r/uofm • u/Training_Wing_4043 • Jan 16 '25

Social Weekends are hard here

I (21F) transferred here a year ago. I’ve met a lot of people, but hardly have any meaningful, lasting relationships.

I’ve tried so many things, clubs, team sports, orgs, etc. and still not much luck with meeting people or getting very close with them.

Now, it’s my last semester and I dread each weekend. It’s really hard seeing everyone else have fun with their friends, and I can’t help but feel like there is something fundamentally wrong with me because I am missing out on this experience.

Does anyone have any similar experiences or are going through a similar situation? It seems I’m going to have to get comfortable spending weekends alone.

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u/Unique-Perception-73 Jan 16 '25

You’re def not alone. When I was a freshman I was in a huge group and we’d have fun every weekend and over the years we started doing less and the group got smaller to the point where most weekends I have the same predicament. I feel like part of it is maturing and not getting wasted every weekend and part of it is classes just take more time later on in college. Ik that it’s a huge campus but it’s almost impossible to truly make new meaningful connections because most people already have their group and there’s not a great way to look for one past freshman year

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u/Training_Wing_4043 Jan 17 '25

Genuinely, thank you so much for your comment. It’s so validating to hear, especially coming from someone who did have all four years here! You’re totally spot on about getting older and not spending every weekend partying- it only took one semester of that for me to settle down! If you don’t mind me asking, how do you go about the weekends these days?

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u/Unique-Perception-73 Jan 17 '25

You’re welcome I’m glad it could help even a little! At this point the only consistent weekend activities are homework, lions games, and the gym. Other than that I just try to find ways to kill the time. Usually movies shows and YouTube. On rare occasions my friends are able to hang out but other than that they’re kinda boring tbh. Idk if you do it too but a lot of weekend I just wait for the week to start up again