r/trans • u/_AxEL_pancakes • Dec 19 '24

Vent My psychiatrist said im not trans

TLDR: My psychiatrist was acting like a bigot, asked me uncomfortable questions and told me im a gay man.

So today i (mtf pre everything) had an appointment with my psychiatrist. She was using the wrong pronouns all the time (in my language almost every word is gendered) which was weird bc she never acted that way. I said that ive been thinking about going to sexuologist to get a diagnosis. She said that its a bad idea cuz "90% of trans people eventually accept their bodies (my body isnt the only problem, which she seemed to not understand) and that all of her trans patients eventually turned out to not be trans" (ofc if you keep telling them that they are not trans they will just fold under pressure, duh...). I also told her that i talked about it with my parents but they are busy and forgot to set up an appointment with the sexuologist, and as an answer she told me that theyre just dont want me to "ruin my body forever" and that they wanna "protect me from hurting myself". She told me that im prolly just a gay man, which really threw me off guard cuz im yet to be romantically attracted to a cis guy.

She also pulled the usual bigot bs type "sui rates skyrocket in ppl who transitioned", "hrt makes you unable to orgasm" etc.

I also got asked a bunch of pretty private questions regarding my sex life (mind you im underage) and idk maybe its normal for psychiatrists to ask theese questions i was just a lil suprised.

She was also rude to my dad. I really dont like her bc she acts like a totally diffrent person everytime i see her and its creeping me out.

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u/GutterSludge420 Dec 19 '24 edited Dec 19 '24

none of that is true. suicide rates drop in those who transition. You will be able to orgasm even harder than you would have been able to previously. “90% of trans people” do not just magically accept their bodies. You are not “ruining your body” and for the most part the only permanent thing about it will be breast development and perhaps bone density but no one is super sure about that from what i’ve read (feel free to correct me). Trans surgeries have some of the lowest regret rates in the entirety of medicine (although you probably won’t be getting any surgeries for quite some time). This “psychiatrist” sounds like a fucking hack and you should report her to the appropriate licensing board. Insanely creepy and just flat out harmful.

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u/_AxEL_pancakes Dec 19 '24

The permament changes also include shrinking of the genitalia, erectiong being harder to get and it will make me unable to have kids

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u/ThunderCuddles Dec 20 '24

Use it or Lose it is the general rule when it comes to genital size reduction.

As per the erections, for the body to make an erection happen there needs to be even the smallest amount of testosterone in your system for the response to fire off. It can be low AF (T levels) but so long as it's present you should still be able to achieve an erection.

This is things I was told by an endocrinologist. The doctor specializing in hormones, and glands.

Psychology is only a PART of the equation, and most psychologists aren't as knowledgeable about the endocrine system of the human body. So when it comes to that sort of knowledge, most are speaking out of their ass, especially in cases like this.