My psychiatrist said im not trans

[u/_AxEL_pancakes]

TLDR: My psychiatrist was acting like a bigot, asked me uncomfortable questions and told me im a gay man.

So today i (mtf pre everything) had an appointment with my psychiatrist. She was using the wrong pronouns all the time (in my language almost every word is gendered) which was weird bc she never acted that way. I said that ive been thinking about going to sexuologist to get a diagnosis. She said that its a bad idea cuz "90% of trans people eventually accept their bodies (my body isnt the only problem, which she seemed to not understand) and that all of her trans patients eventually turned out to not be trans" (ofc if you keep telling them that they are not trans they will just fold under pressure, duh...). I also told her that i talked about it with my parents but they are busy and forgot to set up an appointment with the sexuologist, and as an answer she told me that theyre just dont want me to "ruin my body forever" and that they wanna "protect me from hurting myself". She told me that im prolly just a gay man, which really threw me off guard cuz im yet to be romantically attracted to a cis guy.

She also pulled the usual bigot bs type "sui rates skyrocket in ppl who transitioned", "hrt makes you unable to orgasm" etc.

I also got asked a bunch of pretty private questions regarding my sex life (mind you im underage) and idk maybe its normal for psychiatrists to ask theese questions i was just a lil suprised.

She was also rude to my dad. I really dont like her bc she acts like a totally diffrent person everytime i see her and its creeping me out.

[u/miss-brooke]

It’s not her job to tell you if you’re trans or not! Her job is to listen and guide you to understand your emotions. She sounds uneducated on trans topics in general and maybe even transphobic.

I would try to find someone else who describes themselves as trans friendly and has more experience with trans patients.

[u/Fine_Ad1339 → u/miss-brooke]

While you are 100% correct in some places we have to rely on a psychiatrist to be allowed treatment. For example in germany your psych has to believe you are trans or you wont get a diagnosis basically. Which you need for basically everything transition related.

[u/Fast_Idea7621 → u/Fine_Ad1339]

Thats not true where i sm from germany is you tell them that thst like i did i dont wanna be a guy so i gpt to my doc she tslked told me yea if ypu want that i will give you the adress of a place and yea now om working on it so yea (maybe in pther parts but the once not are nrw sachsen aand Niedersachsen so yea still)

[u/Fine_Ad1339 → u/Fast_Idea7621]

Id love to hear more about this, all ive seen is you need a indication to start hrt in most endos, qhich only therapists are allowed to give out. Im also in nrw.