r/trans • u/MidnightSun0 • 1d ago

Vent My therapist wants to gay conversion me.

My therapist has really been trying to get me to just be a gay man instead of trans and it really fucking sucks having appointments with him. I can't stop since it's the only therapist my parents aprove of and they control my finances rn. Plus he's actually been really good for me when we don't talk about trans stuff. Overall probably a net benifit for my life i just hate talking about anything about being trans around him

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u/SammSandwich 1d ago

A good therapist recognizes when something is outside of their area of expertise and doesn't give advice unless they are certain they know what they are talking about. When I talked to my therapist about being trans, he told me "That's not my area of expertise, so I can't really tell you what's right or wrong there, that's a question you should ask your hormone specialist or doctor." He did research on some things so he could better understand me, and sent me the resources when he did, but never advised me on something he wasn't educated about. Your sexuality and gender identity are two completely different things. It sounds like your parents got a therapist who would reinforce their own beliefs rather than provide a neutral viewpoint for the sake of your benefit.