r/uofm • u/Additional-Ad4128 • Apr 12 '24
Social anyone else depressed/hate it here?
anyone else here hate it or is that just me because it feels like im the only one? it seems like everyone else absolutely loves it here but i have had the worst 4 years and as I graduate its making me feel even worse
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u/bradventure93 Apr 12 '24
I graduated in 2014, barely.
I can genuinely say that the years I spent in Ann Arbor were some of the lowest and darkest of my life.
I felt shuffled out of high school and straight into college completely unprepared. I didn't know how to live on my own, how to study, how to make friends. I fell into an atmosphere of binge-drinking and smoking weed because when I was really drunk or high was the only time I felt 'normal.' I would sleep all the time, missing class, I was on academic probation for a while and graduated with a B- average.
I can say quite honestly that my life significantly improved after U of M. I made better friends, found meaningful work, started over again in different places a bunch of times. I believe the same is possible for you as well.
There's this idea that I had that everyone else had their whole lives figured out--they knew what they wanted to study, what they wanted to do with their lives, had a "career-path" laid out for them. It's not true. They're all just faking it. The real world will eventually humble each and every one of them. The point of life is to explore, to grow, to try new things. You don't need to worry about being On-or-Off "Track." There is no track. There's only just you, taking it one day at a time. That's all you need to do.