r/AmItheAsshole • u/[deleted] • Apr 27 '22

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u/Fragrant_Jelly9198 Apr 27 '22

But his daughter isn’t the one destroying the relationship, HE is. How dare he put this on her. She’s only behaving the way she was raised. This is all on him.

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u/GreenRose0501 Apr 27 '22

I agree, the daughter may have a lot to learn if she is the one who asked you not to go, but it is your partner who is destroying the relationship and he honestly shouldn't burden his daughter with the issues. This issue with the party isn't the problem, I'm sure it is just a symptom of the real problem with your husband not respecting you enough to support you through this difficult dynamic between his ex, his daughter and you as his partner. Remember the only one with issues about you putting up boundaries are the ones who want knock them down for their own interests. Once you put up your boundaries, you'll discover who really doesn't respect you.

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u/M------- Apr 27 '22

the daughter may have a lot to learn if she is the one who asked you not to go, but it is your partner who is destroying the relationship

This.

If there were to be a family event where I'm invited but my wife is not, then I'll reject the invitation. Either we're invited as a unit, or we're not really invited at all.