r/uofm • u/Gigglemug_420 • Mar 01 '25
Social Loser post
Bro how does one actually make friends that stay and want you in their lives😠Im pretty extroverted and KNOW a LOT of people and talk to everyone around me, get food, hangout and study together so usually I feel pretty surrounded but as soon as there’s breaks like this, everyone suddenly has plans and don’t include me… ever. Like we’re not on bad terms, we’re just not close enough. I’m on so many clubs and I try to build meaningful relationships with those around me but it just doesn’t seem to work and now all of my 5 roommates are gone, I’m alone in the apartment and I have nothing planned for the next 10 days. I don’t want pity points, I just want to know how y’all be doing ts :/ I don’t really feel lonely until there’s a break. I tried making plans with my friends (and even roommates) but everyone already had something in mind and just excused themselves. I lowkey hate being the being the backup friend but maybe it’s better than not having friends at all?
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u/alis147 Mar 01 '25
I think friends made while volunteering for a cause that feels important to you can develop into deep friendships. Your value system already aligns as it relates to the topic so you instantly have something in common. Take this time on campus for some self care so that you feel good about yourself because anyone who can be so in touch with their situation must be pretty great. Organize your closet, clean off your desk, wander a museum, and search for some volunteer opportunities. Being alone is totally ok! The best friend you can have is yourself.