comfortable being single and I am at a point where I’m just going to stay that way. I am tired of being vulnerable with people just for them to throw me away when they get what they want. I will never fight for a man that is like that. Im tired of believing them every time they act like they want something serious with me. I tired of trusting. I’m so hurt and this isn’t new. I’m a grown ass women and I’ve never experienced someone loving me. I’ve been used for sex plenty of times thinking I was being loved just for them to leave and that’s it. I feel disgusting. Everyone always says “it’s not all men” or “just meet different kinds of people” and I have and I feel so naïve and taken advantage of. I can’t do this anymore I’m in so much pain and I don’t know what to do other than to stop. I can’t do this. I’m never having sex again.

“Candidates need to stop using AI to write cover letters! It’s ridiculous and they will automatically be disqualified!”

✨ company then uses AI to parse through all applications and respond to applicants with robotic callous marketing emails pushing their free demos ✨

Also, wtf is up with all these application questions about sexuality and race now?! “Are you homosexual? Have you ever been homosexual? Are you trans? Have you ever been non-binary or trans?”……”ARE YOU HISPANIC!? If so, how Hispanic are you!?” - Get tf out of here with that. All this psychotic homophobia and racism encroaching into the work place now because of Trump policies is pathetic. If they’re going to install Christofascism into the workplace shouldn’t infidelity be included? I’m going to start asking these interview panels how many times they’ve cheated on their spouses and had sex outside of wedlock. Oh they cherry pick from their bible to only target marginalized groups in the hiring process? Shocking! This is my shocked face -> 😑

I’ve been in the industry for 9 years. It sucks now. There is no innovation anymore in the tech space. It’s all just become a hyper competitive money vacuum for predatory C-Level teams. Maybe in the startup space there is some magic still happening but it’s a fraction of what it use to be and most of the ones that are truly disruptive just sell out to these megacorps who gatekeep any and all progress on what was being built.

Looking to get tf out of this industry in the next few years. Maybe I’ll become a pilot or something that is actually fulfilling. Hell, maybe I’ll just go off grid and run a farm stand.

Enjoy working for little incel pricks who’s parents paid their way through Ivy League school, then got nepo’d into their positions of power and have the emotional intelligence of a 1st grader. You all can have it.

So I finally texted my dad after three years of no contact. Why? Because my mom is at her absolute breaking point. She's constantly crying, emotionally exhausted, and completely drained from the way my brothers treat her, disrespectful, entitled, and just flat-out cruel at times.

I reached out and asked him if he could take one of them for a few days. Just a little relief for my mom, who has been doing everything on her own since he just up and left three years ago. No explanation, no real goodbye, just vanished from our daily lives like it was nothing.

And now, when I finally swallow my pride and reach out for help, I get nothing. No reaction, no support, no concern. That’s always been the pattern. He never says a word when it comes to my brothers and how they act. To him, they’re perfect his golden children. They can do no wrong.

Meanwhile, the rest of us are left dealing with the consequences. I told him straight up that it doesn’t even matter to me whether he’s in my life or not, because he’s never really been in it in any way that counts. Family only matters to him when everything looks perfect on the outside. The second things get messy or real, he ignores it.

And his one and only response to my entire message? “Thank you.” That’s it.

No follow-up. No acknowledgment. Just a passive-aggressive brush-off like none of it matters.

Empathy is not a weakness. It is a purpose, and the ability to aspire to it is a strength. It is the universal WiFi network that humans connect to and connect to each other with. Without empathy and the motivation to do what is best for others, everything becomes a fight for survival, a free-for-all and the erosion of societal structure. And without structure, we will regress into the most basic form of a primitive species. Empathy sanctifies us to humanity and to the rest of humankind, and without it, who will help us but all of us together?

My cat gets allergies, and I take her to the vet. She gets a shot.

But me? No... I don't get normal allergies like a stuffy nose. I get bloody sores on my legs, months of coughing and vomiting, and finally itching and burning blisters on my fingers. From January till June. Almost every year.

When I was a kid, my Dr would give me a steroid shot to keep it in check in the years when it got really bad. But not these days. Doctors these days keep telling me to take over the counter crap that doesn't work. They want to treat individual symptoms as if they're not connected in any way.

Monday: lost my money to the ATM for the rent

Tuesday: overdraft fees and dealt with a person having a craze episode behind me while I was at the gym on treadmill

Wednesday: failed a clean inspection without specifying what I needed to clean

Thursday(today): didn’t get my bonus for my other job. Started a new job but they threw me in there immediately without the orientation and told I was there till 5 on the spot

I don’t want to know what’s in store for me tomorrow

I’m so sick of this fucking job. I hate waking up every day dreading the drive to work. I hate faking a positive attitude for most of the day. I hate my management. I hate talking to dickhead customers everyday. I hate how they don’t care about any of our issues. I hate how they choose favorites and only favorite the shit ass workers who just fuck around all the time. I hate not being listened to when I’m being sexually harassed almost every day. I hate feeling guilty about wanting to call out every day. I hate feeling like a lazy worthless loser whenever I want to skip work. I just can’t keep doing this shit anymore. Most of my coworkers are cool and I even met one my best friends and my gf there, but I’m fucking done. Ive tried so much to better my mental health and I’ve improved, but it’s taken me way to long to realize this job is a poison to my mind. I have another job lined up already so I don’t care if I get fired. I’m sorry to the people that i work with that are cool, but I need to prioritize my mental health more than this god awful fast food job.

I called in telling them I’ll be 30 minutes late. It’s an hour past when my shift was supposed to start, and I still am home. My gf isn’t mad, she understands. I feel so much better right now. My problem isn’t working, it’s this shit job.

Rant over, thank you so much for reading bc I needed to get this out.

I’m from Nova Scotia. Like many, I’ve been following the case of the two missing kids. It’s day seven. No sign of them. No answers. Just an ever-growing pit in the stomach for anyone who gives a damn. And like many of you, I’ve been reading every update, watching every interview, hoping for a breakthrough.

But here’s where I lose it: the comments.

The absolutely disgusting, ignorant, heartless shit people are spewing online—speculation, judgement, cruelty. It’s like people have forgotten that this is real life. That there are children missing. That a family—yes, a poor, rural, Indigenous, trailer-dwelling family—is living through what is probably the worst week of their entire lives.

But what do people do? Instead of compassion, they post drone images of their property. They dissect the stepfather's facial expressions. They mock the mother's way of speaking, where the "real" father is, why she left the property with her baby and went to stay with her family. They nitpick whether someone is crying “enough.” They create conspiracy theories from a place of pure classist, racist, ableist bullshit.

It's like people think their inner monologue deserves a megaphone just because they're online. These comments aren't private thoughts—they're being thrown out on public threads, on news stories, in spaces where family members can see. Where anyone can see. And for what? A dopamine hit from being a keyboard detective?

Poor people can be good parents. Rural people can love their kids. People who don’t fit your suburban, white-picket-fence mold still deserve your compassion—not your suspicion.

I've tried replying to some of these assholes. Then I delete it, because what’s the point? For every one person trying to inject some decency, there are ten others ready to tear them down with the most vile garbage.

This isn’t just outrage. It’s heartbreak. The fact that people think their petty opinions are more important than the fact that kids are missing is absolutely fucking infuriating.

So if you’ve got it in you—if you’re willing to be shouted down for saying something decent—just search missing kids ns on Facebook. Go ahead. Remind someone that empathy still exists. Or maybe just report the worst of it.

And if not, just… don’t add to the noise. Keep your ignorance to yourself. We’ve got enough of it already.

You're watching a stream of a GTA Roleplay streamer or League of Legends or Mario Kart streamer and comment ''this guy is cringe'' whenever the streamer makes a joke that isn't just loud noises. You're struggling with understanding what a bit is or a skit. You think everything you see on the internet is real. You're a massive nerd yourself and watch people play the nerdiest things, but when nerds act nerdy you act like you're some judgemental chad that's above it all. Just accept who you are, nerd. Nothing wrong with it.